You and your BFF probably have a lot in common: hobbies, styles, and favorite foods. But when you both like the same type of guy, it can be easy to develop a crush on your best friend’s boyfriend. Figuring out what to do next is important, but it’s tough to work through your feelings without the advice of your bestie. That’s why we’ve written this article to walk you through dealing with a crush on your BFF’s boyfriend.
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QuestionMy best friend's boyfriend is really mean to everyone and is a player. I don't want her getting hurt. How do I change her mind?Trudi Griffin is a Licensed Professional Counselor based in Wisconsin. She specializes in addictions, mental health problems, and trauma recovery. She has worked as a counselor in both community health settings and private practice. She also works as a writer and researcher, with education, experience, and compassion for people informing her research and writing subjects. She received Bachelor’s degrees in Communications and Psychology from the University of Wisconsin, Green Bay. She also earned an MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Marquette University.First, you may not be able to change her mind. But you can express concern and share what you know. When you tell her this information, only share what you observe and know first-hand. Let her know how much you care about her and that is the reason you’re telling her. Support her choice, though.
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QuestionMy friend and I go to different schools, and I don't know how to get to know her boyfriend. What can I do? He doesn't know anything about me.Trudi Griffin is a Licensed Professional Counselor based in Wisconsin. She specializes in addictions, mental health problems, and trauma recovery. She has worked as a counselor in both community health settings and private practice. She also works as a writer and researcher, with education, experience, and compassion for people informing her research and writing subjects. She received Bachelor’s degrees in Communications and Psychology from the University of Wisconsin, Green Bay. She also earned an MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Marquette University.In that case, leave it up to your friend to arrange a time when you can meet him. Express interest in her relationship and introduce the idea of getting together. Let your friend know that because she is important to you and you care about her that you’d like to get to know the boyfriend who makes her happy.
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- ↑ https://www.vice.com/en/article/n7j7ab/how-to-get-over-a-crush
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- ↑ https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/what-to-do-when-your-crush-doesnt-like-you-back/
- ↑ https://www.teenvogue.com/story/how-to-get-over-a-crush
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About This Article
Getting your best friend’s boyfriend to like you starts with treating him as a friend. Do small things at first to let him know that you'd like to be his friend, like smiling when you talk, making eye contact, and remembering things about him. Once you get to know him a little bit better, you should try to see if you have anything in common, such as favorite restaurants, sports you play, or activities you like doing. Spend some time getting to know him, because then he'll get to know you! Just remember to be friendly and treat him how you would treat your other friends. For a few more ideas on how to become friends with him and advice on how to think about your best friend getting a boyfriend, keep reading.
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