11+ Heartfelt Messages to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Appreciated

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Your know your girlfriend is amazing, but how do you communicate that to her in words? Figuring out how to verbally express gratitude can be tough, but there are lots of ways you can speak up and let her know. Read on for a list of great ways to communicate your appreciation through both words and actions!

1

Say “Thank you.”

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  1. A simple “ thank you ” can go a long way. If you feel thankful in the moment, remind yourself to express that sentiment out loud to your girlfriend, too. [1] Each time your girlfriend does you a favor or offers her help, thank her sweetly and sincerely. [2] For example:
    • “I just want you to know how grateful I am for everything you do. You’re always ready to support me, and I can’t thank you enough.”
    • “You put so much thought and care into everything we do together. It makes me grateful that you’re my girlfriend.”
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2

Appreciate the little things she does.

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  1. Pointing out the little things she does shows your girlfriend that you're paying attention and you don't take anything for granted. [3] When you call attention to her efforts, add as much detail as you can. [4]
    • “Thank you for making breakfast today. You even put cinnamon in the coffee and made my favorite pancake flavor! I feel so pampered—and full!”
    • “You went above and beyond to make this date night feel special, and I loved every minute of it. The card and gift were such a thoughtful touch. Thank you!”
3

Give her compliments.

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  1. Give her a detailed compliment that goes above and beyond “good job” or “you look nice today.” Tell her why you think she looks great or what makes her special to you. [5] Hearing a heartfelt compliment from you will make her day! [6]
    • “I love that shirt on you, babe. You always look amazing in green!”
    • “Dinner tonight was delicious. You’re a better chef than anybody else I know!”
    • “I love having conversations with you. You’re so thoughtful and creative, and you introduce me to new perspectives all the time."
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4

Ask about her life.

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  1. Taking the time to talk about her everyday life will mean a lot to her and communicate that you genuinely. She’ll feel even more appreciated if you remember her words in later conversations. [7]
    • Make it a habit to ask her, “How was your day?” or send a text on days when you don’t see one another face-to-face.
    • Show particular interest in things that you know she values. Ask her how a work project is coming along or what she’s been learning in her painting class. For example, “You mentioned last week that you were thinking of applying for a promotion. Is that still in the works? You deserve it—you’re such a hard worker!”
5

Be her biggest advocate.

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  1. Be there to talk through problems with her and give encouragement when she needs it. Reassure her you’ll always there to help her in whatever capacity she needs. She'll feel appreciated and supported. [8]
    • “Your goals matter to me, and I want to help you meet them however I can. I believe you can do anything you set your mind to!”
    • “I know you’ve been having a tough time at work, but you've got this! If you want to vent or talk it over with me, I’m happy to help however I can.”
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6

Ask her for advice.

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  1. Tell her things you would only share with someone close to you, like childhood secrets or dilemmas you're facing in the present, and ask for her thoughts. [9] When you make it clear that she’s someone you trust more than other people in your life, she’ll also feel appreciated.
    • “I’m having lunch with my cousin this week and feel conflicted. Something happened when we were kids that I can't forget. Could we talk about it?”
    • “My roommates have been driving me crazy lately and I don’t know how to talk to them about it. I’d like to talk the problem over with you, and I trust you to keep this just between us.”
7

Support her dreams and celebrate her successes.

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  1. If your girlfriend is working on herself personally or professionally, congratulate her each time she takes an important step. Let her know how proud you are and that her hard work is inspiring. [10] For example:
    • “Congratulations on your promotion! I’m so proud of you. Can I take you out for a little celebration?”
    • “I’m so proud of you for finally talking things out with your mom! I know your relationship has been bothering you lately, and you were brave to step up and say something.”
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8

Tell her that you miss her.

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  1. Either send her a text, call her, or schedule a video call to tell her how different life feels when you're apart. You can also randomly tell her you miss her, even if you just saw her yesterday! She'll appreciate both gestures. [11]
    • After you see her, you could send a text saying, “I miss you already! 😘”
    • When you haven’t seen her for a few days, text her, “I miss seeing your gorgeous face. 😍 Wanna meet up this weekend?”
    • You could also say, “I didn’t know it was possible to miss someone this much, but I feel it when you’re not here. I can’t wait for our next date! ❤️”
9

Offer to help her with chores.

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  1. If she's been working hard or she's feeling stressed, ask if you can handle a chore that she might normally do or run an errand for her. [12] If you offer without her having to ask you for help, she'll feel seen and appreciated. [13]
    • “You’ve been working hard lately. Can I handle washing dishes for the week so that you can rest?”
    • “I know you usually walk the dog in the evenings, but your favorite show is on now! Can I take the dog out so you can relax and watch it?”
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10

Write her a short handwritten note.

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  1. You could thank her, compliment her , or just tell her how much you care . Handwritten notes are particularly endearing because they take time and thought to complete, which will make your girlfriend feel extra appreciated. [14]
    • You might write, "You make me feel like the luckiest guy on earth" or "You're going to slay that exam today. I love you."
    • If you find it difficult to open up emotionally face-to-face, take the first step by writing her a longer note. It will be easier to express yourself on paper, and you can still be vulnerable with your girlfriend.
11

Tell her “I love you.”

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  1. You may not feel ready to say “I love you” yet, and that’s perfectly okay. There are other phrases you can use without using the “L” word. If you do say “ I love you ” to your girlfriend, find other phrases to add some variety. [15]
    • “I’m crazy about you!”
    • “You’re my favorite person to spend time with.”
    • “I’m grateful to have a best friend AND partner.”
    • “You make me so happy!”
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      6. ↑ https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/relationships-and-communication

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