Clever Ways to Ask If She'll Be Yours This Valentine's Day

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Make that special someone your valentine with these helpful tips
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If you have a crush on a girl, asking her to be your valentine could be the perfect way to let her know how you feel. Or, if she’s already your girlfriend, it’s a great way to make her feel special and amp up the romance. Luckily, we’ve compiled a complete guide on how to do this, including expert advice from dating coaches and mental health professionals. Keep reading to learn how to make her swoon on V-day!

Ways to Ask Someone to Be Your Valentine

  1. Send her a cute gift, like a heart-shaped pizza, with a note asking her.
  2. Surprise her with a beautiful bouquet of her favorite flowers.
  3. Bake her a yummy treat, like chocolate chip cookies, brownies, or a cake.
  4. Plan a romantic scavenger hunt, ending with your big ask.
  5. Make her a personalized playlist of songs that are meaningful to you two.
  6. Write her a heartfelt note on a handmade Valentine’s Day card.
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Creative Ways to Ask Her to Be Your Valentine

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  1. Feel free to get clever and punny. For example, buy her a pizza decorated with a heart formed out of pepperoni and write, “I know it’s cheesy, but…will you be my valentine?” on the lid. Or, get her a small stuffed animal holding a sign with the same question. Whether you express yourself with food or a romantic memento, you’re sure to put a smile on her face. [1]
    • Level-up a bar of chocolate by putting a cute note on it, like a short and simple, "Chocolate is sweet, but you're sweeter. Will you be my valentine?"
    • You can also put a label on a bucket of popcorn and write, "In my eyes, you're perfect! I'm not just buttering you up!" on it. Then, give it to her and ask if she'll catch a movie with you on Valentine’s Day.
    • Or, you can give her a s'mores kit that's packed in a mason jar and tie a little sign on it that says, "There's nothing I like s'more than you! Be my valentine?"
  2. When it comes to Valentine’s Day, you can never go wrong with flowers . “To some people, flowers are very meaningful symbols of love,” explains marriage and family therapist Moshe Ratson. They’re also a great option if you’re on a budget, since you can usually find reasonably-priced bouquets at places like the grocery store (or you can even pick flowers yourself for a cost-free option).
    • Try to remember what her favorite flowers are, or get some hints from her friends. For instance, she may prefer tiger lilies or tulips . When in doubt, you can never go wrong with a lush bouquet of red roses .
    • To brighten her mood even more, deliver them when she’s at work or school—it’ll definitely make her feel special and impress everyone around her!
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  3. After all, the way to a girl’s heart is through her stomach! If you’re more of an amateur baker, try following a recipe for a delicious but basic treat, like a batch of chocolate chip cookies . If you’re a cooking enthusiast, try something indulgent that requires a little more skill. For example, French macarons or an exquisite cake are sure to impress! [2]
    • To go the extra mile, make your baked goods with heart-shaped baking trays and decorate them with colors like pink or red.
    • Use a small piping bag to write a short and sweet message on your mouth-watering treats, like "be mine," "xoxo," or "Happy V-day!"
  4. Is your special someone a coffee lover? Try using a coffee stencil to create a cute design, like a heart or a flower, and surprise her with the delicious latte before work or school.
    • Want to go above and beyond? Spend some dough on a customized stencil so you can spell out her name or give her a special message that proclaims your love and affection. Your special sentiment will taste so sweet! [3]
  5. If you want to ask her to be your valentine in an extravagant way, a romantic scavenger hunt could be perfect. Hide objects around her school or at your place, then give her a list of clues to follow. For example, tape a cute selfie to her locker, hide a corsage in your glove compartment, and wait at the cafeteria to hand her a big box of chocolates as her final prize. When she meets up with you, drop the age-old question: will she be your valentine? [4]
    • Here's an example clue to inspire you. Say you wanted to direct her to your school's track field. You might plant clue #1 in her locker, with this note: To "track" down the first clue, "race" over to the spot where we first met 1 year ago.
  6. For a tongue-in-cheek valentine message, find a spot where you know she’ll be, like her front doorstep or her locker. Form a heart out of chocolate kisses right on the ground. Then, drop a note in the center that says something like: “Now that I have kissed the ground that you walk on, will you be my valentine?” She could get a real kick out of you punny message! [5]
  7. Brainstorm ways to show off your special talents and skills when you ask her out. For example, if you’re a singer or part of the school choir, you could serenade her with a romantic song. In fact, you could even get some of your other musically inclined friends to help out and make it a Valentine’s Day she’ll always remember!
