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Do you feel insecure about yourself or your relationship but worry about how your girlfriend will react if you tell her? You might be worried that expressing your insecurities will make you seem less confident or attractive, but everybody has insecurities, and they’re nothing to be ashamed of. Keep reading for advice on whether or not you should bring up your insecurities to your girlfriend and what to say if you do.
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QuestionHow can I talk about a sensitive subject with my partner?Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. She is the author of “Love Hacks: Simple Solutions to Your Most Common Relationship Issues” which details the top 15 relationship issues and 3 quick solutions to each. She is also the award-winning and best-selling author of “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and was a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida.Use the sandwich method! Start by mentioning something positive, and then transition to the more negative aspect of what you'd like to share. Finish up with another positive statement to round everything out.
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QuestionHow do you communicate with your partner when they don't want to talk?Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. She is the author of “Love Hacks: Simple Solutions to Your Most Common Relationship Issues” which details the top 15 relationship issues and 3 quick solutions to each. She is also the award-winning and best-selling author of “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and was a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida.Try to approach your partner with empathy. Say something like, "It sounds like this is a little overwhelming for you at times. What would help you to not feel like you have to run away from these arguments?" You could also ask questions like "Are you feeling like I'm not listening to you?" or "Can we have timeouts but then we resume the conversation?"
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- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-do-you-create-emotional-safety-in-your-relationships#how-to-create-it
- ↑ Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW. Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 11 June 2020.
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- ↑ Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW. Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 11 June 2020.
- ↑ Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW. Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 11 June 2020.
- ↑ https://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/help-relationships/feeling-unsatisfied-your-relationship/i-feel-insecure-my-relationship
- ↑ Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW. Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 11 June 2020.
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