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Avoidant people like to, well, avoid people—so how do you get them to chase after you? As it turns out, convincing them to chase you is about the only way to get with them long-term. Avoidants pull away from people because they feel misunderstood and fear commitment. When you accept them and show you can provide a safe space for them to be themselves, they’re sure to be drawn to you! We’ve put together a thorough list of psychology-backed ways to get an avoidant to chase you. If you’re ready to get closer to your avoidant crush or partner, read on!
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- It’s easier said than done, but don’t take an avoidant’s distant behavior personally. They’re doing it to protect themselves from getting hurt, not because of anything you’ve done to push them away. [15] X Research sourceThanks
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