Begin your note by thanking the person for attending the funeral. Dear Patrick, It meant so much to see you at Aunt Brenda’s service. I truly appreciate the effort you made to attend the memorial, and the stories and memories you shared lifted all of our spirits. If the person you are thanking is a close friend or family member, feel free to include a story or anecdote from the deceased’s life. Brenda often spoke about the wonderful times you and she spent in the Catskills, and she always told us of your generosity towards her and towards our family. End your note by briefly thanking them again for their support. Thank you again for your support during this difficult time. Sign the note either with your own name or “Family of [Deceased’s Name].” Love, Jeanne