11 Effective Ways to Turn Down Drugs and Alcohol

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Helpful examples of how to just say no
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When it comes to peer pressure, usually a simple “No thank you” will keep others from pushing you to try drugs and alcohol. However, there also might be times when you need to be a bit more firm to get others to stop. We know it can be a bit nerve-wracking to stand up to others, especially if they’re your friends. So to help, we’ve come up with a bunch of different ways to say no. We’ll start with some simple options that usually work for most situations, but we’ll also be sure to give you more specific advice in case you’re still feeling pressured.

Things You Should Know

  • Make up an excuse for why you can't participate. For example, say you have to wake up early the next day or are meeting up with a friend later.
  • Tell them you're the designated driver for the night and therefore need to stay sober.
  • If someone continues pressuring you, don't be afraid to be firm. Say, “I said no. Please don’t ask me again."
1

Make an excuse.

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  1. This could be as simple as needing to get home early or blaming it on your strict parents or a drug test at your job. Keep the excuse short and simple. There’s no need to construct a super complicated lie in this kind of situation. For example: [1]
    • “No thanks, my parents will probably know if I come home high.”
    • “I can’t stay long, I have to go help my dad with something.”
    • “I’m supposed to meet my friend in a few minutes, so I can’t.”
    • “I promised my friend I’d take them home soon.”
    • “My job does routine drug tests, so I’d rather not risk it.”
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Use a little humor.

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  1. This works well with people you don’t know or acquaintances who might try to pressure you. Say something that’ll make them laugh, but avoid using derogatory humor so you don’t offend anyone. Say something like: [2]
    • “No thanks, I need all the brain cells I can get.”
    • “Doesn’t that stuff stunt your growth? I’m too short already!”
    • “No thanks. My friends already have enough embarrassing videos of me from when I was drunk.”
    • “I’d love to, but I have to chaperone my friends over there. Who knows what they’ll get up to?”
3

Change the subject.

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  1. If you’re with your friends, suggest doing an activity or grabbing a bite to eat. It might just be the push they need to put down the drugs or alcohol and do something a little safer. Or start talking about an entirely different subject to steer the conversation in a safer direction. For example: [3]
    • “I’m good. Wanna go play basketball?”
    • “No thanks. Let’s go grab some food.”
    • “How about we go and check out the new cafe down the street instead?”
    • “Nah, I’m good. Hey, did you hear about what happened to Billy the other day?”
    • “No thanks. So what do you guys think about taking a trip this summer?”
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4

Offer to be the designated driver.

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  1. Most people won’t pass up the chance to get a free ride. Be sure to mention this before you go out or meet up with others just so that everyone is on the same page. If they know beforehand, they likely won’t offer you alcohol or drugs later on. Say something like:
    • “Hey guys, I’ll be our DD tonight. No drinking for me!”
    • “I’m all good, I’m staying sober so I can drive everyone home tonight.”
    • “I’m cool with driving tonight so don’t worry about me.”
    • “I think it’s my turn to be DD.”
5

Act like you’re too busy.

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  1. Show people that you can’t be bothered to try drugs and alcohol! If you’re at a club, head to the dance floor and bust out your best moves. If you’re at a party, offer to be the DJ and pick a few new songs. Or if you have a friend who supports your decision, strike up a nice, long conversation with them. If someone asks you to try drugs or alcohol, say something like:
    • “No thanks! I’m way too busy!”
    • “And leave the dance floor? Nah, I’m good!”
    • “Sorry, but my friend and I haven’t seen each other in a while and we wanted to catch up.”
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Explain the dangers of drugs and alcohol.

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  1. Keep in mind that this may not get the best reaction from others, and there’s no guarantee that your friends will heed your advice. However, it’s an honest excuse. Avoid coming off as condescending or rude, but don’t be afraid to share your honest feelings. For example: [4]
    • “No thanks. That stuff is so bad for you.”
    • “Haven’t you heard about the kids on the news who died from doing that?”
    • “Your health can get pretty messed up from doing that. I just want to stay safe.”
    • “I heard that your teeth turn super yellow from smoking. So I’d rather not.”
    • “No thanks. It’s really bad for your liver.”
7

Be honest.

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  1. This is a good method to use if it’s a close friend who’s trying to pressure you. People are more likely to respect your decision if you tell it to them honestly and straightforwardly. For example: [5]
    • “No thanks. I just really don’t like the taste/smell.”
    • “My parents would kill me if they found out.”
    • “I could get kicked off the team for doing that.”
    • “I've decided to make some lifestyle changes so I won't be drinking at this time.” [6]
    • “My uncle did drugs in high school and I saw what it did to him. I’d rather not have that happen to me.”
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8

Keep saying no.

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  1. You might sound like a broken record, but eventually, the person pressuring you will hopefully get the message. “No” is a complete sentence, so you don’t have to add anything else or make any other excuses if you don’t want to. The conversation could go something like: [7]
    • Them: “Hey, do you want a drink?”
      You: “No thanks.”
      Them: “You sure? It’s pretty good.”
      You: “No, I’m good.”
      Them: “Seriously? It’s one drink.”
      You: “I said no.”
    • If a simple “no” really isn’t working, move on to a different method, like using humor or making up an excuse.
    • If you need to be more forceful, say something like, “I said no, and I’m not going to change my mind. Please stop asking.”
9

Explain that you’re in recovery.

