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Did a girl just call you "babe," and you aren't sure what to say? We're here to break down what this means, whether you hear it from a friend, a crush, or a total stranger. Your reply will often change depending on your relationship with this girl, but we've got you covered no matter the case! Keep reading, and our handy guide will help you come up with the perfect response when a girl calls you "babe."
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What does it mean when a girl calls you babe?
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1She's being friendly. Some girls call people "babe" to show friendly warmth, not because they have a crush. Pay attention to her body language when she says "babe," and think about whether she says it to anyone else. If she casually calls all her pals "babe," she's saying it to you because she thinks you're a great friend.
- "OMG, my best friend is such a babe! You're killing it with that outfit!"
- "Hey babe! Wanna hang out this weekend?"
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2She finds you attractive. If a girl is attracted to you, she might say "babe" because she wants to date you or hook up. If she calls you "babe" while displaying seductive body language, she's probably trying to see if the attraction is mutual. This includes making intense eye contact, using a playful voice, smiling often, and tilting her head towards you as you talk. [1] X Research source
- "You look great today, babe. I love the way that shirt matches your eyes!"
- "I can't take my eyes off you, babe!"
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3She's crushing on you and using "babe" to test the waters. A girl will say "babe" when flirting to see if you like her back. Reflect on how she interacts with other friends to confirm that she's interested in you romantically. If you're the only one she calls "babe," it's because her feelings for you are deeper than friendship.
- "So, babe…did you miss me?"
- "Hi, babe. I've been looking forward to seeing you all week!"
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4She's giving you attention because you're her significant other. If you're already dating, "babe" signifies her growing attachment to you. It means she cares for you greatly and wants you (and the rest of the world) to know it. She might say "babe" when you're alone together to get your attention or among other people to show them you're taken.
- "How was your day, babe? Tell me everything."
- "Want to dance, babe? I love this song!"
Mark Manson, Dating CoachWhen a woman uses a pet name with you, it's often a test to see if you get rattled or weird about it. The best response is to either ignore it completely and continue the conversation, or to flip the frame and tease her back in a playful way.
How to Respond When You Don’t Know Her
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1"It's nice to meet you!" When a girl you've just met calls you "babe," she might be introducing herself in a friendly way or singling you out because she finds you attractive. Either way, introduce yourself and be polite; you'll quickly be able to tell by her body language whether she's flirting or making friends.
- "Hi! I'm Ryan. What's up?"
- "Hey! You certainly know how to get someone's attention. I'm Jessie!"
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2"That's not my name." If you don't like being called babe, you can politely call her out. She's probably not trying to be rude intentionally, but you're allowed to set boundaries for your comfort. Make it clear that you could be more comfortable if she didn't call you "babe," and give her your name if you haven't been introduced yet.
- "Hey, sorry, I'd prefer not to be called 'babe' when we've just met. My name is Ian!"
- To avoid potential awkwardness, you could make a joke. "Oh, you're talking to me? But my name isn't 'babe,' it's Elisa!"
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3Excuse yourself and leave. If you don't know her and you're uncomfortable being called "babe" by a stranger, it's okay to leave the area and go somewhere else. You don’t owe strangers an explanation, but if she wants a response, you could simply say that you have somewhere to be and you're in a hurry.
- "Sorry, I really have to run. It was nice to meet you!"
- "I have to catch the bus in a few minutes. See you around!"
How to Respond When You’re Just Friends
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1"Thank you, bestie!" If you're close friends and know she isn't calling you "babe" romantically, say something to show her how much you value her friendship. Use terms of endearment casually without displaying flirty body language so she can see that you're also being friendly. For example:
- Her : "Wow, you look like a babe in that shirt! You HAVE to get it."
- You : "You think so? Thanks, hon, you're the best!"
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2"Could you use my name, please?" It's okay to let her down gently when you're not interested in her. If you don't know her very well, you might be uncomfortable being called "babe." Or, you might want to stay friends rather than get romantically involved. [2] X Expert Source Julianne Cantarella
Dating & Relationship Coach Expert Interview. 6 August 2021. Even if you like her, you might prefer a different pet name. [3] X Research source Tell her honestly if you don't want her to call you "babe." It's far easier to be straightforward right off the bat.- "I appreciate the thought, but I'd be more comfortable if we just stuck to names."
