How to be effortlessly cool

I totally get what you’re saying! I remember thinking the same thing about the “cool” kids when I was in high school. They make it look effortless, right? The trick I learned (too late in life to do anything fun with) was to just be authentic. People can pick up on it when you’re trying to put on a show. Even if you think you’re being convincing, you’re just not. Be yourself. Unabashedly. People are naturally drawn to people who are just always themselves, even if that authentic person isn’t the most “traditionally” cool kind of person. Like, I have a friend who is really into bird watching. They make it sound so exciting and fun. It’s infectious to just hear them talk about it. On paper, they should be seen as a total dweeb, but they have so much confidence and authenticity oozing out of them at all times that it’s impossible to not be super attracted to them.

I know you’re young and being cool in high school sounds really awesome, but it’s not really all it’s cracked up to be. In school, being cool is often about who you know, and it’s more rewarding to have friends that actually care about you than about how you influence their social status. Plus, to be "cool" at that age, you might have to hide some of your interests if other people consider them nerdy or cringe, and it’s not worth it. Be unapolagetically yourself!

Different schools have different definitions of what makes the cool kids cool. In some schools, it’s about being athletic and playing sports. At others, it’s about being smart and having the best grades. Or it might be about having great style and keeping up with the latest trends. Once you figure out what contributes most to the cool factor, you can take actionable steps towards embodying that type of coolness. Before you totally change who you are in pursuit of being cool, make sure that that’s what you want. You can try to be cool without changing who you are by working on your self confidence and social skills.

You’re a guy, and I don’t mean to sound stereotypical when I say this, but most guys are considered cool when they sound bored and nonchalant (I just cringed at that). Whenever you’re apart of a conversation or something, don’t sound over eager to be apart of it. Instead just make a couple of comments about whatever and try to speak when spoken to. Still participate and make other points and stuff. For example, if someone is talking about their favourite football team that you like as well, then say something like “Yeah? They’re my favourite too.” People love talking about their interests and with others. Also, use social media platforms like Snapchat and try to be in multiple major group chats to keep up with tea and just be known within your school.

ok- as someone who is somehow dictated "cool" is.... just dont try. like i didnt put in any effort into anything and just stayed emo and edgy and then i just got the reputation and now people are either scared of me or want to be around me so much. its not really worth it though, if youre antisocial because people will not leave you alone unless youre stern enough to tell them to back off. cussing also helps but if it seems forced you will automatically look like a wannabe. honestly, this is cringy but just be yourself because forcing things is really... un-cool.