Q&A for How to Turn a Guy On

Ask him plenty of questions about his life, hobbies, interests, family, and job. Understand why he likes what he likes, and try your best to appreciate his unique interests.

Try having an open, honest conversation about his needs. Believe it or not, you can turn guys just by making an effort to understand their needs and wants.

The truth is, someday it will hurt you. If he stops having sex with you when he finds someone else, you will be heartbroken. You're a booty call. It's all up to you, but try to stop what you're doing before you get your feelings hurt.

Kiss his neck, run your fingers through his hair, run your hands up and down his spine, start with taking his shirt off and see if he goes with it.

Just keep getting to know him. Take it slow, then eventually try and slip it into a conversation.

Move on with your life.

If he's your boyfriend, that's a good sign he likes you. If you're still unsure, you could just ask him how he feels.

He wants you to be bold and make the first move. If he says it's up to you, then make the first move, and ask for consent periodically to make sure what you're doing is OK.

Just tell him you want to try different positions.

Ask any mutual friends if he talks about you. Ask for his social media names, like SnapChat, and try sending flirty snaps, or plan a day to just "hang out" and act flirty. Touch his forearm, make a lot of eye contact, and laugh at his jokes.

It's always a little awkward to have these conversations, but it's important to be honest so that you can get what you want. Next time you're in an intimate situation, just say something like, "You know what would really turn me on?" Then tell him your fantasy. Most guys are happy to hear about their partner's sexual wants/needs.

You can tell them that you love them, or if you want to use physical gestures, hand-holding, looking into their eyes, and hugging are all ways to show someone you love them.

Ask people who have kissed you. Your current partner might be inclined to lie to make you happy, but I bet your former partners would be honest.

Ask him to hang out. Invite him to your house, or to a friend's house if you think they'd be cool enough to leave you guys alone, or subtly try to get him to invite you to his house.

The best thing to do is just tell him how you feel. If you're too shy to do that, you can try some subtle flirting. Smile at him, laugh at his jokes, make a lot of eye contact, and touch him on the arm or hand while you're talking to him.

Talk to him to figure out if he really is, ask what is going on and discuss together to try to find the best solution. Normally, relationships have ups and downs, meaning that sometimes you or your partner might doubt if this is really what you want. Talking it through is always better than wondering.

It would be better to find a more private, intimate setting where you won't be disturbed by others.

Talk to him about it, but don't overdo it either. People in public don't want to see couples with their tongues down each other's throat. If he doesn't want to do it, initiate with small cheek kisses or such.

Wait. The person will come eventually, and It will all feel right. Forcing it now will make it less exciting.

First break the touch barrier. Touch more places gradually and soon enough you should be fine.

You do not attempt to seek the type of relationship he's telling you he is not ready for. If he says he needs to heal and change things in his life, believe him. Both of you need to want it. However, you can ask if there's anything you can do to help with his process. Similarly, you can ask "if that's not how you see me, at least right now, can you tell me how you see me fitting into your life?" He may not see you. He may see a friend. He may even see you with hope that you can wait for him. Even if he hopes for more, if he's not ready, do not push him. Respect that.

You say you love the man, and you may very well, but what you have described here is lust. You have to ask yourself some questions. Was celibacy a commitment or an excuse because you never felt attraction before? A vow of celibacy will be tested - is this a mere test? Is it important? Is it still who you are? Was it a journey for your growth to bring you to this new opportunity for growth with another? Only you can answer that. Remember that your answer is about you, not him. Find a quiet (internal) space and consult your soul. Once you know what you need to do, then you fit him into that picture.

He doesn't like you. If he liked you, he would like you all the time. You are convenient for him. He will continue to give you just enough to get you to stay, be available for play, and discard you when he's done. It is your choice whether you want to be used, to slip away quietly, or confront him about his terrible public behaviour toward you. There's no good choice, but it's called "the right choice," not "the perfect choice." You have to make it.

You don't. You like yourself, be yourself, find someone whom you like, and then you take a chance in telling him you like him, or at least want to get to know him. Maybe he'll be intrigued, maybe he won't be, but the only thing you can control is you. This article is about influence, not force. You can't force it. But nobody is going to really care about your age. They don't need to know why you're nervous, only pick up that you are. And, with someone new, most of us are nervous. Besides, if he does like you, he'll be happy to "practice."

Yes! If it was a romantic/sexual dream, tell him all the details!