11 Ways to Make Your Boyfriend Miss You After a Fight

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Fighting with your boyfriend is the worst, and you may be feeling angry, frustrated, or sad right now. Making him miss you is a good way to open his eyes and get him to realize that he could actually lose you. Plus, missing you shows that he really cares about you and your relationship. In this article, we'll tell you exactly how to get your boyfriend to miss you so you two can kiss and make up after a fight.

1

Give him space for a couple of days.

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    It’s hard to give someone space , and it might feel like the exact opposite of what you want to do. However, a little distance now could help you grow closer later. [1] Stop calling and texting him for a few days, and don’t hang out with him. While you’re gone, he’ll realize how much he wants you in his life.
    • Space also gives you both time to calm down from the fight so you can have a healthy discussion when you talk again.
    • In general, you might give his space for up to 3 days after a fight. [2]
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2

Wait for him to text you first.

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    [3] Not only that, but waiting for him to text you first makes him work to get you back. Hopefully, he’ll realize that he really hurt you and will decide to make it better.
    • How do you get him to text you? Be active on social media and with your friends. Drop hints to mutual friends that you’re keeping busy. Word will get back to him, and he’ll realize you’re pulling away.
    • How long should you go without talking? It really depends on why you fought. In general, it’s normal to go quiet for 3 days to work through your hurt feelings. If you haven’t talked for a week, it might be a sign you’re rethinking the relationship. [4]
3

Delay your responses to his texts.

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    You don’t need to wait forever. [5] Just let the text sit for 15 to 30 minutes to show him you aren’t waiting by the phone. From there, match your response times to his.
    • If he responds right away, you can, too. But if he’s waiting hours to respond, copy his long delays.
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4

Have fun with your friends.

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    Invite one friend to hang out, or get the whole gang together. Not only will you have a great time, your friends can also help you cope when you’re dealing with something bad, like a fight with your boyfriend. [6] Here are some things you could do:
5

Post a photo of you having fun on social media.

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    Your pic will also show him you’re enjoying life instead of sitting around crying over him. Stick to one photo each day, however, so he doesn’t start thinking you’ve moved on from him. Try these pic ideas:
    • Take a snap with your friends.
    • Pose with your pet.
    • Play an instrument .
    • Pose outside.
    • Take a pic at a cool place, like a coffee shop.
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6

Fill your schedule so you don’t have time for him.

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    In the days after your fight, keep your schedule full so he realizes you’re a prize worth pursuing. Not only will this make him miss you, it’ll also keep you distracted while you give him space.
    • In addition to hanging out with friends, work on a hobby, study , or take an online class.
    • Break out of your routine! Try something new, whether it’s a new hobby , taking a class, or meeting up with a friend.
7

Ignore his social media posts.

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    You might find it too hard to completely avoid his profiles, which is totally understandable. At the same time, you’ll feel better if you don’t open his snaps, watch his stories, or scroll past his posts. When he sees you aren’t reacting, he’ll remember how special it makes him feel when you do.
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8

Take good care of yourself.

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    Make sure you’re getting proper sleep and eating well so you look and feel amazing. Additionally, get some exercise so your skin is glowing and you feel less stressed. If you can, treat yourself to something special, even if it’s just an episode of your favorite show. [7]
    • Give yourself a spa day at home (or at the actual spa). Put on a sheet mask, soak in a scented bath , and massage yourself with lotion.
9

Post a photo from a happy memory together.

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    At the same time, it can make him feel lonely, which will hopefully make him miss you. [8] To trigger his memories, post a photo from a happy moment you shared. You could also talk or write about how much you enjoyed an experience with him. Say:
    • “Thinking about the time Leo and I watched the sunset from the dunes.”
    • “Remembering nights riding down backroads in his truck.”
    • “Love this picture of the snow flurries while we looked at holiday lights.”
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Be kind when he contacts you.

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    Even if you’re still mad, try not to be cold when he texts or calls after your fight. [9] Instead, give him calm, loving responses. You can still tell him how much he hurt you, but use I-statements so he doesn’t feel defensive. [10] You could say:
    • “I feel really hurt that you called me a rude name.”
    • “I still feel upset about being yelled at yesterday.”
    • “I’m hurt over what you said.”
11

Apologize for your part in the fight.

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    You’ll both need to apologize if you want to make up. If you can, ask to talk to him in person so you can have a heart-to-heart. Tell him you feel bad about what happened and that things will be better in the future. [11] Then, listen to how he feels about the situation. [12] Say:
    • “I’m so sorry that I yelled at you. In the future, I’ll try harder to speak to you respectfully.”
    • “I’m sorry I got mad that you needed time with your friends. I felt lonely, but next time I’ll call my friends instead of asking you to cancel plans.”
    • “I really apologize for storming off. I should have told you I needed space.”
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