Is dating a Scorpio hard?
I went on a date with someone recently and they told me they were a Scorpio and idk if that's a red flag or not. I've heard that Scorpios are obsessive and difficult to be in a relationship with, is that facts or nah? I kinda wanna go on a second date but idk if I should so pls help
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Scorpio is an obsessive sign. They're looking for someone to obsess over and they're going to provide a series of tests to gauge your loyalty to them. For example, they may play hard to get or act obsequious. If they sense that you're not matching their intense energy, they're gonna lose interest. Scorpio is also a very sensual sign, so if they not sensing that you're sexually interested in them, they will lose interest. So you would definitely need to engage in sex or intimacy with a Scorpio in order for them to fall for you. Scorpios want to dive deep into issues and topics. They're not a superficial sign, so they'll be turned off if you're very shallow. They like intensity and passion. If they don't feel engaged, enthralled, sexual, and intimate with you, then they're not going to have interest in you. So there has to be something intriguing. But also, if you provide a little bit of a mystery that they need to unravel, that will keep them pulling on the yarn forever. So don't give it all up right away! Leave a veil of mystery and then they will be intrigued and obsess over you because they always have to obsess.
If they're jealous or obsessive and you show even the tiniest bit of interest in other people, a Scorpio will show you their vulnerability (which is their most cherished prize). Scorpios like to keep their vulnerability to themselves, so if a Scorpio shows you their inner sensitivity, that means they trust you enough to love you. Without vulnerability, there is no intimacy, and that's why Scorpio is the sign of intimacy, because they like to lay bare of all things so that they can get inside.
Scorpios are all or nothing, do or die. But they're also the most distrustful sign, so if they show anything that indicates trust in you—like talking about marriage or moving in together—that means they are serious about you. And another sign they're serious about you is if they tell you their secrets. They see secrets as powerful weapons, so a Scorpio revealing their secrets means that they're very serious about you because they have trusted you with their secrets.
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If they're jealous or obsessive and you show even the tiniest bit of interest in other people, a Scorpio will show you their vulnerability (which is their most cherished prize). Scorpios like to keep their vulnerability to themselves, so if a Scorpio shows you their inner sensitivity, that means they trust you enough to love you. Without vulnerability, there is no intimacy, and that's why Scorpio is the sign of intimacy, because they like to lay bare of all things so that they can get inside.
Scorpios are all or nothing, do or die. But they're also the most distrustful sign, so if they show anything that indicates trust in you—like talking about marriage or moving in together—that means they are serious about you. And another sign they're serious about you is if they tell you their secrets. They see secrets as powerful weapons, so a Scorpio revealing their secrets means that they're very serious about you because they have trusted you with their secrets.
As a Scorpio female, you've hit the nail on the head each time you made a point. Wow, either you ARE one, or have been in a long term deep relationship with one. Can I ask which? My last man :(was emotionally unavailable and verbally abusive. I was so incredibly vulnerable and he knows my deepest darkest secrets, that I've NEVER told anyone, NOOO one! Now I'm scared that he has my story and took it with him! I was married for 20 yrs and he died 11 yrs ago. He was extremely dishonest and treated me like a prisoner. I couldn't go anywhere alone, not even church or to Drs appts. I wasn't allowed to carry any money. He gave me $20 on the 1st of the month but he was with me and had to approve my purchase. Needless to say, I didn't trust him with my secrets. When I met my last guy, he was extremely wonderful for 6mos. i flew across the country (Seattle, to Florida) to be with him. I was so happy to be there, but I was terrified of not having him. I was insecure and needed so much reassurance and he was extremely confident. All my life, my biggest dream was to truly know another & for him to truly know me and accept my demons and regrets. But every time I told him about my life, (and it WASN'T all bad. I have 5 wonderful children and had a lot of great memories with them) he thought I was dwelling on the past. I was just telling my story.
I learned about the things that were important to him, because that's what you do for someone you love.
But he always shunned & criticized my interests, taste in music, movies, and didn't care about anything that meant anything to me. I grieved him terribly when he left, but I now realize I give my entire heart and affection to whom I love. Yes I can be intense, but I'm extremely transparent from day one.
I think it's not too much to ask for the same, maybe not as intensely, but I DON'T deserve to be called names, criticized @every turn, and given the silent treatment or daily threats to leave me.
One thing I was a bit confused by, was your statement that Scorpio's are the most distrustful (or -ing can't remember) But did you mean to say we can't be trusted? Or that it's so hard for us to trust others? If you meant the latter, I agree wholeheartedly. Anyway, I'm impressed by the extent of your knowledge of Scorpio's. We are unfortunately extremely misunderstood by the masses. Thanks for your fair accurate understanding and perspective. Peace & Love, taridia17
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I learned about the things that were important to him, because that's what you do for someone you love.
