How to Convince Your Boyfriend to Get a Dog

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If you and your boyfriend are discussing the possibility of getting a dog but he isn’t totally on board yet, you have plenty of options at your disposal. You can go the super logical route and try to construct a sound argument for why getting a dog makes sense, or you can bring his soft side out by appealing to his emotions. In this article, we’ll give you a plethora of options so that you can get your boyfriend to buy into the idea of bringing a new furry friend into your life!

1

Figure out why he doesn’t want a dog.

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    Dogs are downright lovable, so people who don’t like dogs usually have a specific reason. If you’ve floated the idea of getting a dog and he wasn’t open to it, ask him why. This way, you can address his specific issue with a concrete solution. This alone might bring him over to your side. [1]
    • If he’s worried about the costs, point out that you can offer to cut back on your spending habits to cover food and puppy supplies.
    • If he’s concerned it’s too much work, you might emphasize that you’ll take the lead to train it.
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Explain the health benefits.

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    Having a dog means you have to take them on walks and play with them, which gets you moving throughout the day. They can also help you maintain a regular schedule, since your morning and evening walks require a routine. There’s also a ton of evidence that animal companionship is good for your mental health. Spelling out the benefits may convince him to get a dog! [2]
    • If you two ever spend long periods of time apart and your boyfriend gets bummed out, he may be happy to know that dogs can dramatically alleviate loneliness. [3]
    • If your boyfriend has any kind of issue with mood swings, anxiety, or depression, getting a dog can help alleviate those feels and bring him a sense of calm. [4]
3

Appeal to the fun factor.

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    Unless you and your boyfriend are already as happy as you could possibly be, adding a dog to the equation is likely going to improve both of your moods. Puppy play time is also a great way to destress. Point out how fun it would be to have a puppy fall asleep on your chest, or wrestle with a big goofy dog. [5]
    • Seeing and interacting with dogs actually causes (most) people to produce oxytocin, the hormone in your brain responsible for social bonding, relaxation, and calmness. [6]
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4

Tell him you’ll do all the work.

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    A lot of people get nervous about how much work a dog is. If your boyfriend is opposed to adding things to his “to do” list every day, simply promise to take care of the dog. You really want the pup, so it’s likely you’d be volunteering to walk it every day anyways, right? [7]
    • You could explain that you’d do the research when it comes to finding a dog and picking a vet.
    • You might promise to train the dog, or find a trainer for the dog without your boyfriend’s help.
5

Offer to cover the expenses.

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    A lot of people worry about the costs associated with a dog. If your boyfriend doesn’t want to pay anything and you have separate bank accounts, tell him you’ll pay for it yourself. If you share finances, you could always save up over time to afford all of the upfront costs. [8]
    • There are some upfront costs when you’re getting a dog. You’ll need a crate, treats, toys, leash, and initial checkups at the vet. You can save a ton by adopting a pet that’s already spayed/neutered, though!
    • Food and treats will typically cost you around $250-700 a year. [9]
    • Medical expenses can vary depending on the health of your dog, but you can plan on spending at least $700 a year for routine medical checkups. [10]
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6

Send him plenty of cute dog photos.

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    Your boyfriend may get on board if he looks at a bunch of cute dogs, the same way you might get a craving for pizza if you keep looking at photographs of delicious slices. When he’s out and about, text him cute gifs of cuddly dogs. Show him photos and videos you stumble on of dogs doing something funny or adorable. It might make a huge impact over time! [11]
    • You can even write it off like you’re just being playful. If he keeps asking why you’re sending him dog stuff, you might say, “Well, if I can’t get a dog I want to at least look at one 😊.”
7

Suggest a breed that placates his fears.

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    If your boyfriend is hung up on some specific problem he imagines the dog will create, try to pick a specific dog breed that will help avoid this issue. If your heart is set on getting a husky but your boyfriend is worried about fur and barking, consider compromising with something shorthaired and a little quieter, like a French bulldog. [12]
    • If allergies are an issue, look into terriers, schnauzers, and poodles. These breeds are typically easier on folks with a dog allergy.
    • If you live in a smaller apartment or you’re a bit of a couch potato, look into getting an English bulldog, yorkie, bichon frise, or cavalier King Charles spaniel. They’ll still need regular exercise, but they won’t be pawing at the door all day trying to go play fetch in the park.
    • If noise is a concern, Bernese mountain dogs, basenjis, and Shiba Inus are all known for not yapping or barking.
    • If he’s worried about behavioral issues, boxers, English spaniels, poodles, and Shih Tzus are all known for being easy pups for first time owners.
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Point towards the security benefits.

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    You don’t even need a big dog—criminals will stay away from homes with small dogs in the window because they can make too much noise. This can be a great selling point if you and your boyfriend are especially nervous about crime, or you just want to make sure there are some watchful eyes around while you sleep. [13]
    • If you and your boyfriend like to take walks but you’re worried about going out at night, muggers tend to avoid going after folks walking a dog.
9

Visit a shelter “just for fun.”

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    You might ask your boyfriend to go with you to a shelter, just to look at the cute dogs, or to at least pet a pup if you can’t get one. When he’s there, he may just totally fall for one of the available dogs. It’s a lot harder to say no when the opportunity to adopt a furry friend is right there in front of you. [14]
    • If you do this, don’t go to the shelter acting like you just want to look and then start pestering your boyfriend to adopt a dog. He won’t appreciate it, and he’ll push back reflexively. The goal here is to get him to realize he wants a dog on his own.
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10

Try dog-sitting or fostering as a test run.

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    Offer to dog-sit for a friend whenever they go out of town, or reach out to a local shelter and ask about fostering for them. This will give you and your boyfriend the opportunity to see what it’s like to have a dog in your home temporarily. If it doesn’t work out, no biggie. If it goes fine though, this may be all he needs to get a dog with you. [15]
    • Keep in mind, dog-sitting may be a better place to start if you have zero experience with dogs. Fosters typically spend at least a few weeks with foster homes, and they may be with you for months at a time. [16]
11

Explain it as a stepping stone for the relationship.

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    People in relationships often get a dog before they take the next step towards a bigger responsibility. It’s a way of testing out whether you’re cut out for something as a couple (hint: you are). If he really wants kids or marriage but you aren’t quite so sure it’s time yet, tell him you want to get a dog first to see how things go! [17]
    • It’s totally okay to get a dog if you aren’t sure you’re ready for something more serious. This is an exceptionally common thing, and a dog can actually be really good practice if you want kids! [18]
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12

Tell him it will always be your dog.

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    Even if there’s no sign at all that the two of you are going to break up, this is a pretty common anxiety among unmarried couples with dogs. He may be a little relieved if you just make it very clear that it’s your dog and that it will always be your responsibility. This way, he’ll know he won’t get stuck with a dog he never wanted if things get messy. [19]
    • The reverse may be true as well (although it’s unlikely). If he doesn’t want it to be your dog, tell him it can be his if that’s what he wants!
    • This may just be a boundary and responsibility thing for him. If he knows it’s always going to be your dog, he won’t freak out as much about being forced to take it on walks, or taking it to the vet.

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