12 Subtle Signs That a Girl is Into You

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An expert guide on how to tell if a girl likes you and what to do about it
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Crushing on a girl but not sure how she feels about you? You’re in the right place! We put together the ultimate list of signs that a girl likes you so you can decode her cryptic behavior. Plus, we’ve got expert insight from dating coaches on how to tell how she feels, plus how to make a move. Let’s dive in.

If a girl likes you, she’ll probably maintain eye contact, touch you gently, and mirror your gestures and body language. She might also give you compliments, laugh at your jokes, text you, or like or reply to your social media posts.

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Signs She Likes You

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  1. If a girl likes you, she's likely to give you a lot of her attention. One way to tell if she's paying attention to you during conversation is eye contact . A girl who likes you will attempt to make eye contact throughout the conversation. [1]
    • If you feel the girl hold your eye contact longer than most people do, she may like you.
    • You may also notice the girl holds your gaze for a moment and then glances downward towards your chest before gazing up again, which could indicate that she’s attracted to you.
    • Also, try to see if she looks at you when you're not interacting with her. For example, maybe you see her glancing at you occasionally while you're on your lunch break or between classes.
    • Reader Poll: We asked 1784 wikiHow readers to tell us what the clearest indicator was that a girl liked them, and 51% said prolonged eye contact. [Take Poll] Every girl is different (and you shouldn’t assume she likes you unless she says so), but this could be a strong sign that she’s interested!
  2. If someone finds you attractive, they will want to touch you. Dating coach Imad Jbara emphasizes the importance of a tap on the arm during conversation, noting that playfulness can lead to passion. [2] You may find the girl makes excuses to get physically close to you. [3]
    • For example, she may sit close to you when you talk so your legs brush. She might also hug you when she sees you.
    • She may make excuses to touch you. For example, she may brush some lint off your shirt or fix your collar.
    • You may also notice her leaning in during conversation.
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  3. People tend to mimic the body language and gestures of people they're attracted to. Watch the girl when you interact and see if she imitates your body language. [4]
    • Compare your own posture to hers. If you're leaning back and crossing your legs, she may be doing something similar if she likes you.
    • Watch to see if she's mimicking any of your mannerisms. If you tend to gesture a lot when you talk, you may notice her doing the same.
  4. If a woman likes you, she will generally sound happy and excited when she sees and talks to you. You may also notice changes in her voice. Women often talk in a higher-pitched tone if they're interested in someone. Listen to see if her voice seems slightly higher when she's talking to you. [5]
  5. People often use an open posture to look welcoming to those they're attracted to. For example, she might keep her arms relaxed rather than crossed, stretch out her legs, or lean toward you. [6]
    • If her whole body is angled towards you slightly, this also indicates attraction.
    • However, some people get nervous talking to someone they like, which could prevent them from feeling comfortable with an open posture. If the girl crosses her arms or leans back, watch for other signs that she’s into you.
  6. If a girl likes you, she's likely to lavish you with a little praise. If her words aren’t about your physical appearance, that’s even better! Jbara suggests that compliments based on style or personality may be the most meaningful and thoughtful of all. [7] You tend to see someone's positive qualities more intensely if you like them, so, it’s natural for your crush may compliment you more frequently if she likes you in a romantic way. [8]
    • If she says she likes your voice, your clothing, or your personality, those are good indicators that she’s into the rest of you, too.
    • If you mention you have hockey practice that night, she may pay you a compliment about your athletic ability.
  7. If a girl is interested in you, she will want to get to know you better. During conversation, listen to the questions she asks you to gauge her interest. The more in-depth and personal her questions are, the higher the likelihood that she’s interested in being more than friends.
    • For example, she might ask, "Are you close to your family?" or “What’s your favorite way to spend the weekend?”
  8. If someone likes you, they’ll pay attention to you and offer to help you out when you need it. She might lend you her notes if you miss a class, or check in on you if you’re out sick.
    • If she likes you, she’ll remember things you told her and might bring them up in later conversations.
  9. Research suggests that attractive people often appear funnier to others, with both genders being more likely to initiate humorous exchanges and consider the other person more funny if they happen to find them attractive. Sharing a good laugh is a great way to gauge interest, even more so than good conversation and mutual interests. [9]
  10. If the girl is your friend or follower on sites like Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram, and often reacts to or comments on your post, it’s a good sign that she’s into you. [10]
    • Look at the context of the comments. Does it seem like she's trying to impress you a little? Are her comments more detailed than most? Does she try to make you laugh? If so, she may like you.
  11. If a girl likes you, she’ll probably reach out often. You may get texts throughout the day asking how you're doing and updating you on her day-to-day life. [11]
    • Sending you a lot of pictures also indicates that a girl likes you. She may text you pictures of herself and of what she's doing.
    • How quickly does she reply to you? A girl who likes you a lot will reply quickly.
    • Someone who texts you at night, especially just before bed, is probably thinking about you a lot. For example, she may text you something like, "Good night" each night before she goes to sleep. [12]
  12. If a girl uses a lot of emojis, pay attention to them. Flirtatious emojis, like winking faces, hearts, and smiley faces, may indicate attraction. [13]
    • However, pay attention to context. Not all emojis are flirtatious, so take note of the message attached when reviewing emojis.
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Expert Dating Advice on How to Make a Move