But he always shunned & criticized my interests, taste in music, movies, and didn't care about anything that meant anything to me. I grieved him terribly when he left, but I now realize I give my entire heart and affection to whom I love. Yes I can be intense, but I'm extremely transparent from day one.
I think it's not too much to ask for the same, maybe not as intensely, but I DON'T deserve to be called names, criticized @every turn, and given the silent treatment or daily threats to leave me.
One thing I was a bit confused by, was your statement that Scorpio's are the most distrustful (or -ing can't remember) But did you mean to say we can't be trusted? Or that it's so hard for us to trust others? If you meant the latter, I agree wholeheartedly. Anyway, I'm impressed by the extent of your knowledge of Scorpio's. We are unfortunately extremely misunderstood by the masses. Thanks for your fair accurate understanding and perspective. Peace & Love, taridia17
Please give yourself credit for all you've been through ~ and be happy to share joy as your aware self while appreciating a new exploration of love, stability, contentment, and honor.
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As a Scorpio I don't think you're that correct but whatever I'm not trying to be rude though.
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I’m also a Scorpio. I am like this, but I like being cold and calculating. Also dark.
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I am also scorpio. How can I be like cold and calculate and dark .advice me please.
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I really don’t agree with the sex stuff I’m Scorpio and I hate sex you’ve got it wrong with sex also so don’t to be obsessive over really just because they might be a bit obsessive doesn’t meant that also some people just don’t give Scorpio a chance were misunderstood people like you
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Yes scorpio here too and I hate sex stuffs ... even a Slight touch annoysss meeee...I won't dive into physical intimacy unless married 🫡 we r misunderstood
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ok ,maybe y'all have different opinions because I am a cancer♋ and I have a lot of Scorpio friends
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I am not a Scorpio, but a Cancer who really likes a Scorpio guy. He is the most amazing person I have ever met in my entire life. I believe that no matter the sign everyone has been through different situations in life, and those situations have a way of changing a person mentally and emotionally as well as their aspects on life. Everybody is different. I believe that what was said is 100% correct in describing a Scorpio. Not everyone will agree because not everyone is the same. There is a percentage that are like that and a percentage that are not, but it does not make it false.
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I disagree! As a Scorpio female, I may be obsessive but I don't need to engage in intimacy immediately. I always want a kiss or two early, I don't want a slow-moving relationship and if I show vulnerability though, as she said, and if I trust you, I do love you. I was always scared though that he didn't like me so be sure to make her know you like her.
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As a Scorpio myself, I’d say dating a Scorpio isn’t necessarily "hard," but it can be intense. We value loyalty and trust the most, so if those things are broken, the relationship can be difficult. But if you're open, patient, and not afraid of vulnerability, you’ll find that dating a Scorpio can be incredibly rewarding.
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I am a Virgo with a Scorpio moon - which means emotionally I am a Scorpio - I need to go deep when it comes to relationships and also crave that strong intimacy - and vulnerability is my biggest challenge- like allowing someone close is the terrifying- I was married to a Taurus for umpteen years- I quickly found him to be so superficial boring and besides he was an insufferable cheater - actually a gift from the Universe to resolve past live karma - a really big obstinate almost unbearable gift- but divorcing him has set me free of so many lifetimes of limitations - so here’s my point - don’t be afraid of your relationship journey - no matter what the outcome - it’s for your greater good to evolve as the best version of you!!
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Scorpio's want openness and vulnerability but never reciprocate it freely like you want others to do for you. How can I fall backwards easily if you won't allow me to catch you? Scorpio's are One Way streets. The woman are Beautiful spirits but the men.....meh.
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I'm a pisces with a scoripo moon and i am currently dating a scorpio since he was born on november 21st and he is a very obsevise sign but i love it and since my sign is know to be tye crybaby sign which is kinda true bc i do get very emotional over little things like today he got me 20 roses and chocolate plus a teddy bear and i got him a new watch bc he was upset when his old one died but we have been dating for almost a year so i am very happy i am with him no matter what day it is he makes my day better and he is a keeper normally i don't trust friends or date them bc it feels weird but me and him js connected like we were soulmates
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I like your explanation keep it simple. Don’t try to confuse things. I’m a Capricorn and I am dating a Scorpio right now. We all have our faults. We all have a good side.
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What if a Scorpio man says he wants to take it slow after intense passionate kissing on the first date? Not interested anymore or scared of being too vulnerable too soon?
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My Scorpio date (male) said he wanted to take things slowly after very passionate kissing on our first date. We clearly have chemistry. Is he afraid to be vulnerable or why the sudden pull back? I like him and think I’ve made it clear enough….,
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I think people don't give Scorpios a chance. I've been married to a Scorpio for 6 years now and our relationship is going strong. Yes, I do find that sometimes he gets a little jealous but I think that comes from a place of insecurity, so I make that work by reassuring him that I love him by being affectionate and reminding him about all of the wonderful qualities of his that make me swoon. And people may see Scorpios as "obsessive" but personally I really like that my partner is madly in love with me, because I'm madly in love with him too! We match each other's energies and that has been working great for us so far. Ultimately, Scorpios are people too and all the negative stereotypes about them are not necessarily true. Even if you find some of those negative qualities in your partner, if you're meant to be then you'll find a way to communicate and make things work together.
