How to Get Your Ex's Attention on Facebook & Social Media

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Want to make your ex seriously miss you? Luckily, Facebook is a great place to show yourself off and get some attention from your old flame. We’ll walk you through subtle ways to use social media so you can attract anyone you used to date. Read on and use these tricks to drive your ex wild so they’ll dream of having you back!

This article is based on an interview with our matchmaker and certified life coach, Christina Jay, NLP, founder of Preferred Match. Check out the full interview here.

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    Start off slow with some simple updates. Maybe you had a pizza night with your friends or went on a hike. If you're low-key right after your breakup, your posts will come across as more sincere. Also share motivational quotes and inspiring or funny videos. Anyone who was with you will miss all your optimism. [1]
    • You can post something like, “Mountain biking with the crew! 🚴🚴🚴"
    • Don’t worry about posting every day. It’s okay to have gaps between your status updates.
    • You’ll actually seem like you’re working on yourself and like you’re busy if you don’t always have content to share.
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Put up pictures that show you’re happy.

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    Your ex will be hit with some serious nostalgia when they see your glowing personality and winning smile. Mix up your photos—take some dressed down and glammed up. You won’t seem like you’re out to get attention at all. It’ll just seem like you’re having a good time.
    • Make sure to pose with your friends. That way, your ex will remember you’re the life of the party.
    • Add captions that describe how you feel. They’ll give your ex a taste of what’s going on in your world.
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Ask your friends to tag you in their photos.

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    Your ex might feel curious or nostalgic and scroll through your profile. Make sure your most recent pictures are actually tagged posts from your friends' timelines. When your ex sees how active your social life is, they'll know everyone values you and feel like you're the one that got away. [2]
    • Feel free to keep yourself tagged in the most flattering pictures and "untag" yourself in any that you're not as comfortable with your ex seeing.
    • Pose with big groups of friends and capture meaningful memories of one-on-one hangouts.
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React to posts of mutual friends on Facebook.

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    When you're on good terms with your ex's buddies, it'll seem like everyone loves you. Interact regularly with shared contacts you're already close to. Make spontaneous comments whenever anyone publishes content that catches your eye, even if you're less familiar with them. [3]
    • A "heart" reaction often looks more sincere than a "like." It'll suggest that you're really invested in the post, and your ex might miss all your warmth.
    • A "crying face" or "care" reaction reminds your ex of your empathy and compassion.
    • A "haha" reaction, which looks like a laughing emoji, can stir up memories of your amazing sense of humor.
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Publicly RSVP to fun events.

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    Announce how sociable you are and how you’re game to make an appearance almost anywhere, from a raging karaoke night to a chill book club. You’ll show all the different sides to you, and you’ll increase the chances of reconnecting with anyone who used to be in your life. [4]
    • You’ll probably also make new friends who might post on your wall. Your ex might be envious of anyone who gets to enjoy your presence.
    • As time goes on, your ex is more likely to give into temptation and check out an event you’re supposed to go to.
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Write about the adventures you went on.

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    Go into a lot of detail about any fun and exciting experiences you've had. For instance, if you go on a trip, you can rave about the amazing food and the beautiful scenery. Your ex will feel that they have an intimate view of your inner world, and they’ll wish they can go exploring with you.
    • Include pictures and videos to make your account even more vivid. [5]
    • Feel free to visit places you went to with your ex—just make sure to talk about them in an entirely different light so your former partner doesn’t suspect you’re still pining over them.
    • Also branch out and travel to exciting new spots. Lovingly write about everything you’ve noticed and your ex might melt because you’re so engaging.
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Change your relationship status quickly and quietly.

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    If you just leave your status the way it was before the breakup, your ex and everyone else might think you’re clinging to the past. Just remove it or list yourself as “single” without making a scene. It’s a sophisticated move that shows off how calm and collected you are. [6]
    • Make sure Facebook doesn’t automatically post the new change on your timeline. Toggle the “Hide from Timeline” setting to keep the information discreet.
    • Your ex might click on your “About Me” page, see you’re single, and reflect on the relationship they used to have with you.
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Filter your ex’s posts from your feed.

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    If you want them to see your activity, then blocking or unfriending them is too extreme. Instead, use Facebook’s filter to your advantage just “unfollow” any of your ex’s content. It’ll be much easier to get them off your mind so you can focus on presenting your best self. [7]
    • You’ll probably feel less nostalgic if you don’t see photos or posts that include your ex.
    • Your ex won’t have a chance to make you jealous since you won’t see their updates.
    • Catch up on what your family and friends are doing to distract yourself.
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Leave up any comments from admirers.

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    After you’ve made the rounds at lots of events and introduced yourself to a lot of people, you’re way more likely to get some flirty attention. If a new crush praises a selfie or a smart post of yours, keep it on your timeline. If they stumble across it, your ex will remember how attractive you are and want you for themselves. [8]
    • Reply to compliments with a simple “thank you” message to show how gracious you are.
    • To really turn up the heat and work up your ex, you can flirt back with your crush.
    • An open-ended response, like a wink emoji, will keep your ex wondering how you really feel.
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Stay chill when your ex comments or messages you.

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    Eventually, anyone who shared a special connection with you will probably strike up a conversation again. Make sure your ex initiates any contact—that way, it looks like they’re pursuing you. Stay in control and reply with a friendly one-liner like:
    • “Hey, it’s been a while. It’s nice of you to check up on me.”
    • “Happy Friday! What’s new with you?”
    • “LOL! That’s a funny meme. Thanks for sharing.”
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Comment on your ex’s posts after they reach out.

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    Just one exchange, even if it's really friendly, might not be enough to hook your ex. To make sure that they're practically addicted to you, check in on them regularly. Jokes, compliments, and thoughtful remarks will all help maintain the bond between the two of you. [9]
    • After you've left a nice note, move the chat over to DMs to deepen the connection.
    • Then, suggest a video call over Messenger to see each other's faces again.
    • Finally, ask if they'd like a no-pressure hangout, such as grabbing coffee together.
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