    • If you’re an artist, you can draw a portrait of her, or if you’re in a woodworking class, you could build a cute memento box for her. In both of these cases, she’ll have a memento she can cherish forever, which is an added bonus.
    • Whatever you go with, chances are she’ll really appreciate the fact that you put your whole heart into it!
  8. “Organize a list of songs that create certain pleasant memories,” suggests Ratson. For example, add the song you listened to on the way to your first date, or the first song you slow-danced to. Or, if you’re not in a relationship with her yet, try gradually dialing up the romance with your song choices—start with a song about having a crush, then end with one that hints you have serious feelings for her. [6]
    • Think about the genres that she seems to like. Whether it’s pop, punk, or alternative rock, it’s important to treat her to some ear candy she actually enjoys!
    • Add all the songs to a playlist on Spotify or Apple Music, or go old-school and burn them onto a CD for your valentine to listen to any time.
  9. For a super bold way to ask a girl out and request that she be your valentine, create a vid just for her: all you need is bravery, sincerity, and a smartphone! When you express all your feelings and intentions, you’re sure to make her melt. [7]
    • Send the clip via text or direct message. Check if she'd be okay with you sharing it on social media, too. She might be really touched if you share your feelings for her publicly.
    • Here's another bonus—you can keep re-recording your message until you feel like it's perfect and ready for her to see.
    • If you really want to go "all in," list all the reasons you like her and fell for her, then wrap it up by asking her to be your valentine.
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    Ask her on a special, one-of-a-kind Valentine’s Day date. “Try to think of unique Valentine’s Day dates, besides just dinner and a movie,” suggests matchmaker and dating coach Courtney Quinlan. “You could go ice skating. You could go on a tour of a brewery or to a winery. You could go on a dog park date. You could do a couple’s cooking class, or maybe some kind of a concert or musical.” The options are endless!
    • When you ask her out on your unique date, try to use a cute, funny, or romantic pun.
    • For example, you could give her a card that says: “I’ve already fallen for you, but if you want to watch me fall some more, meet me at the ice rink at 6:00 p.m. on Friday.”
    • Then, when you get to the rink for your date, you could hand her a bouquet of flowers and ask her to be your valentine.
  11. To make a girl feel extra special on Valentine’s Day, “you must know her, and what she likes and doesn’t like,” explains professional Matchmaker LeTisha Underwood. When you ask her to be your valentine, take her hobbies, extracurriculars, and favorite colors, foods, and places into account.
    • For example, maybe she’s nuts for roller derby, adores polka dots, and loves the park. Arrange a romantic picnic at the park for her, and gift her with a brand-new set of polka dot roller skates. Your niche valentine will knock her socks off!
    • Or, say she's an animal lover who enjoys being in nature. Try inviting her to hike to a beautiful look-out point. At the end, you could give her a stuffed elephant from a non-profit that supports animal welfare and ask her to be your valentine. [8]
  12. “Words are a powerful way to illustrate love, gratitude, and appreciation,” so take this chance to “describe exactly how you feel about her on paper,” says Ratson. To infuse your message with extra love and care, try making a handmade card . Get some nice cardstock, fold it in half, cut hearts out of red or pink construction paper, and glue them on, then write your message in your best handwriting. [9]
    • If you’re not crafty, no worries! Just keep her personality in mind when you pick a V-day card at the store or online. For example, if she likes to goof off with you, opt for a jokey card that treats her to a punchline when she opens it up.
    • Not sure what to write? Here are some sample messages to inspire you:
      • “Happy Valentine’s Day to the one who makes my heart skip a beat. I feel so lucky to know someone as kind, thoughtful, and beautiful as you!”
      • “The more I’ve gotten to know you, the more I’ve fallen for you. I’d be the happiest person in the world if I could call you mine. Will you be my valentine?”
      • “You bring a smile to my face even on my toughest days, and you mean more to me than I can even express in words. Will you do me the honor of being my valentine?”
      • “You are my sun, my moon, and all my stars.” — E.E. Cummings
      • “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” — Aristotle
      • “Grow old with me! The best is yet to be.” — Robert Browning
      • “If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.” — Winnie the Pooh
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    Giving someone a Valentine’s card is all about showing that you care. If you have a store-bought card, fill it with a thoughtful message or personal doodle, then don’t forget to decorate the envelope. Adding stickers, washi tape, or hand-lettering their name on the front are great ways to make the card special!