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I am a sagittarius whos venus is in scorpio. I am madly in love with my scorpio. November scorpios are hard not to love. But the one I have been seeing. I am aiming for keeps.
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Wow ! I’m a November 27th Sagittarius too and I have a November 21st Scorpio and I love him so much
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Also am a sag 27th nov . Just started dating a scorpio leo rising .. but never dated a scorpio so not sure what to expect yet
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I have been dating a Scorpio 6 yrs Long Distance (Canada,) Snow Bird comes every six months).
It is very hard when he leaves. We talk and text on the phone.
He is very good to me , affectionate, cuddles, great sex.
Sometimes he is hard to understand, he gets mad right away, but can turn around and say he is sorry.
I do Love him, don't know where this is going.
He never mentions it.
Don't have his address in Canada?!.
He tells me he loves me??.
That is why I read everything about a Scorpio man so I know how to deal with him.
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It is very hard when he leaves. We talk and text on the phone.
He is very good to me , affectionate, cuddles, great sex.
Sometimes he is hard to understand, he gets mad right away, but can turn around and say he is sorry.
I do Love him, don't know where this is going.
He never mentions it.
Don't have his address in Canada?!.
He tells me he loves me??.
That is why I read everything about a Scorpio man so I know how to deal with him.
Ooooh No wonder. It says cancers and pisces are their soulmates. I jus started dating a Scorpio and I’m a cancer, it’s only been a week and he’s bearing his soul😄 but at the end of the day, like you said it’s all about the energy as with any couple. The vibe and the chemistry has to be there and everything else should fall into place. You both have to be riding the same wave but that’s just my opinion.
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Not necessarily true Scorpios and Virgos make the perfect 10 in the zodiac sign… the heal ones their are literally soul mates
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If it doesn’t work out I’m a Taurus but I don’t know how much that matters. I’m a good guy example : yesterday at ex wives (she likes free fixes)& I had a thought better check all windows and I found two unlocked windows that should not be unlocked and coincidentally no screens on those two.she has new boyfriend too
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Pisces too.. My man is scorpio.. it's challenging but I love him. he bring the best out of me. I don't worry about cheating coz he gave me that assurance. I wish we finally meet each other soon. we haven't met yet lol. we are talking online for almost a year now, I just really hope it's worth it. Praying.
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As a female Scorpio, your man is seriously lucky to have you as his ride or die!!
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i think its hard because the are passionate, intense and fiercely loyal individuals with a unique persrpective on life as a scorpio woman ,i can attest that they are often misunderstood due to their complex personalities
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Scorpio are easy going, reserved, and would rather avoid confrontation but also have no problem going toe to toe with many. We are sensitive due to the level of care we give. We’re not necessarily secretive but rather love to collect data, store it away, and present it when the opportunity arises. Until then, you may not know what we’re thinking because when we build a rock-solid case, it’s hard to pull us back if we want to walk away. We’re possessive when we fall in love because we we’d rather not share, and feel a huge sense of betrayal when people are disloyal because we’re all in or nothing. Therefore, we again have no problem walking away and deleting contacts even though we may allow a situation to permeate our hearts and minds for a short period of time. On the other hand, we’re able to move on quickly because we know our worth. We also spend a lot of time being accommodating to people we love. I would not avoid dating someone because of their astrology sign because I believe one’s background and experiences also shapes who they become.
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Wow this is so accurate. There are so many positives to being a Scorpio and/or dating a Scorpio. I agree it's best not to turn someone down because of their sign - we all have different life experience and are shaped in different ways.
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When I was dating a Scorpio, getting him to open up to me was a chore. He always felt a little closed off when I'd ask him questions about himself or try to get to know him better. I'm not sure if he was trying to create an air of mystery or play hard to get or if he just had issues with being vulnerable but whatever it was made me feel like I couldn't truly connect with him. I did notice that slowly over time he was warming up to me a liiitle bit, but it was just going way too slowly for my taste. It felt like I was talking to a brick wall at times.
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When a Scorpios in love with you like really in love with you right off the back and you just sit there and listen to him because they love to talk. Oh, you will hear Everything about them because my Scorpio he’s an open book. We have a night where I’m just sitting there chilling with him drinking and he will spill the complete tea about himself his family, his kids everything without me having to ask And that’s because he feels very comfortable around me. He gets a trusting vibe form me that I’ve heard him say So I don’t have to ask any questions about his life. I know about his mom his dad Life in the military traveling and we’ve only been together for three weeks now, So I know there’s more to come just be patient with them and loving
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This sounds EXACTLY like my situation with a scorpio rn. He tells me he’s never opened up or told anyone what hes told me. He says im nice and he just trusts me. I went over and he had a few drinks and next thing, I know abt his past w/the military, mom, dad, obsession with maps etc all in the first two weeks…anytime im with him he’s nonstop talking. He apologizes often but i absolutely love it. I find him so intriguing and intelligent.
