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Everyone has to deal with teasing from time to time but some people are forced to deal with teasing on a more consistent basis. Bullying can be very hurtful and, in some situations, can cause negative psychological effects to the victims. You must find ways to ignore and confront the bully. It is also important to find appropriate ways to cope with bullying in order to live a happy and healthy life.
Things You Should Know
- Unless the bullying is threatening, ignore whoever is trying to upset you. Bullies thrive off attention, and ignoring them will likely get them to leave you alone.
- Ask a teacher, coach, parent, or other trusted adult to help you handle the situation. They may be able to propose a solution that keeps you anonymous.
- Seek professional help from a counselor or psychologist if you need additional emotional support to handle the bullying. You don’t have to deal with this alone.
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Disregard the teasing. Unless it becomes a routine problem, if someone makes fun of you the best way to handle the situation is by ignoring the teasing altogether. By ignoring the bully you are denying them the attention that they are seeking by making fun of you. They are likely to get bored and leave you alone.
- When someone starts to tease you, don’t give them the attention that they are seeking. Continue to do what you were doing and act like you didn’t hear them.
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Walk away from the bully. If ignoring the bully does not work, consider walking away from the situation. While this still denies the bully the attention that they were seeking, it also sends a clear signal that you will not tolerate being teased. This will also prevent you from having to hear what the bully has to say.
- If someone starts to pick on you while you are at your locker at school, grab the books that you need and go to class.
- When a co-worker is making fun of you in the office, find something else to do. Go to a different room to work, grab a cup of coffee, or take a trip to the restroom. The bully will likely be back to work by the time you return.
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Find an outlet. If persistent teasing is getting you down consider finding an emotional outlet. Exercise can help you release built up anger and stress. It can also be a great confidence booster.
- Take up boxing or kung fu to release some built up aggression.
- Yoga or distance running are great outlets to manage stress and clear your head.
- Practice mediation and deep breathing to calm yourself down. [1]
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Licensed Clinical Psychologist Expert Interview. 5 August 2021. - Set aside 15-20 minutes to journal about your feelings and process your emotions. [2]
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Firmly ask them to stop teasing you. Sometimes ignoring a bully does not put an end to the bullying. It is important to stand up for yourself when someone is making fun of you. Be sure to make eye contact with your bully while you firmly ask them to stop teasing you. [3] X Research source
- Make your statements short and to the point.
- Say something like, “I don’t appreciate you making fun of me. Please stop.”
- Stay calm when you confront your bully. Being emotional or crying could fuel the bullying.
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Take a humorous approach. Most bullying can be hurtful in the moment but really won’t matter of weeks or months. If you understand how insignificant the teasing really is, try to respond to the teasing with humor. [4] X Research source
- Be witty or exaggerate the bully’s comments.
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Seek help from an adult. If you are a child or teenager and need help to stop someone from bullying you, it is okay to ask an adult for help. Bullying is very serious and is not tolerated in most schools. Ask a teacher, coach, parent, or other trusted adult to help you handle the situation. [5] X Research source
- Most schools have anti-bullying policies and will take disciplinary measures to ensure the safety of each of their students.
- Be persistent. If one adult does not take your concerns seriously, talk to a different adult. You have the right to feel safe.
- Be prepared to give specific examples. You want the adult to understand that they are bullying you, and not that you are tattling on them.
- If the bully is a family member, consider asking another family member to help. They may be able to talk to your bully privately to put an end to the teasing.
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Increase your circle of friends. By increasing your circle of loyal friends you are establishing more people who will stand up for you when someone is making fun of you. If it is your friends that are teasing you, consider finding new friends. Although friends sometimes tease each other, it is never okay for a friend to relentlessly tease you regardless of your requests for them to stop. Friends should not make each other feel bad.
- Join a club, sport, or other extra curricular activity that interests you in order to find new friends with the same interests and values.
- Volunteer after work for a local organization.
- Be a good friend in return. Remember how it feels to be made fun of and never laugh when someone else is being made fun of. Stand up for others who are being bullied.
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Don’t dwell on the teasing. Let go of all of the negativity and focus on positive things. Remind yourself of all the things you are good at and surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself. Try to understand that you cannot control the bully but you can control how you react to a bully.
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Find someone to talk to about the teasing. Continuous bullying can be damaging to someone’s psychological well being. Over time, the victim might feel helpless, worthless, and anxious. This can have a negative effect in school, work, or social life. Seek professional help from a counselor or psychologist if you feel that you need additional emotional support to handle bullying. [6] X Research source
- Your school’s counselor will be able to give you additional tips to handle bullying.
- There is no shame in seeing a counselor, therapist, or psychologist. Therapy can help you get more in touch with your emotions. [7]
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Licensed Clinical Psychologist Expert Interview. 5 August 2021. - They may also be able to help improve your social skills to help prevent you from being a target of bullying in the future.
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Tips
- Don’t become a bully in response to being bullied. Remember how bad you felt when you were being teased.Thanks
- Remember that bullies are unhappy and insecure with themselves.Thanks
- Remember a bullies goal is to annoy you so remain calm so that their goal can't be completed. They will get frustrated with themselves if they can't get through you and get you annoyed. Most people tend to cry over it but you should either stay calm and ACT unaffected or you can stand up for yourself. You're just as powerful as them.Thanks
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- Fighting fire with fire by retaliating against bullies often backfires. Take the high road — smile confidently and avoid confrontation if possible. If you feel truly threatened, however, tell a trustworthy authority figure immediately.
- If friends constantly ridicule a flaw of yours, politely ask them to stop. You can directly and calmly state you dislike the mockery and expect it to cease. Or take a sassier route, and suggest they act their age, not their shoe size.
- If you get made fun of for style choices, remember that people who tear others down are often insecure themselves. Hold your head high and ignore their transparent ploys for attention. Wear what makes you feel happy and authentic.
- If teased by friends, politely but firmly state that constant ridicule hurts your feelings and you expect it to stop. If it continues, spend less time together. True friends should make you feel cared for.
- When bullied online, mute, block or report antagonists if you can, then connect with kinder people instead. But if it migrates offline, tell a trusted authority figure right away. You deserve to feel safe.
- Surround yourself with positive people who appreciate your uniqueness. Never compromise your standards or who you are to appease critics.
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Warnings
- If you are seriously depressed or have thoughts of suicide seek help from a mental health specialist immediately.Thanks
- Sometimes bullying can become physical. If you believe that you are in physical danger seek help immediately.Thanks
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References
- ↑ Nicole Moshfegh, PsyD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 5 August 2021.
- ↑ Nicole Moshfegh, PsyD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 5 August 2021.
- ↑ https://www.psychology.org.au/publications/tip_sheets/bullying/
- ↑ http://www.kickbully.com/basic.html
- ↑ https://www.psychology.org.au/publications/tip_sheets/bullying/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201306/afraid-being-laughed-you-re-far-alone
- ↑ Nicole Moshfegh, PsyD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 5 August 2021.
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Being made fun of can be hurtful, but if you find ways to cope, you’ll be able to move on with your life. Sometimes the best course of action is to ignore the teasing, since bullies often just want attention. The next time someone starts picking on you, don’t say anything and walk away from them. If they continue to tease you, try to stand up for yourself and ask them to stop. You could say something like, “I don’t appreciate you making fun of me. Please stop.” In the meantime, focus on making friends who will care for you and build you up. Try joining a club, sport, or volunteer in your community to find people with similar interests. To learn when it's time to talk to an adult about bullying, read on.
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