How to Get an Aquarius Man to Chase You

Co-authored by Stina Garbis and Glenn Carreau

Last Updated: February 15, 2024 Fact Checked

Given his intellectual yet spontaneous and fun-loving nature, it's no wonder why you have feelings for an Aquarius. Catching his attention may take some extra determination and effort since this guy also marches to the beat of his own drum. If you want your Aquarius man to chase you (and keep chasing you), show him how intriguing and alluring you are with the following steps!

This article is based on an interview with our psychic astrologer, Stina Garbis, owner of Psychic Stina. Check out the full interview here.

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Show him your originality.

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Aquarius guys like partners who stand out from the crowd. You don’t have to go crazy or be someone you’re not—just show him all the ways that you are your own person. Whether it’s your sense of humor, your job, your passions and hobbies, your educational background, or your style, be confident in who you are and show off your unconventional qualities too. ^{[1]
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- If there’s a creative outlet that you specialize in, be sure to show him. Your crush will appreciate all things creative, including painting, sculpting, woodwork, photography, and so on. ^{[2]
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- If you’ve traveled a lot or have plans to, make sure to tell him about your love of adventure.
- Originality can also be about the way your mind works. Talk about the subjects you know best (and have opinions on), and your Aquarius will be happy to listen.

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Wear colorful clothes to draw his eye.

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Bright outfits that flatter your body will stand out to your crush. Aquarius men love to see you feeling confident and looking your best, so pick out clothes that will make your favorite features stand out. ^{[3]
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Expert Interview. 10 December 2021.} Show off the quirky and adventurous outfits in your wardrobe, too. If anybody will appreciate eccentric taste, it’s your Aquarius guy.
- Try incorporating shades of blue into your outfits, which he will find visually pleasing. As the color of the ruling planet Uranus, blue is a common favorite color among Aquarius men.
- While he likes quirky styles, you don’t need to dress outrageously. Just make sure that you’re changing up your outfits regularly so he can look forward to finding out what you’ll wear each time you meet.

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Be a little mysterious.

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Aquarius men love to solve puzzles, so keep him wondering about you. When you talk with him about your life, take it slow and reveal one thing at a time. Always save at least one story or an interesting detail about your life for the next time so that he’ll never stop trying to figure you out. When you build an air of mystery, you also build anticipation, which will get him to chase you.
- Keep building mystery by limiting the number of texts you send. Only text him once before waiting for him to respond (rather than following up with another three texts right away).
- Once in a while, you can catch his attention by not texting for a whole day. He’ll wonder what you’re up to, and his curiosity will likely make him text you first.
- When you’re talking, you could say things like, “Oh, I have so many stories about that! But I’ll save those for another day…”

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Give him a challenge.

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Aquarius guys love to debate and explore other opinions. The only thing to remember is that he probably isn’t going to change his mind, and he’s not trying to change yours either—your guy wants a partner who will speak up and be different. When you and he offer differing opinions, talk them both through and then agree to disagree. That way, you both walk away satisfied!
- After a healthy debate, you could say, “Thanks for explaining your perspective! I hope we can agree to disagree here, but I’ll remember what you said the next time we talk about this.”

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Have fun and be spontaneous.

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Aquarius men love to have exciting new experiences with their partners. Invite him on shared experiences that can be adventurous for both of you and show him your spontaneity. Propose a spur-of-the-moment dinner at a new restaurant, or change your date plans at the last minute to something you know he hasn’t tried yet. The more you can surprise him, the more he’ll want to chase you. ^{[4]
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- The key is not to let your relationship with an Aquarius guy get into too much of a routine.
- While everyone has some routine with jobs and obligations in life, you can keep your relationship interesting by breaking up the routine from time to time.
- Keep trying new things and making new memories with your Aquarius, and he’ll be hooked on your relationship.
- If you have an intimate relationship, ask him about what sexual fantasies he'd like to explore. However, don't feel pressured to do anything you don't feel comfortable with.
- Reader Poll: We asked 595 wikiHow readers and 59% agreed that making sure both partners are comfortable is the most important part of role-playing with an Aquarius man. [Take Poll]

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Build up your friendship.