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As a Scorpio myself, I don’t believe we have the intention to be mysterious. I believe it’s our passion that creates depth and that depth can be mysterious.
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Maybe your sign is a Scorpio sign is not compatible there's a lot of Truth in that you know
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He’s probably a faker. But Scorpios can also be amazing, too. They can be very romantic and love to take charge. But that doesn’t mean that all Scorpios are bad.
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Well where are all these decent single women at cause I’m looking for a new girlfriend as I’m divorced and time to turn the page
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Agree, I'm a Sagg and my scorpio was just like that, trying to break down barriers was soooo hard and I'm a just get in there and do it kinda gal. Glad we have moved on. Not sure who is ideal for me?
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well,I wouldn't agree with the statement because I have been best friends with a scorpio for 3years and they are absolute sweethearts.They crave deep connections and mutual respect and devotion.Thoughh they get jealous over silly things I consider it as a sign of their true love.They are very sensitive and observant of their surrounding and notice most things you would think they didn't.To sum it up,they are the exact persons to wish to trust and build a future with .You just gotta be a little patient and understanding towards them
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I'm a Scorpio and if you shower us with physical physical touch and quality time wanting to give us time alone together on a regular basis you'll be all right
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This is true. I am a scorpio female.🤪 Surprisingly, I am now interested in a scorpio male.
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Forget about compatibility matches. If you really like this person, then go for it. See where it goes. Love works in mysterious ways, it doesn't even matter what your sun sign is. Good luck! I hope my advice works.
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I was with a Scorpio for 4 years, totally agree their obsession comes from a good place, can be turned into a positive thing. Very sensual, devoted and attentive enough. But their impulsiveness and vengefulness are spot on. Whilst not all Scorpios might have all of the listed characteristics, my guy had the most and his vengefulness plus competitiveness made him blind to the collateral damage. In the end he ended up losing his favourite job, he ended our relationship even on the second try (after initial split he asked me back for another chance), and now even his two daughters have become estranged. He forever holds grudges on his parents for things in childhood, even though they gave him great education and opportunities, they were lovely in my eyes. I couldn’t understand how someone so smart, sensitive and goal orientated cannot see how their destroy their own happiness with own hands. I now realise that Scorpio’s competitiveness, vengefulness and impulsiveness at times rule over other positive traits. They are able to analyse and understand this, but usually much later, when damage is irreversible.
What I’m saying is that not all Scorpios are difficult, because not everyone will have all listed negative traits (mine was exemption I think, but I loved all those positive traits in him)
I would definitely give it a try with another Scorpio as they make great partners.
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What I’m saying is that not all Scorpios are difficult, because not everyone will have all listed negative traits (mine was exemption I think, but I loved all those positive traits in him)
I would definitely give it a try with another Scorpio as they make great partners.
Spot on, this is why I am hesitant to date another Scorpio because he hurt me so badly. 😞
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Me too, wasted 5 years on that relationship and once he decided (out of the blue mind you, after an overseas holiday) to finish he said what he wanted to say and that was it, no discussion, no input from me, poof! done
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I believe that you shouldn’t base your opinion on your date based on zodiac signs. People can most definitely vary from their zodiac signs. Don’t forget that moon and rising signs are also something to take note of. To summarise, use the traits associated with the zodiac sign as a guide, but not as a firm set of rules or “base”.
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Scorpios go through phases in life! We are represented by the scorpion (stinger), eagle (soar, observant), the Phoenix (transformation, and the Dove (Peace). Meeting a Scorpio at different stages of life/phases can yield different results in a relationship, any relationship! But for the most part, as a female scorpio (without bias) it is a blessing to be loved by us! It means we think the world of you!
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Yeah my Scorpio man was incredibly jealous! After we started officially dating, he'd get upset every time I hung out with my guy friends and asked me to spend less time with them. At first I didn't realize that he was trying to cut me off from my male friends and thought maybe he just wanted me to spend less time with friends so that I could spend more time with him (which is still a red flag), but eventually I realized he was jealous of me having male friends. I was upset that he had waited so long to show his true colors because that was a dealbreaker for me. I simply will not be with a partner that forces me to choose between them and my friends.
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I think it’s important to understand that scorpios will drop anything for partners and loved ones and they simply just expect the same. Another good trick to keep in mind for Scorpios is when you’re hanging out with these guy friends talk about your Scorpio partner to them. Not just with this calm their worries, but if your guy friends have secret intentions, they will pull away from you when they see they’re not gonna get what they want. The Scorpio could actually help you find out who your real friends are and who just wants to get in your pants.
