Q&A for How to Steal a Girl from Her Boyfriend

She shouldn't tell her boyfriend. Chances are she wouldn't because she'd be too conflicted about her feelings. If she told him, that's a sign that she's still leaning towards staying with him. She trusts him. It's possible he can come after you.

If you tried to kiss her, stop trying. You may find a better opportunity in the future. Chances are good you won't be able to pursue her beyond this point, though. Start paying more attention to other girls in the meantime.

What does the other guy have that she likes? You can improve yourself, using that as guidance if it is helpful. You should however still maintain yourself. Be confident and focus your attention on girls around her while still opening communication with her.

Most don't avoid boys. Some girls uncomfortable around boys. They may be shy or have bad experiences. You have to be gentle and patient.

That she hangs out with you instead of him is a good sign. Make sure you're flirting with her and showing her his flaws. Another concern is if you're in the friend zone. Make sure she's not simply using you as a warm body to dump her relationship problems on.

Keep your distance as a friend. Set boundaries so that she doesn't come to you to talk about her relationship. Meanwhile, impress other girls in front of her. Continue talking to her and flirting with her. Don't try to impress her.

Only you can judge the room. Is she responsive to your flirting? If you think a kiss would work, go for it. You can also go for it regardless to create confusion, but this is risky and could be offensive to her.

In the unlikely event he has no flaws (or more likely, they aren't ones that are hurting her right now or she refuses to see them), there's nothing you can do. It's a better approach to step back. Create some distance and make her jealous by doing well with other girls.

Fight hard to get out of the friend zone. Try to flirt with her and build attraction. At this point though it's very likely you're stuck in the friend zone and should focus on other girls. Hopefully she sees this and feels a little jealous.

You can get to know her while they're around, but don't reveal too much about your intentions. It's better to spend time with her alone. That way she'll focus on you and her friends can't turn her mind against you.

Perform these same steps, but still be respectful. Never talk badly about him or try to fight him.

You can push the issue if you think you have a chance. Flirt hard with her if she's receptive. It's risky though and you may get better results having good experiences with other girls and allowing her to see that. Show her that you don't need her.

Build up your communication then flirt with her. It's helpful to talk to her by using your voice, such as over the phone or on webcam. If she has a boyfriend, you can undermine that relationship by uncovering his flaws.

This is not what you want to do. You're better served flirting with her but showing to her that you don't need her. Don't give her all the power. Save this kind of emotional display for when you're in a relationship.

Get to know her. Start by talking to her. Learn how to approach a girl. This is a tricky step that many struggle with, but it involves being confident and interesting, keeping conversation flowing with open-ended questions.

Shy people can easily fall into the friend zone trap. It would help if you have some self-confidence to rely on, which may be done through exercise, taking speech classes, dressing well, or spending time with a hobby. It's important for you to be able to communicate with her and influence her emotions and behavior, which requires stepping out of your comfort zone into a leadership role. Whatever you do, remember not to spend all your attention directly on her. Still be a very independent and intriguing person.

You'll have to make a concerted effort to get out of the friend zone. Do follow the steps above, but indicate that you're not there for the sake of her dumping her problems on you.

Find something organic. It can be something she's doing, like asking about the coffee she's drinking. It can be a common situation, like last night's homework. It can be a funny story you know, something you saw online yesterday, or anything else. What you should do with this is keep it brief and keep the conversation flowing as long as you need.

Being nice is the problem. She's using you as a fallback when things go wrong with her relationship. Next time, don't give in to her. Tell her she has to fend for herself as long as she chooses to stay with him.

This is up to you. If you're fine with that, then go ahead. If you have feelings for her and have followed all these steps, let her go for now. Step away and involve yourself with other pursuits an other girls.