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How to Ask Her to Be Your Valentine Directly

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  1. Before you shoot your shot, make sure she’s actually single. Talk to a couple of her buddies, let them know that you’ve had your eye on her, and ask them if she’s available. Who knows—they might reveal that she’s been crushing on you and has been waiting for you to make your move! [10]
    • They may even give you some tips about how to woo her. For example, maybe she’s a little on the shy side or needs some time to warm up to someone, so she likes to text before going on a date.
  2. It’s only natural to think about all the things you could say when you talk to her. Don’t sweat it too much, though. Asking a girl to be your valentine should be fun and chill! Just be direct and tell her you’d love to spend Valentine’s Day with her. For example, you could say: “To be honest, I’m really crushing on you and I’d love to take you on a date. Would you be my valentine?”
    • You can also compliment her on the things you love about her, like her awesome sense of humor or fun personality: "I've always found you really cute, and most importantly, you make me laugh. You're so witty and sharp!"
    • You can also bring up things you have in common to show her how compatible you are. [11] For example: "It's been so fun being on the Debate Team with you. I can tell how passionate you are about making your case. I'm the exact same way!"
  3. It can be a bit nerve-wracking to approach a girl and ask her to be your valentine, so it’s a good idea to rehearse your spiel ahead of time. Stand in front of a mirror and focus on being calm and direct. Practice using good posture , looking forward, and keeping your hands out of your pockets while you’re talking. All these details really count, and they can help build chemistry and attraction right away! [12]
    • Start off with a polite greeting: “Hey! It’s good to see you.” Then, show interest in her day: “How’s it going?”
    • Finally, smile and cut to the chase—tell her exactly why you approached her: “I’d love to get together on Valentine’s Day. I think we’d have a lot of fun.”
    • “There’s no true way of knowing someone is interested in you unless you ask,” says Underwood. So if you're feeling nervous, remember that the only way to win her over is to take that leap of faith and tell her how you feel. You've got this!
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Tips to Help You Win Her Over

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  1. While you don’t have to pull out all the stops, you should make an effort to look your best when you approach her. Pick out a nice outfit and make sure you’re properly groomed . If you smell nice and look great, it helps you make a good impression. Don’t worry about being super formal—just look put-together, and if all else fails, wear something that makes you feel great. Confidence is attractive to everyone! [13]
    • Now, if you’d like to put on a signature scent and wear a killer outfit, like a designer shirt and new jeans, it might give you an extra edge.
  2. The right approach depends on what makes you feel comfortable, and what the vibe of your relationship is like. If you like to connect face-to-face, talking in person can show her how sincere you are. However, if you’re a little more shy, it might be easier to text her or reach out on Instagram. This could also be the right move if you already have a back-and-forth convo going over text or DM. Trust your instincts: whatever feels right is the best move.
    • If you do decide to send a cute text to ask her to be your valentine, her are some ideas of what you could say:
      • “Roses are red, violets are blue; I’d love to go out on a date with you. Would you be my valentine?”
      • “I love talking to you, and I think you’re the coolest girl in the world. Will you 🐝 mine this Valentine's Day?”
      • “Are you a thief? Because you’ve completely stolen my heart ❤️ Will you be my valentine?”
  3. To build up her anticipation and give her a sense of what she’s in for, paint a picture of the plans you made. Bring up whether you want to take her out to lunch or dinner. If you had an activity in mind, like ice skating or going to the movies, let her know. Tell her it’s your treat, and you’ll pay for everything since you’re asking her out. [14]
    • For example, you can say, “I’d love to take you out to dinner. Then, we can hit up that mini golf spot—I hear it’s a blast," or "Let's grab coffee and end with a trivia night: I'm dying to see which of us would win!"
    • Also give her some input so you can give her the best experience: “I was thinking that we can spend the afternoon at the lake. The weather will be perfect for it. I can rent a boat for us, and I’ll bring a picnic basket. What’re your favorite picnic foods?”
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