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As a Scorpio, I'm pretty sure it just depends on the person! But if it really bothers you, then talk about it! ^^
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i am a scorpien try not to open up about you self to much we cant keep things to are selfs
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I know Scorpio men and Aquarius women can be a great combination. Maybe the same goes for Scorpio women and Aquarius men.
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As a Scorpio myself, I'd say that dating a Scorpio is not hard because we are very loyal.
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Not all Scorpios are the same. Some may be difficult and others a great match. I am a Scorpio woman and I can tell you that I'm not the intense, ambitious, dominating seductress. In fact, my preferences are for peaceful, quietly smart, relaxed, and easy going people and environments. My partner's calm demeanor is one of my favorite of his attributes. I get very stressed in aggressive situations.
Personalities & behaviors are strongly impacted by nurture and environment. Btw, Scorpio is also know to be very loyal to the ones they care about, discerning, passionate, emotionally & intellectually deep. So, I say it's not the zodiac sign that matters, it's the behaviors & comments the person displays that you need to observe, as with all people.
Best wishes!
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Personalities & behaviors are strongly impacted by nurture and environment. Btw, Scorpio is also know to be very loyal to the ones they care about, discerning, passionate, emotionally & intellectually deep. So, I say it's not the zodiac sign that matters, it's the behaviors & comments the person displays that you need to observe, as with all people.
Best wishes!
I do agree, not because my birth falls on November 5th!!! However we are everything you just said.. I hate to chase a women if your not showing any interest in me nor want to have a full blown conversation
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Wrong scorpions are great to be with
I am a Virgo and I love surfing time with water signs it depends on your sign as welll
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I am a Virgo and I love surfing time with water signs it depends on your sign as welll
I'm dating a Scorpio ngl shes really nice to me when you get closer to Scorpios they are really kind its treu
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I have a really good relationship with a Scorpio so I don't think you should worry!
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Dang I don't think Scorpio deserve all this hate :( I've been in a relationship with a Scorpio for a few years now. In classic Scorpio fashion, he is a little jealous and possessive, but he's also incredibly loyal and passionate. I feel so taken care of when I'm around him. Even all these years later I still get butterflies thinking about him!
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I like a Scorpio man, A LOT, but, I’m a Leo and have my own insecurities, and when he goes “dark,” I don’t do well with it.
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Whenever I go on dates with scorpios, I always feel like they're a little too mysterious for me. I want a partner who will be open and vulnerable with me, and in my experience I haven't run into a scorpio who is willing to do that. Maybe I just need to be more patient, but I've struggled to get into relationships with scorpio because they take such a long time to get comfortable with you and close to you.
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I am a Scorpio and I will say we are not for liars and cheaters. If you are gonna be serious about the relationship ans not try to manipulate you should be fine. Scorpio love the innocent the honest the truthful. Cheat and more than your feelings will be hurt! If you are water or earth I recommend it! I do not recommend air signs with Scorpio. That flighty stuff will get you hurt!
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I disagree. You just described every trait of a Scorpio man, liar, cheater and manipulative. Well at least the Scorpio man I dated, never again.
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I don't think that's a red flag at all just go with flow and express your feelings to them.
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It always depends on how they act, if they are obsessive or not, just don't say that to their face XD
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I think that you shouldn't just ASSUME that because they are a Scorpio they are not a good match. If you like them, give them a try!
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A lot of people don't know this but did you know that most of the time, it's harder to date
a scorpio because everyone stresses over them and is afraid? I'm not even a scorpio I'm just pissed that people think a certain star alignment in the sky is going to change the difficulty it is to date someone. Like what the heck, grow up!
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a scorpio because everyone stresses over them and is afraid? I'm not even a scorpio I'm just pissed that people think a certain star alignment in the sky is going to change the difficulty it is to date someone. Like what the heck, grow up!
I think there's a reason that Scorpios have a reputation...Like yeah it's true that not every Scorpio is the same but in my past relationships, the ones that have been toxic have more often than not been Scorpios...But yeah not all of them are toxic, I have a friend who is a Scorpio, so I wouldn't let someone's zodiac deter you from pursuing a relationship with them...just be observant so you don't miss any red flags...
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Scorpio's can be amazing partners. They just need someone that is willing to be patient and try to understand what they are actually trying to say. Because they are so deeply emotional they can over react or take things personally. If you take the time to communicate clearly and reassure them then this can be an easy way to bypass a common barrier to a relationship with these two signs. If they are moody don't take it personally and be patient and let them process whatever it is at their speed. They will appreciate it and feel understood and strengthen your bond.