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An Aquarius tends to fall for people who are friends first. Because he’s more comfortable making friends than he is with romance, you can get your crush to chase you by showing him what a great friend you are. ^{[5]
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Expert Interview. 10 December 2021.} Your Aquarius guy wants to feel like he has both a partner and a best friend. Keep things platonic as your friendship develops, and the romance that you share later will be even stronger. ^{[6]
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- During this time, take it slow and build his trust in you.
- You can do this simply by being honest with him, following through on your promises, and being helpful to show him that you care. He’ll be eager for a little romance once he feels comfortable with you!

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Show him your intellectual side.

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Attraction for an Aquarius is mental—not physical or emotional. The guy you like will have high levels of natural curiosity, so he’ll be happiest in a relationship that is mentally stimulating for him. ^{[7]
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- Keeping an Aquarius man mentally engaged is more about expressing your unique thoughts than it is about having the highest IQ. Be ready and willing to talk about anything, and he’ll be happy.
- Try texting him a news story to get him talking. “Hey, have you seen this yet? I’m curious to hear your perspective.”
- You could also share a favorite book or music album with him. “This book about world history is fascinating! If you wanted to read it too I’d love to discuss a few chapters with you.”

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Support his dreams and aspirations.

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An Aquarius guy needs a partner who supports his unconventional ideas. He’s probably used to being the “eccentric” one, but he may not be used to having someone who likes and accepts all of his different parts and pieces. Be someone he can depend on, and listen when he wants to talk over his big ideas with you. He’ll chase someone who can be a consistent source of positivity in his life.
- Let him know that you find him interesting and appreciate his quirks, and he’ll want to confide his hopes, dreams, and existential thoughts to you.

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Show him you care about social issues.

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Aquarius men have a social conscience and value partners who do too. Your crush cares a lot about political and humanitarian issues in the world today. Talk to him about the issues most important to you, or even volunteer with a cause you support. An Aquarius man will want to chase someone who shares his deeply-held values. ^{[8]
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- You could invite him to a local protest. Let him see that you care about the world around you, and he’ll take notice.
- React to humanitarian issues on social media. Rather than simply posting your thoughts on the topic, also include a link for people to donate or a list of other ways for those who view your post to show support.

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Maintain your independence.

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Your crush values freedom more than any other sign on the zodiac. The less clingy you are around him, the more impressed your Aquarius man will be. Let him know that you’re interested, and then back off and live your own life (while still being friends with him, of course). He’ll see that you don’t mind spending time on your own and you will have a life outside of him no matter what.
- Keep up with your friends and family and work on having a rich social life to show off your independence. That will make him want to chase you.
- Focus on a new hobby. Pick an activity you can learn and hone your skills in, like drawing, a team sport, or a musical instrument—all of which your Aquarius will admire.
- Set goals for yourself in your career, your hobbies, your social life, and so on. ^{[9]
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Give him the space he needs.

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Aquarius men want to keep their independence no matter what. Your guy is perfectly capable of committing to a partner, but not when he feels pressured to do it. Just as you need to show him that you’re independent, you also need to show him that you don’t mind him being independent too. Once he knows that you’re happy to let him be himself no matter what, he’ll chase you eagerly.
- Try thinking in the present rather than the far future. It’s okay to plan a little, but bringing up marriage and extra commitments before he’s ready may spook your Aquarius man.
- Be patient as your relationship develops. It might take time for him to decide that he wants to make more commitments to you, but giving him the time to figure it out will make him want you all the more.

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When you're having an interaction with someone, make sure to keep eye contact for more than three seconds. Lightly do some touching on the arm to express interest. You want to show that you're interested by listening and kind of paraphrasing back to them what they've said. For example, someone says, “You know, I like to go rock climbing.” Your response, “Oh, you like to go rock climbing? I've never been. What's that like?” By doing this they know you're listening, and you're showing that you're paying attention to them.

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Get into their friend circle. Adopt hobbies and interests that they enjoy! Be different and edgy if you really want to catch their attention.

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How to Get an Aquarius Man to Chase You

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Show him your originality.

Wear colorful clothes to draw his eye.

Be a little mysterious.

Give him a challenge.

Have fun and be spontaneous.

Build up your friendship.

Show him your intellectual side.

Support his dreams and aspirations.

Show him you care about social issues.

Maintain your independence.

Give him the space he needs.

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