How to Have a Perfect Coffee Shop Date

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The best times, outfits, and ideas for a coffee shop date
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You’ve done the hard part and landed the date, but now you gotta actually plan the thing. May we suggest the humble coffee date? Low-cost, low-key, low-stakes, and if all goes well, high reward. But as much as we believe in cafe courtship, there are a few things you should know before putting a caffeine-fueled meet-cute on the books. We’ll fill you in on all the pros and cons of a coffee date, how to plan one, and how to pull it off. Just bring some gum for that coffee breath before you lean in for the kiss.

Things You Should Know

  • Coffee dates are great since they’re low-cost and encourage conversation.
  • On the other hand, coffee dates might be too noisy to vibe with the other person, or too formal to get a romantic read on them.
  • Choose a public, nearby cafe, arrive on time, and wear something that says, “Yeah, I look good, and if you’re smooth I can look even better.”
  • Offer to buy the drinks, ask questions about your date, and ditch the cafe for a park or museum if you hit it off.
Section 1 of 4:

Advantages of a Coffee Date

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    A public venue on a first date makes it easier to dodge shady shenanigans. Coffee shops are ultra-public, meaning your potential partner has to be on their best behavior. Plus, pretty much every city, town, and humble hamlet has at least one cafe, making them an easy destination. [1]
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    You’re not gonna break the bank on a filet mignon at your local coffee shop (unless the cafe is weirdly ritzy). A few bucks on coffee or tea is a low price for budding romance, and it also means there’s not much lost if the spark doesn’t ignite. [2]
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    There’s nowhere to hide on a coffee date, and that’s a good thing. You and your boo-to-be can get to know one another without distractions—putt putt and bowling can come later. [3]
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    This isn’t romance, it’s science. The caffeine in your cuppa makes you more alert and energized so you can present your best self. And when you’re attentive, you’re attractive. [4]
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    Alcohol isn’t the greatest wingman, contrary to popular belief. At a bar or restaurant where libations flow freely, you’re more likely to get a little messy. Plus, a relationship built on inebriation isn’t one we’re willing to bet on. [5]
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    If your date can’t stop talking about the latest TV show you’ll never see, you’re not locked into the date for the next few hours. A well-executed, “Oh no, I’ve got a meeting in 10,” will get you up and on your way. To a better date, hopefully. [6]
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Section 2 of 4:

Disadvantages of a Coffee Date

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    If you’re unfortunate enough to hit the coffee shop at rush hour (early morning and lunchtime), you might struggle to find a seat. Then if you do find a seat, chances are you’ll be shouting over a dozen other conversations and the grating clinks of mugs on tables. [7]
    • If you do go the coffee date route, beat the crowds by showing up at mid-morning or in the afternoon.
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    You know what else involves you and another person sitting across from each other and volleying question after question? A business meeting. There’s nothing less romantic than a job interview. [8]
    • To avoid the business-casual rendezvous, sit diagonally apart at a table rather than face-to-face.
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    Sure, it’s sweet and cozy—and we’re big believers in the coffee date, don’t get us wrong—but some people just don’t see the magic. They’d rather be in a swan boat on a lazy river or frolicking through a tulip field. We won’t deny that there are more dazzling possibilities. [9]
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    This is just an inevitability. The coffee giveth, and the coffee taketh away. In this case, it’s taking your minty-fresh, billboard smile, and giving that stale, earthy mouth-odor. If you’re counting on kissing on the first date, pack some gum or a disposable toothbrush . [10]
    • Avoid coffee breath by washing it down with water. Or just opt for tea.
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    Yes, these people are real and they’re out there. We have to respect their decision to lead java-free lives, tragic as it is. If you got the coffee date route, make sure the venue also serves tea, soft drinks, or some other beverage of choice, when that choice is not a beautiful dark roast. [11]
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Section 3 of 4:

Planning a Coffee Date

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    Just because 2 people are sitting down for coffee doesn’t necessarily mean it’s romantic. It could also be platonic, for business, or just because there’s no more room at other tables and so now you gotta share yours with a stranger. Before the date, make sure the other person knows you’re looking for love, not just hoping to pass the time. [12]
    • Message them something like, “Just to be clear, this is a date, right?”
    • You might also say, “For the record, you’re single, right? How would you feel about changing that?”
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    Ideally, the spot will be somewhere between your homes, so neither has to commute much further than the other. Also, visit the cafe the day before if you haven’t already been. Otherwise your idyllic meet-cute may be thwarted by a decidedly dingy hole-in-the-wall. [13]
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    Of course, follow your own bliss when dressing for your first date . But a fancy dress or a full suit probably isn’t the vibe here. Jeans and a nice sweater are the go-to, and any other outfits should be about at that level of effort. Something that says, “I look nice, but you’ll have to give me a reason to look nicer next time.” [14]
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    Of course, if you really hit it off, you might be there for hours. But as a rule, set aside about 1 hour to get in and get out. [15] That gives you enough time to get a read on the person’s vibe and decide if they’re someone you want to go further with. And if the vibe isn’t great? Well, it’s only an hour.
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Section 4 of 4:

Coffee Date Etiquette

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    Better yet, arrive 10-15 minutes early. Nobody likes to be kept waiting for a date. Not to mention that you’ll have to get in line, order, then wait for that order before the conversation can really get rolling. [16]
    • While you wait for your date to arrive, take a moment to settle in and get comfortable. If you’re relaxed, your date will be relaxed.
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    Sitting at the bar might put you a little too close for comfort, and faces your bodies away from each other. But sitting across from each other can be a bit too formal, and some people don’t like being forced into that much eye contact. Choose a table with some daylight, if possible (to flatter both your looks), and sit catty-corner from each other for comfortable conversation. [17]
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    How someone treats service workers says a lot about their character. If your order comes out wrong, be polite and patient. Then, watch how your date interacts with the baristas, too. If your date gives the worker attitude, give your date a wave goodbye. [18]
    • Remember to give a generous tip—20% of the bill, at minimum.
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    Make a move to foot the bill, regardless of your gender. This is modern dating in a modern world, and pulling out your wallet or purse signals that you’re as generous as you are stunning. That said, don’t insist too hard if your date turns down your dollar. It’s the thought that counts, after all. [19]
    • To really impress your date , arrive early and ask them via message what they drink, then have it ready on the table when they arrive.
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    And we’ll say it again: turn off your phone! You’re here to find your one and only, not check Twitter. If you absolutely must, leave it in your pocket on vibrate, and excuse yourself to the restroom to check on it. [20]
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    There’s not much worse than a date who can only talk about themselves. Make sure you’re pitching your share of questions, and listen intently to your date’s answer. Some thoughtful, non-formulaic, engaging questions are: [21]
    • What’s something you’re proud of?
    • What’s brought you joy today?
    • What are you passionate about?
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    Flirting on the first date is key to securing that second date, but it’s also important not to come on too strong. Drop a few flattering comments on their hair or outfit. Then, later in the date, compliment their conversation skills, and let them know how much you’re enjoying yourself. [22]
    • Remember to make eye contact, which tells them you’re both confident and engaged with the conversation.
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    Maybe the best part about a coffee date is that it doesn’t have to be the end of the line. If you’ve got a connection, you may well find yourself glued to your seat for hours. Let another customer take that seat, and suggest to your date that you go on a walk. [23]
    • Afterward, hit up a nearby museum, browse an antique shop, or just sit in a park. If it comes to this, you know to ask for a second date .
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