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Everyone needs some fun , excitement, happiness and love in their life, but most do not know how to find it. Lifting your spirit is like healing a serious bleeding wound, sometimes, like you can't stop the blood flow easily or you can't stop thinking about the horrific past easily. Having a good vibe is much about the inside and the outside follows suit. Many a times, harsh experiences draw one away from who they are and from their peace of mind . After having a series of such experiences, one feels a loss of interest and excitement in their happiness quotient. This leads to a sadness and sadder vibes. Read on to find out how to have, and maintain good vibes.
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Think back to all the happy times in your life. Maybe even when your mum said you're pretty, the birth of your first child or when you met your partner, these all make you ecstatic. Write these down. They can be funny times too, like when you saw the most humorous meme in your life, etc. Talk to friends , they can also lighten your mood. Socialising is a huge step in becoming a happy , lively person. [1] X Research source
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Love yourself for who you are . [2] X Research source Think things like, "I guess my eyes are beautiful," or, "Only I could have scored that triple hat-trick!" Write these down and refer to them every day. You are you, no one is a copy, not even a twin of yours! Take part in things you do best, and beam when someone praises your win or efforts. This will make you not only a stronger being but a bigger, more optimistic person. Think, do you really want to spend the rest of your life in misery?
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Go on trips with your friends, your family etc. These days out, weekends away and short breaks will distract you from life's problems and make you feel good. Enjoy life as it is! Forget all your worries and don't refrain from talking to and meeting new people. Also, maintain good hygiene, this will actually affect your mood. Drinking water may make you feel amazing, it's scientifically proven that you'll die without water.
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Find a talent to dive into. Have people told you that you can play the violin really well? Well, why not give it a try? Everyone has talent, for some it just takes longer to find. This will give you hope and maybe even pave a way for you in life, it has for many successful people today. If you feel up to it, why not go in a competition designed for your talent, like a football tournament or spelling bee or go for that promotion. Ask people what they think you're good at, look back at school levels, and incorporate your very own feelings too. This will help you find your talent quicker.
wikiHow Quiz: What Vibe Do I Give Off?
If you asked your friends to describe you in one word, what would they say?
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Hide from thinking about dark things , like death and loneliness. Rather, ponder on about friends, that day out, love etc. Maybe, don't watch or read as many horror movies or read so many sad sagas. Replace them with comedy. This will give you a happy feeling and erase away any scary ones about divorced bankruptcy, a loved one dying, being made redundant, not getting into the college or university you were banking on etc.
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Don't be afraid to speak up. If someone/thing is bugging you and making you feel nervous, angry, sad or scared, tell someone! Make sure you trust them, and they know what they're doing. Sort it out as soon as possible, this will stop the negative feelings boiling and bubbling up inside you. Make good friends and stick with them.
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Socializing can help you feel happier and more positive. [3] X Research source Got invited to a party? Go there and let loose! Don't hang back unless it's for a reason like it's not safe etc. Talk to the guy in front of you on the train seems like he's reading the same book as you. This is how friendships start, so make them start! Don't talk about sadness, talk about lively things.Oprah Winfrey, Entertainment Mogul
Be mindful about the energy you bring to an environment. "You are responsible for the energy that you create for yourself, and you're responsible for the energy that you bring to others."
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Practicing forgiveness can make a huge difference in your life. There are many people who hurt you and leave you reeling in pain. If you think of them more often then you stand a chance to disturb your sense of peace and seem aggressive. Seek forgiveness for your mistakes and don't hesitate in forgiving those who wronged you in any way. A kinder and forgiving heart opens the doors to clearing your vibes. Moreover, you look more approachable and kind-hearted.
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Inspirational quotes can have a massive positive impact and make you feel happy . Believe in them, they are words of someone who has suffered like you.
- Reader Poll: We asked 300 wikiHow readers about how they prefer to surround themselves with positivity, and only 11% said by keeping an optimistic quote in my wallet or pocket . [Take Poll] While this can still help you cultivate good vibes, doing the things you love might be more helpful.
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- Look approachable to others and be accepting. Pride does not create good vibes.Thanks
- The symbol of good vibes is having others like you for who you are. Thus, be okay with who and how you are. Ergo, accept yourself.Thanks