- "Hey, you're a great friend, and I don't want that to change. Can you just call me by my name?"
- "I like the idea of pet names, but I don't think 'babe' is really my style. Let's try a different one!"
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3Ignore it. If you're not sure how you feel about her, you don't have to say anything. Just keep the conversation moving, sticking to friendly and casual subjects. Use her name when you have the chance, so she can see that she's still the only one using terms of endearment. This way, you'll have time to consider your feelings for her without hastily leaning one way or the other in conversation.
How to Respond When You Have a Crush
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1"Why did you call me 'babe?'" If she calls you that out of the blue, you might want to clarify why. It's normal to be unsure of your crush's feelings if you haven't openly discussed them yet. So, if a girl calls you "babe" and you're not sure why the easiest way to figure it out is to ask her. It might feel a little awkward, but at least you'll know where you stand after!
- "Do you mind if I ask why you called me that? I've never had a friend call me 'babe' before."
- "Oh, a pet name! What did I do to deserve that?"
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2"I liked the sound of that!" If the pet name made you happy, give her a positive response that encourages her to keep using it. Let her know that you don't mind being called babe, or just smile at her to show her you liked it. When a girl has feelings for you, this is also a subtle way to show her you feel the same.
- " Aw! That was music to my ears."
- "Wow, you've never called me that before! I like it. 😊"
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3"Yeah, babe?" Reciprocate if you like the pet name and have feelings for her. "Babe" is a versatile term of endearment because any gender can respond to it. So, go ahead and try calling her "babe," too. Remember to pay attention to the context in which she says "babe" so you can confirm that she's not just being friendly.
- "Two can play at that game! What's going on, babe?"
- "What's on your mind, babe? 😏"
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4"What was that? I might need you to say it again." If her body language is flirty, respond in kind to keep the banter going. Offer up some suggestive small talk—or even go for a cheeky pickup line to show her that you can give as good as you get.
- "Feel free to keep calling me 'babe' whenever you want! 😉"
- "‘Babe,' huh? I hope you know CPR because you just took my breath away!"
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5"Keep calling me that, and I'll start thinking you like me too!" When she calls you babe, she's likely interested in you, so let her know if you have feelings for her. Study her interactions with other friends first to ensure she's not calling anyone else "babe." Once you know that she's interested, progress the relationship by telling her how you feel.
- "I might be mistaken, but I feel like there's something between us, and I'm interested in seeing where it goes."
- "You're making me blush! I like you a lot, and I hope you feel the same."
How to Respond When You’re in a Relationship
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1"Hey there, sunshine!" Make her feel special by finding a unique pet name for her. This is especially important if you two start dating or flirting openly. A cute term of endearment shows her that you're happy with the relationship and have strong feelings for her. [4] X Research source
- "You called, gorgeous?"
- "What's up, buttercup?"
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2"Come here, sweetheart." She might say "babe" to get closer to you if you're in private. Pet names between couples increase attraction and overall satisfaction over time, so she could be looking for emotional closeness or physical intimacy by calling you "babe." [5] X Research source Pay attention to her tone and body language so you can either open up to her or initiate physical affection when she wants it.
- "You have my undivided attention! Shall we take this upstairs?"
- "I feel even closer to you when you call me that. What did you want to talk about?"
- If she gets close, touching your hand or arm often and sitting so that your shoulders or thighs brush together, she's probably looking for physical intimacy.
- On the other hand, she's looking for emotional intimacy if she tells you about her own life, thoughts, and feelings. Open up to her, and let her see every side of you.
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- ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/someone-likes-you/
- ↑ Julianne Cantarella. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.
- ↑ https://www.vogue.com/article/are-pet-names-ok-honey-dear-babe
- ↑ https://www.southernliving.com/culture/sweet-nicknames-girlfriend-boyfriend-spouse
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifetime-connections/201603/pet-names-between-couples-are-very-good-sign