Am I Good at Flirting?

Take this quiz to test your romantic moves!

Has anyone ever told you that your flirting skills are top-notch? Or that you’re a super charming date? Some of us are better at flirting than others. Want to know where you stand?

Answer these fun and flirty questions, and we’ll crunch the numbers and judge your charm levels to see if you’ve got the stuff. Click “Start Quiz” to begin!

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Questions Overview

1. Pick an opening line:
  1. Is it just me, or did the room get a little brighter when you walked in?
  2. Have we met? No? We should fix that.
  3. Is this seat taken? Do you want it to be?
  4. Are you a camera? Because I see you and can't help but smile.
2. How much eye contact do you use when you flirt?
  1. I use lots of eye contact, but I make sure to look away just enough to build some mystery.
  2. I make plenty of eye contact, but I make sure to keep it feeling natural.
  3. I don't love eye contact, so I don’t use it much. I prefer to flirt in other ways!
  4. When I flirt, it basically turns into a staring contest.
3. What's your go-to style of flirting?
  1. I make sure to drop lots of flattering, sweet compliments.
  2. I tend to use humor and my quick wit to draw them in.
  3. I honestly just focus on holding the conversation, and see where it goes from there.
  4. I do pretty much anything to get their attention, then keep it however I can.
4. Choose your favorite physical way of flirting:
  1. A sly, suave wink at just the right moment.
  2. "Accidentally" brushing our hands together for a moment of contact.
  3. Shifting in my seat to face them and give them all my attention.
  4. Biting my lip super seductively.
5. How close to the other person do you like to be when you flirt?
  1. Super close, as long as they’re comfortable with it! I like to have each other’s full attention.
  2. Close enough to touch them, if the moment feels right. Like we’re good friends.
  3. I like to keep a respectful distance away. Like with a table between us.
  4. I’ll flirt from across the room if I have to. I like a challenge.
6. Do you usually make the first move when you flirt with someone?
  1. Not really! Other people usually start flirting with me.
  2. Usually, but sometimes I start flirting without even realizing it.
  3. Sometimes yes, sometimes no. It depends on the vibe!
  4. Yes! It lets me set the tone and work from there.
7. Do you like having a wingman to help set you up?
  1. Nope. I can handle myself all on my own, thanks.
  2. I don't mind it, but I don't need one. I make a great wingman myself, though.
  3. Sometimes it helps, I won't lie!
  4. Never! A wingman would just slow me down.
8. How do you usually feel when someone attractive is nearby?
  1. Someone attractive? You mean me? I feel totally comfortable wherever I go.
  2. They're definitely on my radar, but I keep it casual. Normal. It's no big deal.
  3. I might get a little nervous, but I think I keep it together pretty well!
  4. I feel like they're competition, and there can only be 1 winner!
9. Be honest, and no judgment: Have you ever lied about your interests (favorite movies, hobbies, etc) to impress someone else?
  1. I don't need to lie. I have perfect taste and all the best interests.
  2. Sure, now and then. It helps me connect, and I can always look into it later.
  3. Maybe once or twice, but I think it's better to be honest.
  4. Nope, usually it's the other person who's asking about my interests.
10. Who do you usually flirt with?
  1. I usually only flirt with my date.
  2. I tend to flirt with total strangers.
  3. I mostly flirt with people I've known for a little while.
  4. I'll flirt with just about anyone who seems interesting.
11. Choose a way to impress someone you’re flirting with:
  1. I recite a classic, romantic poem from memory.
  2. I bring up a tiny detail they mentioned earlier to show them I’m paying close attention.
  3. I do something small and polite, like hold the door or pay for their meal.
  4. I show them one of my special skills, like tying a knot in a cherry stem with my tongue.
12. Do you like to give gifts to the other person to win them over?
  1. Yes, but they have to be tasteful, like a single flower.
  2. It depends! I might give them something that reminds me of them, but I make sure it’s super casual.
  3. Not really. I feel weird giving gifts to someone I like. What if they don’t like it?
  4. Sure, but I go for something unexpected. Like a cool rock I found.

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A Quick Guide to Flirting

Open with a question, compliment, or both.
A question is immediately engaging, and helps you connect to the other person more quickly. Bonus points if you can pair it with a compliment. For example, you might ask: “I love that shirt, where’d you get it?” or, “I’ve been working up the guts to come say hi. Do you come here often?” A little humor sprinkled on top is the icing on the cake.

Ask them about themself.
When you’re flirting, it’s important to let the other person know that you’re genuinely interested in them and want to get to know them. Once you’ve introduced yourself, asking them casual questions about themself is both flattering and polite. You might ask them what they do for work, what their favorite spot in town is, or something about their day that’s made them happy. When they answer, ask follow-up questions or provide your own answer to the question to make an even deeper connection.

Make eye contact.
Eye contact is crucial to making the other person feel comfortable and at ease. It shows them that you’re comfortable, yourself, and that it’s a friendly, well-meaning interaction. That said, it’s important to match their energy. If they don’t seem to want to make eye contact, don’t push it, but do keep glancing their way and checking in. Just be sure they’re not avoiding eye contact because they’re uncomfortable, in which case, it’s best to end the interaction.

Keep your body language friendly and open.
Sit or stand straight, and keep your shoulders loose and angled toward them. Don’t hunch or stoop your neck, which can make you seem closed off. Also, keep your hands out of your pockets. In a pinch, holding a drink gives you something to do with those hands. Also, give the other person plenty of personal space. It’s alright to lean in or come closer if things are going well, but only if you’ve got the green light.

Stay respectful.
Above all, give the other person the respect and consideration they deserve. Avoid commenting on their body, or going overboard with compliments about their looks. Keep your hands to yourself unless they move closer. And if they ever appear uncomfortable, take a step back and reel it in. You won’t get anywhere flirting with someone who doesn’t want it, so excuse yourself and move on to other things if that’s the case. Respect is the best form of flirting!

Ask for their number, or another meeting. Once it’s time to part ways, make sure you have some way of contacting them. You might say, “I’ve really enjoyed our conversation, can I give you my number so we can continue?” or, “Will I see you around here again sometime?” Giving them your number (instead of asking for their number) puts the ball in their court and makes sure they walk away from the interaction feeling comfortable and not pressured, which ups your chances of a second date!

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