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    Be confident. Even if your crush shows all the tell-tale signs that she’s into you, you may still be nervous about approaching her due to insecurity, like the perception that she’s “out of your league.” Dating coach Suzanna Mathews wants you to shake off those anxieties and go forward in your pursuit. “Try to get rid of the limiting beliefs, negative automatic thoughts, and past relationship patterns,” she advises, noting that some of these patterns may have originated in childhood and should be dealt with prior to entering any serious relationship. [14]
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    Flirt with her. If you think she’s into you, flirt away! Mathews explains that the core of flirting is “simply playfulness.” She goes on to detail that it’s really just about having fun and building a connection. Even if that connection doesn't lead anywhere, both people will feel emotionally uplifted because they had a good time, which is worth taking the risk. “You could say little jokes, exchange witty banter—things like that,” she offers. [16]
    • Additionally, Mathews encourages you to remember the power of nonverbal communication when it comes to flirting, like giggling, touching, and maintaining a welcoming posture. [17]
    • Gopman is all for flirting, but doing so cautiously, tactfully, and respectfully. “Be aware of her expression,” she begins. “If she moves her leg right away when you touch it, that's a sign that she might not want you to continue touching at that time.” [18]
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    Ask her out. If she’s receptive to your flirting and you think she likes you, make your move! It’s as simple as saying something like, “Do you want to go out with me?” Or, “I like you and would love to take you out on a date.” If she agrees, plan a fun activity for the two of you to do together, and go have fun!
    • Dating coach Mark Rosenfield explains, “The best dates always involve movement….I'm a huge fan of…walks around rivers, walks through places you enjoy, exploring, anywhere that you just get really curious about that you would want to move around.” He suggests going to a mall, arcade, or bowling alley, or even grabbing takeout and eating on a park bench before walking around. [19]
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    Listen to what she has to say. Gopman says listening is one of the most important things you can do when it comes to dating. “Girls can tell if you're not really listening, which will hinder your connection,” she remarks. Instead of asking her the same questions you’d ask any date, try really listening and demonstrating it with thoughtful, engaging follow-up questions that let her know you want to be involved in her life. [20]
    • According to Gopman, something as seemingly small as calling to see how her big meeting went or how well they’re recovering after a cold can be very much appreciated and helps to demonstrate your interest and intention. [21]
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    Make her feel safe. Mathews emphasizes the need for women to feel safe in order to truly let someone in. “Many men don't understand how important it is for a woman to feel physically and emotionally safe, and how much safety is a top-of-mind concern for women when dating,” she remarks. [22]
    • Doing things like meeting her in a public place on a first date, walking her to her car afterwards, and respecting her boundaries when it comes to touch are all essential to building trust and making her feel secure.
    • Mathews adds, “You can get away with a lot as far as flirting and seduction if you have established that foundation of allowing a woman to feel safe first.” [23]
    • Gopman is a big advocate of always asking for consent. To make sure that they’re comfortable with physical touch, the best way is to simply ask. [24]
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How Do You Tell If Someone Likes You?


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How can you tell if a girl likes you?
WikiBandicootTrader459
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How do you know if someone likes you? There’s this girl at school I like, and I think she likes me, but I can’t really tell. I don’t want to ask her to be my girlfriend if she’s just going to say no. Do I ask her if she likes me over text? Or do I just look for big signs?
John Keegan
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One of the telltale signs that a girl likes you is that she’s paying a lot of attention to you. Sometimes that attention isn't necessarily what seems to be positive. A lot of girls like to tease, joke around, or make fun of guys they like when they flirt. Any kind of attention is a good thing.

Another big sign is if she asks you to hang out with her and her friends. Those are all good signs that someone obviously likes you as a person and it could turn into something more. Also, if she likes you, she’ll be more likely to compliment your clothes or hair style. She may even seek you out for advice or ask for help with her homework just as an excuse to talk to you.
WikiErmineSeeker308
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I realized that a girl liked me when she took an interest in the things I was interested in. It's normal for someone to ask you what your hobbies are and what you like reading/watching and stuff, but she went a step further and actually did those things too. Like when I told her I was reading a certain book, she went and read it so she could talk to me about it. When she found out I was in a club she also joined that club.
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      You can easily recognize hints that a girl likes you if you pay attention to her eye contact, body language, and the way she talks to you. For example, if she holds your gaze for longer than most people and looks at you a lot, she probably likes you. Notice if her body faces you when you hang out, which is a sign she’s interested in you. She’ll also probably touch your arm or chest when she laughs at your jokes. As well as watching her body language, recognize if she seems happy and excited to talk to you. Additionally, if she compliments you a lot, she probably wants you to know she likes you. For more tips, including how tell if a girl likes you from how she talks to you online, read on!

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