Sven Loss
Relationship Coach
Sven loss is a relationship and behavior coach.
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Forum Comments (6)
Should we break up?
I'm sorry this is happening to you, and thanks for sharing so much. This relationship does sound like it is draining you, but as you mentioned, it could be a coincidence. Take some time for introspection. Ask yourself, multiple times, "Do I want to be here?"
If you answer no, then you're staying with them out of guilt, not out of love, and it's time to move on.
If you answer no, then you're staying with them out of guilt, not out of love, and it's time to move on.
Romantic and unique date ideas?
The best date ideas are the ones that are specifically catered to your partner's interests. Listen closely when they talk about what they like and don't like, and tailor your date to what they think is romantic, not what you think is romantic.
I really like her but I can't seem to make myself tell her
It's important to see and acknowledge, okay, I'm afraid to walk up my crush and tell them or ask them out. You have to acknowledge your fear and accept that you're afraid. Then you have tell yourself, "everybody has this fear, everybody deals with it, I can do it anyway."
Don't, though, stuff your fear down or pretend it's not there. You can even walk up to them and tell them, "hey, I'm super nervous, and I really like you. I'd like to take you out on a date. Would you be interested?"
I always advocate for making fear be okay. Love the fear, accept the fear, and do it anyway.
Don't, though, stuff your fear down or pretend it's not there. You can even walk up to them and tell them, "hey, I'm super nervous, and I really like you. I'd like to take you out on a date. Would you be interested?"
I always advocate for making fear be okay. Love the fear, accept the fear, and do it anyway.
I need advice about a crush dillema! Help!
I always say that you should talk to your friend and get their permission to pursue your crush if the friendship matters to you. If they're a real friend, they won't want to be in your way.
Should I end things?
I would encourage you to understand why you are in a situation where your partner doesn't really choose you, why they don't commit to you. Why is that person okay to be in a dynamic where they're not being committed to?
That question is way more important to explore than whether to end the relationship or not, because once you decide that you only want someone who is committed to you, you can free yourself from this situation.
So ask yourself, "Why am I in this dynamic? What does it have to do with me? What can I do about it?" Then, if you decide you want to change the dynamic, tell the guy, "I want someone who commits to me, are you that or not?" If they say they aren't, then they've ended things for you.
That question is way more important to explore than whether to end the relationship or not, because once you decide that you only want someone who is committed to you, you can free yourself from this situation.
So ask yourself, "Why am I in this dynamic? What does it have to do with me? What can I do about it?" Then, if you decide you want to change the dynamic, tell the guy, "I want someone who commits to me, are you that or not?" If they say they aren't, then they've ended things for you.