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  1. If you’re comfortable with sharing this kind of information, go ahead and be honest with the people who are trying to pressure you. There’s no need to go into great detail—simply tell them that you’re sober and don’t mess with that stuff anymore. Most people will respect that, and some might even congratulate you on your decision. Say something like: [8]
    • “No thanks, I’m actually 6 months sober as of today.”
    • “I’m all good. That stuff really messes me up, and I’m trying to kick the habit.”
    • “I’ve been making really good progress, and I don’t want to start back from square one.”
    • “I've realized that drinking alcohol is something I can't do anymore.” [9]
    • “I’m really trying to make better choices and would appreciate it if you’d respect my decision.”
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Take a nonalcoholic drink with you at parties.

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  1. People are less likely to pressure you to drink if you already have a cup in your hand. Bring a drink ahead of time, or simply pour one of the chasers or mixers into a cup without any alcohol. There’s nothing wrong with pretending to drink if it keeps you out of a potentially harmful situation.
    • Try pouring your drink into a plastic cup so other people can’t tell it’s only something like soda or iced tea.
    • Mocktails (non-alcoholic mixed drinks) are a tasty alternative. [10]
    • If your friends are doing shots, ask for a water shot so you can still participate with them.
    • If someone offers to get you a drink, say, “I'm definitely open to grabbing a drink, but could you get me something that's nonalcoholic?”
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Leave the situation.

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  1. If you feel pressured or someone keeps offering you drugs or alcohol, feel free to walk away and go somewhere else. If you ever feel uncomfortable, call a trusted friend or adult to come get you right away. If you need an excuse to leave, say something like: [11]
    • “I’ve got practice in 20 minutes.”
    • “I’ve really got to study for this test.”
    • “My curfew is at 10, and if I’m late my parents are going to be so mad.”
    • “My friend is calling me. I need to take this.”
    • “I don’t feel so well. I’m going to go outside for a bit of fresh air.”
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    How do you politely say no to a drink?
    Tala Johartchi, PsyD
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    Dr. Tala Johartchi is a Clinical Psychologist based in the Los Angeles, California metro area. With expertise and advanced training in Evidence-Based Practices and therapeutic/behavioral frameworks, Dr. Johartchi specializes in working with individuals, couples, and families experiencing Substance Disorders, Love Addiction and Codependency, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, as well as common co-occurring disorders such as Depression, Anxiety, and Relational/Attachment difficulties. She earned an MA and PsyD in Clinical Psychology from The American School of Professional Psychology at Argosy University, San Francisco.
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    Explain why you aren't drinking anymore. You might frame it as a health decision, a lifestyle change, or even a personal preference.
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    Can you have fun at parties without alcohol?
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    Dr. Tala Johartchi is a Clinical Psychologist based in the Los Angeles, California metro area. With expertise and advanced training in Evidence-Based Practices and therapeutic/behavioral frameworks, Dr. Johartchi specializes in working with individuals, couples, and families experiencing Substance Disorders, Love Addiction and Codependency, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, as well as common co-occurring disorders such as Depression, Anxiety, and Relational/Attachment difficulties. She earned an MA and PsyD in Clinical Psychology from The American School of Professional Psychology at Argosy University, San Francisco.
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    Absolutely! You can always order a drink without any alcohol in it, or play a drinking game with a non-alcoholic beverage. For instance, you and your friends could take "shots" of water.
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    How can I stop thinking about alcohol?
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    You can try asking for help on the internet and change your focus. Try eating healthy foods, drinking tons of water, and exercising regularly. Avoid friends and situations that remind you of alcohol.
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      • If you go to a party or event where there may be drugs, never leave your drink unattended. There’s a possibility that someone could put drugs into it without you knowing. [13]
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      1. ↑ https://treatmentsolutions.com/blog/15-ways-a-teen-can-say-no-to-alcohol-and-drugs/
      2. ↑ https://www.poehealth.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/RefusalSkills_WEBPDF-1.pdf
      3. ↑ https://www.oxfordclinicalpsych.com/view/10.1093/med:psych/9780199334513.001.0001/med-9780199334513-appendix-24
      4. ↑ https://health-education-human-services.wright.edu/sites/health-education-human-services.wright.edu/files/page/attachments/HOPECurriculum_Grade8_Lesson2_August2020.pdf
      5. ↑ https://health-education-human-services.wright.edu/sites/health-education-human-services.wright.edu/files/page/attachments/HOPECurriculum_Grade8_Lesson2_August2020.pdf
      6. ↑ Tala Johartchi, PsyD. Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 16 July 2021.
      7. ↑ https://www.oxfordclinicalpsych.com/view/10.1093/med:psych/9780199334513.001.0001/med-9780199334513-appendix-24
      8. ↑ https://illuminaterecovery.com/blog/how-to-get-through-the-holiday-season-as-a-recovering-addict/
      9. ↑ Tala Johartchi, PsyD. Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 16 July 2021.
      1. ↑ Tala Johartchi, PsyD. Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 16 July 2021.
      2. ↑ https://illuminaterecovery.com/blog/how-to-get-through-the-holiday-season-as-a-recovering-addict/
      3. ↑ https://www.girlshealth.gov/substance/drugs/sayno.html
      4. ↑ https://www.girlshealth.gov/substance/drugs/sayno.html

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