How to Deal With a Crush (for Guys)

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When dealing with a crush, it's important you make sure that the person in question can't find out about it (unless you think they feel the same way about you).

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    Instead, try to get to know them or even be friends. They won't like or date you if they don't know you.
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    Don't make a fool of yourself. Try to speak to them but make sure you don't do anything bizarre.
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    Tell them your problem and pay attention to any advice they give you. Since your friend is not the one in love, they are probably more clear-headed than you are just now. [1]
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    Try to pay attention to your appearance and look nice, but don't overdo it. Just be yourself. [2]
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    wikiHow Quiz: Do I Have a Crush?

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    It can be pretty exhilarating (or terrifying) to think that you’ve booked a one-way ticket to crush territory—especially when you can’t quite put a label on what you’re experiencing. How can you know if these feelings are legit, though, or if your mind is just faking you out? We’ve got you covered. Hit “Start Quiz” to see if the butterflies in your stomach are the real deal, or if you’re safely out of the crush zone.
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    How often does this person pop up in your daydreaming sessions?

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    You don't want them to think you're a slob. Make sure you smell good - no expensive cologne needed, just don't reek. Whatever you do, don't wear a ton of anything scented -especially stuff like AXE. Everyone can get sick of this. The commercials about people attacking you are wrong. [3]
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    Before you try to talk to them, have a mental outline of what you're going to say. Know your topic, what you want to say about it, and what you want to ask them about it. Yes, you have to ask them questions, otherwise you are simply talking at them and you look dumb.
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    If dealing with a person that has had a recent break-up, let them know that they have your support and that they can talk to you, but don't go overboard. You have to make sure that you don't sound like you are going to force them to cry on your shoulder. [4]
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    Although you should have some confidence in yourself, people really like it when guys are shy and awkward and cute. Too much confidence makes you look like arrogant or maybe even rude. Don't overdo the awkwardness, it will come naturally. Overall, just behave naturally, like you would around your friends. [5]
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    Although you might not believe you're on a date with the person don't stress out about it because stressing can lead to a date disaster. Try to think about things they like if the conversation steers the wrong way.
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      • Befriend the person before you make any drastic decisions. Once you get to know them, it is easier to decide what you want to attempt with your relationship.
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      • Don't have a watery mouth. Nobody likes people spitting at them.
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      • Bring some peppermints around with you. They aren't going to want to talk to you if your breath smells like the business end of a donkey!
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      Warnings

      • Go easy on the cologne/body spray. This is one of those cases where less is more - the smell should not be overpowering.
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      • Be prepared to be called names. People may find out about this. Don't sweat it, and don't say, "At least I can get a guy/girl; you still have troubles getting a guy/girl!"
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      • People also tend to like Old Spice.
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      • Try wearing something like Polo Ralph Lauren or something slightly on the expensive side.
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      References

      1. ↑ https://www.huffpost.com/entry/love-brain-neuroscience_n_56bc8e50e4b08ffac123fd13
      2. ↑ https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/sixteen-psychological-tricks-people-like-you-a7967861.html
      3. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201111/being-beautiful-or-handsome-is-easier-you-think
      4. ↑ https://www.self.com/story/women-share-best-worst-responses-to-breakup
      5. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/maybe-its-just-me/201310/does-everyone-find-confidence-attractive

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