How to Attract a Virgo Man as a Leo Woman (Compatibility for Virgo and Leo)

Co-authored by Jessica Lanyadoo and Jessica Gibson

Last Updated: September 2, 2024 Fact Checked

If you're a fiery Leo woman, you may be wondering if you're compatible with a grounded Virgo man. Although you're different in a lot of ways, opposites attract! You can build on your mutual communication strength to create a great relationship. Ready to get started? We'll give you tips for catching your Virgo and keeping him hooked.

1

Make yourself easily approachable.

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Virgo men aren’t ones to chase, so he should know you’re interested. This might mean that you make direct eye contact with him frequently, you smile, and you display open body language. For instance, keep your arms uncrossed, lean in towards him, and occasionally brush up against him or touch his arm. Your Leo strengths should make it easy for you to make your interest known. ^{[1]
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- If you play hard to get, your Virgo guy probably won’t make the effort—he’s naturally shy and he prefers that you signal your availability.

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Flirt so he knows you're into him.

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Virgos can be overly cautious, so he might not make a move on his own. He's looking to you to reveal if you like him. As a Leo, it shouldn't be hard to show your fun playful side. Try to chat him up—the wittier the conversation, the better! ^{[2]
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Astrologer & Psychic Medium

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- Be genuine when you flirt or he might not be interested in you. For instance, you could say something like, "I think you have the most beautiful eyes." He'll appreciate your honesty and direct approach.

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Show off a neat and clean appearance.

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You’ve probably heard that Virgos are tidy. This is totally true! He’ll notice immediately if your sweater’s fraying or you’ve got stains on your skirt. Spend extra time on your outfit, so you look completely polished and put together. As a Leo, it shouldn't be hard for you to look extra regal for your Virgo guy.
- Skip flashy, bright colors and reach for pale, neutral, or earthy colors instead. Virgo is usually associated with dark blue colors, so you can't go wrong with a navy outfit.

4

Do charitable activities together.

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Virgos are known for their kindness and generosity, so volunteer with him. Your humanitarian efforts as a Leo are one of the biggest things that you have in common with your Virgo man, so really highlight that. In addition to volunteering, you could ask him to donate or spread the word about a charitable cause you support.
- Want a great date idea? Ask your Virgo to participate in a 5k run for charity. This will appeal to his humanitarian side and he'll love the fact that he's doing a healthy activity.

5

Spend time with him in an intimate setting.

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Most Virgos are more comfortable talking one-on-one or in small groups. Even though you thrive in a crowd since you're a Leo, he probably won't be thrilled if you ask him out to a big party or concert. Instead, plan a date where the two of you can spend time talking and getting to know one another. ^{[3]
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Jessica Lanyadoo
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Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.}
- Need some date ideas? Think a stroll through the park, an afternoon at an art gallery, or drinks at a sophisticated bar.

6

Ask for his help.

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Virgos are natural helpers, so make him feel useful. You might ask him to help you with a project around your home or enlist his help in studying for a course you're taking. He'll also feel valued if you ask for his opinion and not just his assistance. Most Leos won't find it hard to reach out for help and it will really mean a lot to your Virgo guy. ^{[4]
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- For instance, you could ask, "Which class do you think I should take at the community center—pottery or Spanish?" or, "I'm not sure what jobs I should apply for. What careers do you think I'd be good at?"
- Reader Poll: We asked 421 wikiHow readers who've dated Virgo men, and 78% of them agreed that the best way to get them to take interest in you is by asking for help with a project. [Take Poll]

7

Give him time to get to know you.

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It takes Virgos time before they feel comfortable opening up, so don't rush him. As a Leo, you probably find it really easy to share how you're feeling. Your Virgo guy is most likely a lot more reserved! ^{[5]
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Jessica Lanyadoo
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Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.} Just take it easy and let your relationship progress naturally—don't push him to have emotional discussions before he's ready. ^{[6]
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- It might take time, but once he trusts you, he'll probably make an effort to express his emotions more.

8

Respect his need for order and routine.

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Your Virgo man thrives with a schedule, so don't spring a surprise date on him. Although it might be hard for you as a Leo, try to be a little less impulsive. He'll feel more comfortable around you if you don't throw off his usual routine.
- It's also super important that you're on time for dates. He values his time and will really appreciate it if you don't run late.

9

Have deep conversations.

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Virgos are simulated by a quick mind, so don't hide your intelligence. Your ability to communicate with him is one of your best assets! ^{[7]
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Jessica Lanyadoo
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Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.} It's a well-known Leo and Virgo trait. Try to have thoughtful conversations that really get him thinking. It's fine to skip the small talk in favor of topics like philosophy, art, leadership, or religious beliefs. ^{[8]
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- For example, you could ask him something like, "What do you think are some of humanity's biggest achievements?" or, "What's something that gives you hope?"

10

Appear confident and love yourself.

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Virgos can seem reserved, but they're drawn to people who are sure of themselves. As a Leo, you're probably great at walking into a room and letting your confidence shine for everyone to see. He'll notice this and be attracted to your fearless belief in yourself.
- It's fine if you're not the life of the party, but you should still hold your head high and let him see that you value yourself.

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Tame your ego if you're having a disagreement.

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Your Virgo guy wants someone who's humble and considerate. Deep down, he's also really sensitive. Sometimes, Leos can be impulsive and you might say something honest that he's not prepared to hear. If you hurt his feelings by saying something brash, he'll have a hard time letting go. Practice self-mastery and really consider your words before you speak, especially if you want to have an emotional conversation with him.
- Let go of needing to be right since it's more important to him that you two are thoughtful toward each other.