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If your boyfriend is having a hard time, you want to cheer him up right away. Since challenges can come up when you least expect them, it’s great to know exactly what will put a smile on your S.O.’s face. In this article, we’ll cover a bunch of ways to comfort him even when you’re apart. Check out these tips for how to cheer your boyfriend up over the phone—try your favorites and he’ll know you always have his back.

This article is based on an interview with our professional dating coach, John Keegan, founder of The Awakened Lifestyle. Check out the full interview here. }

1

Tell him you’re always around to listen.

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  1. Even if you’re busy during parts of the day, let him know that it’s totally fine to send a text. Also bring up that you’ll set aside time so you can give him your full attention. [1] You’ll make sure he feels adored 24/7 and has a shoulder to lean on. [2] Say something like:
    • “Reach out whenever you need, babe. ❤️ I’m always here for you.”
    • “After 6 PM, I’m free all evening. 😚 I’ll pick up as soon as you call.”
    • “Remember, you’re not alone. 💕 I’m just a text away.”
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2

Invite him to talk about his feelings.

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  1. He may want to come up with his own solutions. [3] Ask him to share his point of view so you can understand what’s bothering him. Then, check in about the best way for him to open up—he may prefer a phone call, or he might like longer texts to capture his thoughts. [4] Support him by saying:
    • “You seem down. 😔 Can you tell me what’s going on?”
    • “If you’re comfortable with it, I’d love to unpack what you're feeling.”
    • “What’s better? Texts or a phone call? I want to know what’s on your mind.”
3

Thank him for being honest with you.

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  1. No matter what mood he’s in—whether it’s frustrated, sad, or anything else—let him know that all his experiences are valid. [5] Even if his word choice is different from what you’re used to or he sees a situation in another way than you do, embrace his perspective. [6] For example:
    • “That all makes total sense. 🫂 Thank you for sharing that with me.”
    • “I really relate to what you said. You explained everything perfectly. 💖”
    • “I value your honesty. From what I understand, you feel… Does that seem right?”
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Send words of encouragement.

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  1. If he’s feeling unsure or worried, make sure you acknowledge his feelings first. He’ll know that you’re paying attention to his concerns. Then, give him a supportive pep talk. It’ll fill him with hope and calm him down. [7]
    • “I know you’re stressed, but you’ve got this! 💪 😚”
    • “I know you're nervous about the test, but you studied hard. I think you'll ace it! 💯 ❤️"
    • “It’s totally normal to second-guess yourself. Still, you’re an incredible public speaker! 🎤 🤩”
5

Check if he needs some space.

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  1. In order to work through something, he might need to look within himself. [8] He also may need to shake things up and throw himself into any hobbies, distractions, or social events that lift his mood. [9]
    • “Hey, just wondering if you’d like some space? If so, I totally respect that.”
    • “Do you want a little time to yourself? Maybe you can play that new game 🎮?”
    • “Would it help to hang out with your friends? Isn’t it fantasy football season? 🏈”
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7

Say you’re making his fave comfort food.

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  1. Work up his appetite and send a text that describes anything he’s raved about or that reminds him of his childhood. [11] Earn extra brownie points by snapping a pic—it’ll brighten his day and make his mouth water! [12]
    • “Got all the fixings for three layer lasagna! Here’s a pic so you know what’s in store for you tonight. 😉 🖼️”
    • “A vid of me whipping up baked mac&cheese! See how it's bubbling? You can bet it’s gonna amaze! 🧀 🎥”
    • “Made a whole bunch of oatmeal muffins! 🧁🧁 Didn’t even know they existed until you told me about them!”
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Shower him with compliments.

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  1. Express just how much he amazes you. Focus on how everyone else benefits from his presence, too. When you shift the convo to words of appreciation, you’ll even release “oxytocin,” or the “love hormone.” It’ll make you two feel super close, even when you’re long-distance. [15] Boost his ego with something like:
    • “You are a great listener. 👂🏾 I adore how you make everyone feel recognized.”
    • “You’re so brilliant! 🤯 I feel like I level up you speak.”
    • “You impress me every day. Your creativity is breathtaking. 🎨”
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11

Send a cute selfie.

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  1. Send a snap of his fave person—you! Entertain him with happy, flirty, or funny expressions and poses. [17] You could say:
    • Give him a big smile and text something like, “Me when you call me! 💖”
    • Make a goofy face and joke, “Do you still love me when I do this? 😜”
    • Show off a nice new outfit and say, “Picked this up just for you! 😏”
    • Studies show that if he sees your face, he’ll feel the same way you do—for example, if you smile, he’ll be happier already. His brain will receive info about an emotion and try to copy it. [18]
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12

Try a video call.

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  1. If you can’t be there in person, video is the next best thing. Make sure to block out time when you won’t have any distractions, then find a nice setting that will create the right mood. [19] For example:
    • In the morning, make some coffee or tea, then talk about how you’ll both make sure your days turn out great.
    • After you’re done with work or school, chat while you both make dinner and walk each other through what you were up to.
    • Before you go to bed, light some candles and put on some cute pajamas. Have a lazy, romantic convo and wish each other goodnight.
13

Ask him if you can help with anything.

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14

Snap a pic of a gift you got for him.

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15

Plan some fun activities.

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  1. Think about what would entertain him and combat his stress. Then, bring up all your ideas and make sure your excitement comes across over the phone or in your texts. [23] Your pitch can include a hobby he loves, something interesting he’s never tried before, or a way to bond as a couple. [24] For example, you can say:
    • "Wanna play some rounds of tennis tomorrow? 🎾 I’ve got something super cute to wear! 😏”
    • “I just read about bioluminescent kayaking! We should try it out! ✨ 🚣🏾‍♂️"
    • “Down for a sci-fi marathon and a cuddle session tonight? 🤖 🫂”
    • “Let’s shake things up a little! You down for some indoor skydiving with me? 🤸‍♂️🤸‍♀️”
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16

Joke around with him.

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  1. Randomly hit him with a meme or a silly gif. You can also tell him any funny jokes you come across or come up with one on the spot—whether you’re a pro at comedy or just super goofy, he’ll definitely love all your effort! [25] For example:
    • Send him links to your favorite silly clips from a TV show or vlogger.
    • Stream a standup routine and watch it together.
    • Text a silly pick-up line like, “Do you know CPR? Because you take my breath away. 😳”
17

Talk about your goals together.

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  1. If he’s had a hard day, encourage him to look ahead and focus on what he wants to accomplish. Chat about what he wants to get done that month, or discuss what’s possible 5-10 years from now. Also visualize milestones that you’d love to reach as a couple. [26]
    • “You’ll be done training for your marathon next week! 👟You’ll definitely crush the race!”
    • “Hey, have you ever thought about who you’ll be 5 years from now? 🤔 I can already see how successful you’ll be!”
    • “We’ll get through any rough patch and build an amazing life together. Promise. ❤️❤️”
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