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If you recently found out that your husband has been unfaithful, you're probably struggling with a lot of intense emotions, from anger and grief to confusion about what to do next. While there are no easy answers for how to move forward, it's often easier to cope if can lean on your faith in God during this tough time. Reach out to some of the supportive people in your life, too—you shouldn't have to go through this alone. We'll be here to help along the way, as well.
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QuestionHow do you know if it's time to end a relationship?Elvina Lui is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in relationship counseling based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Elvina received her Masters in Counseling from Western Seminary in 2007 and trained under the Asian Family Institute in San Francisco and the New Life Community Services in Santa Cruz. She has over 13 years of counseling experience and is trained in the harm reduction model.If you are wondering if you want to end your relationship, start listing out the things you want and even demand from your relationship. You might not have listed them out clearly before, but once you do, it will be your set of guidelines that will make everything clear. Examples of relationship demands: I need my partner to be emotionally supportive, my partner needs to take responsibility for their actions, if they did something wrong they need to apologize, we need to spend time to bond with each other, we need to make time for each other. As you see, these examples of demands are reasonable and mutually beneficial. You might not have thought about relationships having bottom lines before, but rightfully we all have needs that should be respected.
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