How to Give a Sexy Foot Massage

Learn the ways of massage seduction to treat her right

A foot massage is a fabulous way to help a special someone relax and take a load off, and can even be your ticket into a little romantic action if you play your cards right (and get consent, of course). We’ll show you how to set the mood, give an incredible foot massage, and make your move.

Giving a Sexy Foot Massage

Set the mood with dim lighting and scented candles. Warm and lotion your hands beforehand. Use your thumbs and knuckles to slowly and firmly but gently knead the tops of her feet. When the moment is right, ask if you can kiss her feet and move from there.

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Creating a Sensual Atmosphere

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  1. A messy room that’s full of junk just isn’t sensual. Take the time to declutter the room where you intend to give the foot massage , so neither of you are distracted by any clutter. [1] Also take the extra step of putting clean sheets on the bed so she’s uber relaxed.
    • Soft cotton sheets will feel good on her skin, and they make cleaning up any spilled lotion or body oil much easier.
  2. Dimming the lights creates a more soothing and sensual atmosphere. Adding candles, especially ones that use her favorite scents , can turn the sensuality up another notch. It’s called aromatherapy, and it’s scientifically proven! [2]
    • For instance, light some vanilla, cinnamon, rose, or lavender scented candles. Set them up around the room to create mood lighting.
    • Just make sure there’s enough light to see what you’re doing, and don’t use more than 1 scent, which can be disorienting.
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  3. Music goes a long way toward setting a mood. [3] While you might think that romantic music is the way to go here, instead go with soothing instrumental music or even nature sounds. This’ll help her become as calm and relaxed as possible.
    • There’s a chance that this might help her to drift off to sleep, but rely on your massage skills to keep her awake and interested in you!
  4. Cold hands aren’t very relaxing when it comes to giving a massage. [4] Plus, she definitely won’t find the feel of cold hands on her feet seductive! Take 10-15 seconds to rub your hands together vigorously, hold them under warm water for 60 seconds, or breathe on them to warm them up before starting the massage.
    • Even better, wrap your hands in a warm towel for 1-2 minutes before starting the massage.
  5. Lotions and body oils reduce friction and enhance the sensation of the massage. Choose a lotion or oil intended for massages, and consider scented options. Squeeze a few drops into your hands and rub them together. [5]
    • Consider warming the oil or lotion beforehand by holding the bottle in your hands for 2 or 3 minutes. Alternatively, buy a plug-in lotion warmer from a beauty supply store.
    • Don’t use the microwave to heat up lotion or oil—you’ll end up with hot spots that can burn!
  6. Once you’ve set the scene, make your first move! When the mood is right and you find a good moment, ask her if you could massage her feet. Say something like, “I give a pretty amazing foot massage, you know,” or, “Can I massage your feet? I’d love to do something nice for you, if you’re comfortable with that.”
    • If she does say yes, keep in mind that it’s not automatically a pass to get sexual, just to massage her. You need consent to move further!
    • Most people will get the message, but it’s also important to go slow and get consent whenever you touch someone’s body.
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Giving a High-Quality Foot Massage

