High school can be stressful, because you're in the process of transitioning from a child to an adult. While you've already got opinions and personality, your identity is still forming. Sometimes it can feel like you aren't sure who you are, deep down. That's normal, and just know that you can be you, and still try on different "hats," so to speak. That doesnt make you a poser or cringe. You're just experimenting and finding your groove. <br /><br />Be adventurous, try new things, talk to people - even if it scares you. The more you practice being friendly and outgoing, the easier it will be. When you're walking down the halls at school, keep your head up. Make eye contact with people who pass by, smile and say, "Hey, how's it going?" Or "Dude, was that math test insane, or what?" The key is to train yourself to be comfortable with this, through repetition. <br /><br />Be mindful of your expressions and body language, so that you aren't tense and awkward. Practice being relaxed and easy going when you interact. Whatever style you go for, own it. Just keep yourself clean, clip your nails, clothes unwrinkled, and brush your teeth. No matter what style you choose, good oral hygiene is essential. <br /><br />The more you practice being outgoing, the more natural it will feel. This will boost your confidence. And if you practice being friendly with girls you dont necessarily want to date, then it will be much easier to approach the girls you DO want to date, when the time comes.<br /><br />Develop some skills/talents that will widen your social circles, but make sure it's something you genuinely enjoy and can feel good about - such as sports, musical instrument (maybe start a garage band?), surfing, skateboarding, drawing, whatever you’re drawn to. You have to try new things to find out what suits you. <br /><br />Lastly, being a nice guy is a good thing. Really. The key is: 1) don't rely on that being all there is to your identity. 2) Don't be anybody's doormat. 3) When it comes to dating, don't be constantly available. Fit a girl into your busy and interesting life, because then she'll feel special around you. But if you drop everything, anytime she wants, and she doesnt have to put in any effort, then she won't feel like she earned it, and wont mean as much to her. Let her do some of the work. End your dates on a high note, when it's going well. If you wait until she decides she's tired and saturated, then you're not keeping the energy going. So, you be the one to end the date, while she's still into it. That keeps her eager and interested. <br /><br />Think about it this way, who is most appreciative of a great cook, and a delicious home-cooked meal? The answer is, a hungry person. Feed them, but never get them overly full. When their hunger pangs are gone, take the plate. When the hunger pangs come back, they're going to think about that delicious meal you served, and that keeps them coming back.<br /><br />Peace & Grace