How to Get a Boyfriend in Primary School

Co-authored by John Keegan

Last Updated: April 21, 2024

Primary school is an age that most assume is too young to date. If you like someone, however, and you're willing to put in a little work, you can get a boyfriend at this stage. This article explains how.

Part 1

Part 1 of 5:

Finding a Boy

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Don't just look for a boyfriend just because all your friends have got them! Crushes are the first place to look for boyfriend potential. After all, crushes are all about thinking they're date-worthy. And don't think of a celebrity as your boyfriend, because odds are you'll probably never date them (so get off the idea of dating Aston Merrygold or Taylor Lautner or whoever it is you dream about). Go for boys you're fairly familiar with, like your next door neighbor's son or a boy in your class.
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If he's dating someone else that means he's off limits. He may tell his friends that it's casual, but girls are much more sensitive and think things like love are always serious. So ask the people closest to him first if he's with somebody to avoid a huge fight

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wikiHow Quiz: When Will I Get a Boyfriend?

You stare longingly at a couple who walk by, focusing on how they squeeze each other’s hands and smile at one another. Is that something you want? Is having a BF even in your future? Answer these questions about your life and past relationships, and we’ll predict when you’ll get a boyfriend. Who knows? Maybe your Prince Charming is waiting just around the corner!

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Have you ever been in a relationship?

Of course! But I’ve totally moved on.

Maybe? I’m not sure if it counted.

Yes, quite recently.

Not a serious one, and I’m happy to keep it that way.

Part 2

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Getting To Know Him More

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Get friendly with him. Get to know this guy without any agenda first before you ask him out. Find out about what he likes, dislikes, wants to be when he's older, even his favorite TV show! Maybe you'll find that you have things in common.
- Volunteer to do projects with him if you're in the same class. Be casual about it. You may learn that you like or dislike the same things, and projects are a great way to get close to someone.
- Reader Poll: We asked 521 wikiHow readers, and 56% of them agreed that the best way to get to know someone you like is to hang out in person . [Take Poll]
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Special things like the school disco or the Halloween party are great events to float the idea of dating. This means both you and that special boy will be familiar with the surroundings. Plus, you have some friends there to turn to if the date doesn't go so well (fingers crossed it won't, though).

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Asking the Boy To Be Your Date

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Be confident. Before you pluck up the courage to ask this boy out, relax your arms, clear your face, speak up and smile. This will indicate that you're approachable and bubbly when you come to meet this boy. Boys don't really fancy girls who hide behind their hair and are too shy. They like girls who stand out. Make yourself known.
- Make sure you're clean and look pretty if/when you ask him out. In fact, make sure you're clean and pretty whenever you see him. You never know when he might pop up, so be prepared.
- Remind yourself, if you're nervous, that it's only a boy. You may have a big, fat crush on him — and he's probably adorable — but it's not a big deal if you mess up or he says "no," for whatever reason. You're special, and other boys would be lucky to have you.
- Ask him yourself. Don't get a friend to do it. You'll make a bigger impression on him if you ask him yourself. Decide whether you want to ask him in person or over IM or Facebook or the like. In person is probably best, but if you're super nervous, you can do IM in a pinch.
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Make the situation comfortable. One of the biggest mistakes a girl can make is to pass the boy a note during class. This boy will almost definitely tell all his friends about it, and we all know what boys are like — they'll hound you about it! If he's alone, tell him you want to ask him something and go for it, head on! (Hesitation tells him that you might not be able to hold a conversation.)
- However, if he's with his friends, ask him to talk to you in private and ignore his friends if they start to snicker. You don't care, right? You only care about the boy, not his friends.

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Coping with Rejection

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Handle yourself calmly. If the boy rejects you, try not to worry about it . You're going to face rejection a lot in life, so if he says no, it's not the end of the world. Tell him you can go on being friends. Most girls have more than one crush, so there's still hope.
- If he says no then just be cool and carry on being his friend. Its not the end of the world. There are plenty more fish in the sea. You never know, he might like you in the future

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Moving Your Relationship Forward

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If he says yes, keep your cool and smile. But don't get too laid-back, he'll think someone dared you to do it and it'll hurt his feelings; boys aren't as confident you think! Even a little "Really? Cool!" or "Great!" will make this boy think you're even more committed and cute, both personality- and appearance-wise. And before you go off squealing to your friends, ask him if you can tell people about it so he has some say in this new relationship. Make him think he wears the pants, even if he doesn't!
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If you're now dating, then get to know his friends and tell your friends the news.

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Try to look for the love signs such as talking to you and sitting next to you.

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Break up if he only cares about your beauty, find one that cares about your heart. Or, even better, don't be in such a rush to grow up and just enjoy your liberated childhood, free of entanglements and having to deal with other people's emotions.

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If you're a little upset about being turned down, don't tell him you're okay with it but don't sulk and make him feel guilty. There's that phrase 'kind-of' — use it! Say you kind-of like this boy but reassure him that you can still be friends. Besides, if you're still a bit sad about it, you have your friends to lean on.

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If you have been dating for about two months then ask him/her if they wanna go to the movies. Invite your best friend and invite your best friend crush. (don't forget to invite your crush as well!) Deliberately forget to go to the toilet, but go and get popcorn instead. And you go to the toilet and leave the three others alone together. Tell your friend to go and say to her crush that she is cold, and he will hopefully move close to her. Your crush will then probably be a bit jealous, with his friend having a girl but not him. When you get back with the popcorn he might put his arms around you and move and then go to a different movie like a love movie and see how it goes from there! Don't flirt so much cause he'll not like you that much.

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How to Get a Boyfriend in Primary School

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Finding a Boy

wikiHow Quiz: When Will I Get a Boyfriend?

Have you ever been in a relationship?

Getting To Know Him More

Asking the Boy To Be Your Date

Coping with Rejection

Moving Your Relationship Forward

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