A Friendly Guide on Telling Your Mom You Started Your Period

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Getting your period for the first time can be a scary experience, and the prospect of having to tell your mom can be even worse! But remember, your mom went through the exact same thing. Starting your period is a completely normal and natural part of life, so don’t be embarrassed. In this guide, we’ll go over how to tell your mom directly and indirectly and combat those period-related nerves!

Things You Should Know

  • Tell your mom you got your period by simply saying, "Hey Mom, I started my period," or keep it casual by asking, “How old were you when you got your period?”
  • If you’re having a hard time telling her directly, try leaving your mom a note in her purse or wallet or send her a text.
  • Be relaxed and direct when bringing up your period. Don't be afraid to ask her for advice or for period supplies, like pads or tampons.
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Talking to Your Mom in Person

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  1. If you’re out at a school event or having a family night in the living room, be sure to carve out some time for you and your mom to have a one-on-one chat. Don’t freak yourself out! Remember, she’s your mom; she’s been in your position, too. Approach the topic any way you like. You can start by saying you feel a little uncomfortable, but you need to talk to her. Here are some starting points to help you get started! [1]
    • "Hey mom, I think I started my period."
    • "Can we go to the store? I need some things. I just started my period."
    • "This is difficult for me to say, but I started my period."
    • "I just wanted to tell you I started my period and I have some questions."
  2. Opt for a casual environment if you’re intimidated by a formal sit-down conversation. You could bring it up after seeing a tampon ad on TV, or you can mention it on your way to school. Choose a time and place where neither of you feels rushed, and you can have an open and honest conversation about it. [2]
    • Try to segue into the topic by asking her how old she was when she got her period if you don’t feel comfortable coming out and saying it.
    • Work it into a conversation about something completely non-related if you need to. That will give you time to talk and relax. Then you can slip it in when you feel comfortable. For instance, ask, “Did anything interesting happen at work today?”
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  3. If you don’t know how to bring it up, let the environment do the work for you! Steer her towards the feminine hygiene products in the grocery or drug store, and tell her you need to pick up some period supplies to make a period kit for school . This is a great time to ask her for recommendations and pain-relief tips so she picks up on what you’re really telling her.
  4. Getting your period means your body is going through many changes, which can be overwhelming. Try to think of it as an opportunity for you to form a deeper bond with your mom by opening up and asking questions. You can ask her about her experience, what her cravings are, and how she manages her symptoms.
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Telling Your Mom Indirectly

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  1. If you don’t feel confident telling your mom in person, that’s okay! Leave her a note instead. That way, she can initiate the conversation the next time you’re alone together. Leave the note somewhere private where she’ll find it, like her purse or wallet. Notes can be long and complicated or short and sweet, like:
    • “Hey Mom, I got my period today! Maybe we can get supplies at the drugstore later? I love you.”
    • “I got my period. Could you please bring home some pads/tampons? Thanks!”
  2. Using the same techniques and tactics as if telling her face to face, you can call your mom over the phone. This is ideal if you’re stuck at school and need fresh clothes or supplies so she can come to the rescue. You could say something like:
    • ”Hey mom, I’m in the nurse's office, and I got my period. Do you think you could come get me?”
    • ”I’ll be home in an hour, and maybe we can talk for a few minutes because I got my period.”
    • ”Hey, I’ll be home a little late because I have to make a stop for some tampons.”
    • “Can we have chocolate cake for dessert? I’ve really been craving it since I got my period!”
  3. Another way to let your mom know what’s going on with you is by sending a text. It’s not the most personal way, but it’ll get the job done! You can use similar phrasing as if you were writing her a more personal letter, such as saying:
    • “Just wanted to let you know I got my period. See you at home later!”
    • “Can we talk later? I've started my period.”
    • “Are you going shopping soon? I got my period and need some supplies.”
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Period Info & Advice