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I was on and off with a scorpio man for almost 2 years and it was the hardest thing I had to deal with in my entire life. I am the most understanding, empathetic and patient person and I still could not get half of what I offered back from my scorpio. Mind you, we were planning to get married. We broke up twice and both times he came back around to me, but I'm done with filling up his cup and leaving mine empty. They are selfish, do as they please, and do what benefits them. They are also not big on communication whatsoever - scorpio men will not bring up the wrongs you've done or said to them (if any) in the moment, but instead bottle it in and throw it in your face during an argument when you bring up something they have done. This is used as a weapon to avoid discussing their wrongs, but instead talk about yours which more than likely occurred weeks, months ago and you had no idea it was even a problem. If you are a woman who is emotionally intelligent, healed, self-aware, self-less, and etc, please stay away from scorpio men. especially un-healed scorpio men! that would be my advice to my ladies.. good luck!
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Astrology is more about fun and self-reflection than hard facts, so someone being a Scorpio isn’t inherently a red flag. While Scorpios are often described as intense, passionate, or loyal, these traits don’t define everyone born under that sign. People are shaped by their experiences, values, and communication styles, not just their zodiac sign. If you enjoyed the first date and feel a connection, it’s worth exploring a second date to get to know them better. Focus on their actions, how they treat you, and your compatibility rather than astrology. Trust your instincts and take things at your own pace!
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it feels like when people go all crazy abt zodiacs as red flags they are just looking for a reason to leave. if you are not sure about a second date just don't have one this just seems kinda weird. sorry.
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There is no mechanism to explain how it could work, no force that can back it up, and, furthermore, no rational reason to split up the entire human population into 12 groups symbolized by randomly assigned constellations. No matter how you look at it (and people have tried), there’s no plausible mechanism that could work.
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I am a Scorpio and we are wonderful! Plus, I've been in the same relationship for three years so...
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I think thats not a red flag bc i think a Scrpio can be a good partner if u find a way to their heart.Also good luck
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Someone that's owning up to being a typical scorpion is probably telling you what they are already like 👍
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Scorpio is the sign of boundaries so an obsessive Scorpio isn’t putting up any boundaries while a closed one is putting up too many boundaries.. my sister definitely falls under the classical obsessive Scorpio - she still brings up her ex of like 10 years ago in just about any conversation she can manage🙄 he was a cancer so theoretically they were a “perfect match”- but alas that was not the case! They both had control issues! Scorpio is also a fixed sign so that’s why they can be extremely fixated. But every sign has its high and low octaves - and with patience and compassion and a little sexiness you can bring out the best in them! They are well known for their love of sexy time! I agree that some signs are more compatible with one another but it goes wayyy beyond just sun signs- a more in depth look at an Astro chart will give you those clues.. but regardless of any astrology .. if you’re feeling pulled to date someone and your heart is telling you - then go for it- not withstanding any obvious Red Flags 🚩 that is!! Best of luck on your journey 😉
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There are good and bad Scorpios just like any other sign. If you find a good one, it will be an amazing journey with them. The good ones are very kind, caring and very loyal. They love at a very deep level.
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No matter if shes a scorpio or not if she likes you too maybe you SHOULD go on a second date...
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i hate to break it to you, but zodiac signs are not exactly factual. I would strongly suggest going out with her again, and plus, even if she's hard to date, if you really like being around her it's worth it wouldnt you say?
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I actually married a Scorpio and let me tell you it was no picnic. She lied about everything and was very compulsive. I couldn’t trust her at all, with anything. She was very flirty with all men and a bit to flirty with some, if you get what I mean. Like she was looking for approval and of course the attention, she definitely craved that. She didn’t seem to care about others feelings and always had to have it her way. That’s just some of the issues.She hid just about all that while we were dating so needless to say the marriage didn’t last very long. There was one good thing that did happen out of that relationship though, and that was the birth of my son who I got full custody of and is now an adult, but still the best thing that has ever happened to me. We are inseparable to this day. He is not only my son, but my best friend.
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I think the real reason to date someone is when you get along well with that person, and you share things in common, if there is a connection, the relationship will flow.
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Do people having different Zodiacs really matter in a relationship? Genuine question here.
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The Scorpio that I dated was very skilled at lovebombing and manipulation. However, it is possible that you could have an entirely different experience. If you like this person, then go for it!
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Dating a Scorpio can be deeply rewarding but also intense, depending on compatibility and communication. Here‘s a balanced perspective based on astrological traits:
# **Challenges**
1. **Emotional Intensity**
Scorpios feel emotions deeply and crave authenticity. They may push for vulnerability early on, which can feel overwhelming if you’re guarded.
2. **Possessiveness**
Ruled by Pluto (planet of power), Scorpios value loyalty intensely. They might struggle with jealousy or distrust if boundaries aren’t clearly communicated.
3. **Mysterious Nature**
Scorpios often keep their true feelings hidden until they trust you. Decoding their silence can be frustrating.
# **Strengths**
1. **Passionate Commitment**
Once they commit, Scorpios are fiercely loyal and will prioritize the relationship. Their love is transformative and all-in.