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  1. This lets you focus on one area with both hands, making for quite the experience. While focusing your attention on one of her feet, place the other on the soft cotton sheet, on a pillow, or in a warm water soak. [6] Once you’ve completed the full massage routine on one foot, repeat the exact same process on the other foot.
    • Use the muscles in your hands, arms and shoulders to apply the massage, not just those in your thumbs. Otherwise, your thumbs will cramp up and ruin the mood!
    • Ask her if one foot is particularly sore or tight, and start with that one.
  2. Start at the tip of the big toe and move slowly to her ankle. Then, move back down the same foot, using firm pressure with your thumbs while cupping her foot in your hands. [7] Work your way up and down her foot 2 or 3 times. Rub in small circles, and be careful not to use too much pressure.
    • If she's reclining on a sofa or bed, sit in a chair at her feet. If you're using a massage table, stand up.
    • Hold her foot so that it’s close to your chest—this helps control the amount of pressure you apply.
  3. Apply light pressure to the arch, rotating one thumb clockwise and the other one counterclockwise. Continue doing this for 30 seconds or longer. The sole is an important component in foot reflexology, which is the practice of using pressure points to reduce stress and pain, so pay extra attention to it. [8]
    • Cup her foot with light pressure as you massage the arch with your thumbs. If you grab or rub too lightly, though, the massage is more likely to feel ticklish.
    • Ask her if the pressure you're applying feels good, and check for other feedback (like "oohs" and "ahhs") that indicate you're doing it right.
  4. With her foot still cupped in your hands, slide your thumbs up and down the Achilles tendon, which runs from the heel to the lower calf. Then, use your thumbs to rub her heel in opposing circular motions. Fuller says to also massage the calf, which helps relax the foot.
    • If the skin on her heel is dry, apply additional lotion or oil to your hands to reduce friction and discomfort.
  5. Cup her foot securely in one hand. With the other hand, gently pinch her big toe between your thumb and forefinger, near the base of the toe. Rotate the toe gently to one side, then the other, then gently pull the toe away from the foot by pinching and sliding your fingers towards the tip of the toe. [9]
    • Repeat the same process with the other 4 toes.
    • Don’t twist or yank on her toes—be gentle!
  6. While continuing to cup her foot in one hand, place your index finger between the tips of her big toe and second toe. Slide your finger down the inside of the big toe to the base, then come back up the inside of the second toe.
    • Repeat this move 2 or 3 more times, then move on to the second and third toes.
    • Continue to apply even pressure with your finger and your cupping hand as you work.
  7. Gently squeeze the hollow area below her ankle for 5-10 seconds. Then, use both thumbs to make circular motions around the outside of the ankle bone. Apply even pressure as you work. Also, gently roll her ankle in circular motions to relax her foot. [10]
  8. While continuing to cup her foot with one hand, make a fist with the other hand and press it against the sole of her foot. Make circular motions with your fist, as if you are kneading dough. After 10-15 seconds, slide your fist up and down the sole of her foot, continuing to apply even pressure throughout. [11] Fuller also recommends lightly digging your knuckles into the sole.
    • Move on to massaging the other foot now that you’ve finished the first one. However, if she requests some additional work on the first foot, be sure to say “yes!”
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Making Your Seductive Move

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  1. Massages are a natural and positive way to connect to a partner, so let her know you enjoy it! [12] Make small murmurs (a deep, quietly whispered "mmmm" works beautifully) and widen your smile to a grin at intervals, to show her that you're fully appreciating every interaction with her body.
    • Instead of acting like you’re in a rush to get to what you hope will happen after the massage, focus on enjoying what you’re doing now and build up anticipation for the next step.
  2. Don’t jump right into making sloppy kisses all over her feet. Instead, complete the massage, then ask her if she's enjoying it. [13] Assuming she says yes, try gently kissing her feet a few times. After 20-30 seconds or so, look up and ask, "How are you enjoying it now?"
    • Remember that consent is key! Don’t kiss her at all without asking. It’s also super sexy to say something like, “Can I kiss your feet? I just can’t help myself.”
    • If she isn’t into the foot kissing and seems ready for the massage to end, take the cue and stop trying to seduce her for now. But don’t worry, your efforts may pay dividends at another time!
  3. This is a big step, so word the question in a way that gives her a clear signal of what you’re hoping will happen. Simply saying, "Can I massage the rest of you?" might just work wonders on its own.
    • If you think she's in the mood and you want to try something a little more seductive, say, "The rest of you looks tired too. Can I take care of that for you?"
  4. In some cases, she may want to turn the tables and give you a massage. This is usually a strong signal that she wants to go further than just a massage, so you should definitely agree.
    • Don't blurt out "heck yeah!" or mutter "I guess," though. Instead, say "sure" or "yes I would" in your seductive voice!
    • Sometimes a massage is just a massage, however, so don't assume too much. Just enjoy the massage and, if anything beyond that happens, think of it as the icing on the cake!
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    Then, that's it. She doesn't want to be touched anywhere else and you need to respect that. You can respond with "Okay" and ask if she wants you to keep massaging her feet because she might still want a foot massage and nothing else.
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      The easiest way to seduce a woman with a foot massage is by taking your time in a relaxed setting so she can unwind. Lay out a soft blanket or sheet and turn the lights down low to set the mood. You can also light a scented candle to help her relax. When you start the massage, focus on one foot at a time. Place the other foot on a soft pillow or in warm water to help her relax. Rub each foot in turn with your thumbs from the big toe down to her heel. Once you’ve gone up and down her foot 2 or 3 times, apply light pressure to her arch while moving your hand in a circular motion. Take your time with the massage rather than rushing to get to the end of it. She’s more likely to respond positively if she feels that you enjoyed giving her the massage, and that you didn’t just do it to get something more afterwards. For tips on how to massage her toes and ankles, read on!

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