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  1. At the start of your cycle, your body creates more estrogen, which causes the uterine lining to thicken with blood and mucous. At the same time, the ovaries release unfertilized eggs expelled by your body along with excess uterine lining, which comes out as your monthly period. [4]
    • Eggs become fertilized by sperm that attach themselves to the thickened uterine wall during intercourse.
    • Children usually get their periods between the ages of 12 and 14, but it can happen as early as 8 or 9 years old.
    • It’s not uncommon to experience an irregular period at first. Generally, people get a period every 21 to 35 days, lasting anywhere from three to five days. [5]
  2. We’ve come a long way from pads made from sateen and rubber bands. [6] Now, there are organic tampons, menstrual cups, period underwear, and reusable or disposable pads. For your first time, you may be more comfortable with reusable or disposable pads that snap or stick onto your underwear. Tampons and menstrual cups, on the other hand, require insertion into the vagina, which can cause minor discomfort at first. However, they’re convenient if you’re playing sports or swimming. [7]
    • Talk to your mom, a sibling, or a friend to learn more about the products they use and their experience using them.
    • Menstrual products can be purchased at pharmacies, grocery stores, and online.
  3. Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS) is a term used to describe symptoms some people experience in the days or weeks leading up to their period. To alleviate pain, take anti-inflammatory pain medicine like Midol, which is made specifically for PMS relief. Engaging in regular exercise like yoga or walking can help reduce cramping and improve your mood, too. [8]
    • Keep healthy snacks on hand to combat over-indulging your cravings. Try homemade rice and soy sauce for salt cravings. Or, make yourself hot chocolate from scratch instead of binging on chocolate bars to maintain a healthy, well-balanced diet.
    • PMS symptoms include depression, heightened emotional reactions, cravings, fatigue, bloating, aches and pains, headaches, and tender breasts. [9]
    • If you’re experiencing severe pain, see your doctor so you can get evaluated for fibroids or endometriosis. Your doctor may recommend birth control pills or a progesterone-secreting IUD to help you get relief from cramps. [10]
  4. It’s important to stay calm when you first get your period. It may be scary, but it’s totally normal! Give yourself the chance to progress the changes happening in your body. Take a bath with Epson salt to soothe your cramps, practice meditation, or watch a comfort show to relax.
    • You can also use this time to jot down your thoughts in a journal. Try writing down key points or questions you want to address to your mom.
    • If you aren’t ready to tell your mom, ask a school nurse, doctor, teacher, or another trusted adult for help. You want to ask someone who has gone through it before so they can offer you guidance. [11]
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      • If you get period stains on your underwear, use cold water, Windex, and salt. The cold water will remove the stain while the ammonia in the Windex works as an extra boost. The salt will help create friction between the stain and the fabric as you scrub it out.
      • If it helps, you can name your period in advance. Share the name with your mom so it's easier to talk about. You could say, "Hey, so my friend Jenn finally came to visit me, so do you think you could pick up some things from the store?"
      • If you get your period unexpectedly and it stains your underwear, you could show your mom. Even just showing her a little bit of blood will let her know what happen and you don't have to say anything.
      • Remember, if you're wearing a pad, change it every 3-4 hours.
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      1. ↑ https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/periods/starting-periods/
      2. ↑ https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/periods/starting-periods/
      3. ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/menstruation.html
      4. ↑ http://www.womenshealth.gov/publications/our-publications/fact-sheet/menstruation.html
      5. ↑ https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/womens-health/in-depth/menstrual-cycle/art-20047186
      6. ↑ https://daily.jstor.org/the-secret-history-of-menstruation/
      7. ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/kids/period-school.html
      8. ↑ http://www.womenshealth.gov/publications/our-publications/fact-sheet/premenstrual-syndrome.html
      9. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/premenstrual-syndrome/basics/symptoms/con-20020003
      1. ↑ Aimee Eyvazzadeh, MD, MA. OB/GYN & Fertility Specialist. Expert Interview. 24 March 2020.
      2. ↑ https://www.unicef.org/parenting/health/talking-about-periods-at-home
      3. ↑ http://www.girlshealth.gov/body/period/

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      If you’re feeling a little nervous about telling your mom about your period, ask her if you can talk to her in private. You can tell her about your period however you feel comfortable, whether that’s saying “Mom, I got my first period,” or “You know how you told me about ‘that time of the month’?” Remember, your mom loves you and she has plenty of experience with this subject, so she’ll probably be able to offer you good advice on what products to use and how to ease your cramps. For help understanding what your body goes through during your period, read on!

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