2. **Depth & Intimacy**
They crave meaningful connections and will explore emotional, intellectual, and physical intimacy with unmatched dedication.
3. **Protective Nature**
A Scorpio partner will defend you fiercely and stand by you through challenges.
# **Tips for Dating a Scorpio**
- **Be Honest**: They detest lies or half-truths. Transparency builds trust.
- **Respect Boundaries**: Give them space to process emotions; don’t push too hard.
- **Embrace Intensity**: Match their passion and engage in deep conversations.
# **Final Note**
Scorpios thrive with partners who aren’t afraid of emotional depth. While their intensity can be challenging, it’s also what makes relationships with them profound. Compatibility depends on *your* zodiac traits too—e.g., Water signs (Cancer, Pisces) or Earth signs (Taurus, Capricorn) often harmonize well.
**Remember**: Astrology is a fun guide, not a rulebook! Individual experiences vary.
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# **Challenges**
1. **Emotional Intensity**
Scorpios feel emotions deeply and crave authenticity. They may push for vulnerability early on, which can feel overwhelming if you’re guarded.
2. **Possessiveness**
Ruled by Pluto (planet of power), Scorpios value loyalty intensely. They might struggle with jealousy or distrust if boundaries aren’t clearly communicated.
3. **Mysterious Nature**
Scorpios often keep their true feelings hidden until they trust you. Decoding their silence can be frustrating.
# **Strengths**
1. **Passionate Commitment**
Once they commit, Scorpios are fiercely loyal and will prioritize the relationship. Their love is transformative and all-in.
2. **Depth & Intimacy**
They crave meaningful connections and will explore emotional, intellectual, and physical intimacy with unmatched dedication.
3. **Protective Nature**
A Scorpio partner will defend you fiercely and stand by you through challenges.
# **Tips for Dating a Scorpio**
- **Be Honest**: They detest lies or half-truths. Transparency builds trust.
- **Respect Boundaries**: Give them space to process emotions; don’t push too hard.
- **Embrace Intensity**: Match their passion and engage in deep conversations.
# **Final Note**
Scorpios thrive with partners who aren’t afraid of emotional depth. While their intensity can be challenging, it’s also what makes relationships with them profound. Compatibility depends on *your* zodiac traits too—e.g., Water signs (Cancer, Pisces) or Earth signs (Taurus, Capricorn) often harmonize well.
**Remember**: Astrology is a fun guide, not a rulebook! Individual experiences vary.
Votes 👎 No
Zodiac signs are fun, but if they didn’t have any other red flags, then it’s not something I’d be worried about.
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not everyone fits the description of a scorpio and most info on zodiac signs are exaggerated anyways for example its not like most scorpios are obsessive or difucult (it makes zero sense, why would they be?) , if you like that person you should for sure go for a second date
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Can you say about love and relationship between scorpio man and capricorn girl..
I am capricorn girl and am in love with scorpio man in long distance relationship.
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I am capricorn girl and am in love with scorpio man in long distance relationship.
The time their born doesn't matter! Trust me, I'm a Leo and I'm not really any of the things they say I would be. I say just meet them, get to know them then you decide.♥
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Believe in yourself my friend.Just find a way to their heart and it's gonna be easy.Good luck!!(my crush is a Scorpio too)
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In general, someone's astrological sign does not tell you much about the person, it draws conclusions from common traits (Not all) that people of the same sign share.
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you should, it doesn't matter what sign he is, you get to determine if he is a red flag.
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My Scorpio and I was I was at school together. Now almost 40 years later we reconnected and have been in a long distance ‘thing’ until o came yo visit him and he asked me to move in. I moved across the country and I find him not so loving as I thought he should or would have been. I love him dearly. But I wonder if I am a disappointment for him
He hardly ever look at me when I am talking to him and I feel in the way
Any advice?
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He hardly ever look at me when I am talking to him and I feel in the way
Any advice?
If he isn't providing you with what you need emotionally I wouldn't prioritize the degree of feelings he has towards you. You come first. I personally think you're setting yourself up to be a doormat. Best wishes
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Personally, I don't think Star/Sun signs matter, I'm a Scorpio (Sun) and Cancer (Star), but, I'm not overly emotional, like a cancer, or, obsessive, like a Scorpio, just remember that both of you love each other, all that matters is that both of you are content with your relationship.
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Follow you're hart.it will not guide you wrong. Scorpions also need to have a lot off confirmation. thy want to know if you are still there if thy make a relation mistake.go for it.
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I’m Scorpio and I’m kinda like that but they might not I dunno I’ve never met another Scorpio it’s just my way of life
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I think u should if u want I’m a Scorpio and I’m kinda like that but they might be. if u want to u should
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Dont know if you want to hear this but zodiac signs don't actually effect personality. so go for it!
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No. It's not fact. It is fiction. Anyone in any horoscope can have any personality.
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If you think dating and personality relies on a zodiac sign then you are the red flag
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You're talking about a twelfth of the ENTIRE population of the world.....how many millions is that ? And you want to 'write them off' ?
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Votes 🤔 Maybe
i haven't dared to talk to him. he kind of avoid me but I thinks he also likes me. I know him by the way he looks at me
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Votes 👎 No
They’re just misunderstood..They love hard and expect the same love in return. Don’t like fake people. Don’t trust easily. Very private people
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Votes 👎 No
because it dosen't matter what people say it matters what you think.do you like them or do u not it is up to you
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It's not necessarily a red flag just because someone is a Scorpio. Astrology traits can be generalizations, and how a person behaves in a relationship depends more on their individual personality and maturity rather than their zodiac sign. Scorpios are often described as passionate and intense, but that doesn't mean they're all obsessive or difficult. It really comes down to how they treat you and if you feel comfortable. If you're interested in a second date, give it a chance and see how things develop naturally. Trust your gut!
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Votes 👎 No
I'm a Scorpio, and I feel like I'm pretty easy to get along with. I'm on the shyer side, but once I find a common interest I'll definitely talk it up.
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Votes 🤔 Maybe
I never been on a date with a Scorpio man, but I think you should give it a try, plus you never know what it could lead to, Think positive :)
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I did but it didn't work out well...btw I'm still single but I think my friend Alex he is a Virgo so maybe go on a date with a Virgo or something.
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Um...I think you shouldn't because they are not the best person to be a friend with nor be your boyfriend/girlfriend.
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I am an Aries male and have fallen authentically in love with a Scorpio female. She does not want to take a chance on a relationship with Aries. I am fully heartbroken.
I understand her logic; and, sometimes "themes," "personas," and "tendencies" are not absolute in each person /astrological sign. We would be an awesome couple. I see it, and I know it. I am working to accept and move forward.
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I understand her logic; and, sometimes "themes," "personas," and "tendencies" are not absolute in each person /astrological sign. We would be an awesome couple. I see it, and I know it. I am working to accept and move forward.
Astrology can be fun, but it doesn’t define a person—give them a chance and see how they treat you rather than judging based on their sign.
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Votes 👎 No
I dated a Scorpio Man for 3 years. We were a long distance relationship, he didn't get along with my dad, and his family was... Something. Other than his brother, which I liked (platonically). And when we broke up, it didn't end on a bad note. Our love went dormant, and since he was my first relationship, I needed time to have more experiences before I can truly commit myself to one person. I'm still a virgin, and single because I'm shy as hell, but we're still good friends. As long as you don't take their trust lightly, and guard them close to your heart and are willing to always nurture them, Scorpios are the bestest people to having fighting beside you.
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A Scorpio man and me a Pisces woman…. from when I first met him I knew we were a match made in heaven! I loved his intensity, passion for life and relentless determination. I wanted to love and he did ….totally heart, mind, body and soul. 44 years of marriage I wouldn’t trade for anything. Together we were a team always having each other’s back. With gentleness he could lead me. I would follow him anywhere!
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I've know Scorpio's to be overly sensitive and tbh pretty mean. That might just be me, but they burn bright and tend to fizzle out quick.
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Reader Tips from How to Treat a Scorpio
When an independent Scorpio reaches out needing support, they are communicating something important. Make your best effort to be present, whether in person or returning calls. They value reliability in hard times and remember favors.
Scorpios crave deep emotional connections in romantic relationships. Take time building trust before rushing physical intimacy. Once devoted, they remain loyal partners. Handle their heart carefully, as betrayal wounds them deeply.
Not every Scorpio fits the brooding stereotype. Some have bright, playful sides too. Take humor and sexually open conversation in stride, but don't assume all their remarks are serious. Lightness balances their intense nature.
Bring out their lighter side by planning uplifting activities together. Though Scorpios enjoy deep conversation, they need breaks from intensity. Shared laughter and joy will nurture your bond.
Remember that Scorpios are not angels; some harmless flirtation is part of their charm. Don't take offense or become excessively jealous. A little mystery sustains attraction for this sign.
Reader Tips from What a Scorpio Woman Wants in a Relationship & How to Win Her Heart
Scorpios like to play up their self-reliance, but they actually really thrive off of a partner's energy. Give a Scorpio woman space, but don't give them so much space that they begin to feel ignored.
If you hurt a Scorpio, you better try to make it right immediately. Scorpios can’t stand indifference or cruelty, especially from someone who they care about.
Reader Tips from How to Attract Scorpio Guys
Scorpios are fiercely loyal. If you want to get on a Scorpio's good side, become a fan of his favorite sports team, or become a big fan of his favorite band. The two of you should have no problem bonding over your shared interest.
Let Scorpio guys chase you. They like the "hunt" when it comes to dating. Also, don't tell him everything about yourself right up front. Scorpio men appreciate a little bit of mystery.
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