How to Make Your Crush Regret Rejecting You

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Your crush turned you down, and you’re probably feeling heartbroken. Now what? First, give yourself props for bravely asking out your crush. It didn’t work out this time, but keep putting yourself out there. In the meantime, you can show your crush what they’re missing as you get over them. We’ve compiled all the best tips for making your crush regret losing you.

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Look your best.

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    Try to put your best foot forward any time you’re around your crush. Looking your best will help you feel amazing, and your confidence will shine from within. At the same time, your crush will see how hot you are if other people see you as attractive. [1]
    • You might give yourself a “glow up” makeover. Change your hairstyle and get a new outfit. If you wear makeup, watch a few tutorials and debut a new look at school.
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Spend time with your friends—and theirs.

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    Plus, your friends can provide you with much-needed support and encouragement right now. [2] Not only that, but hanging with your crush’s friends shows them how cool and fun you are.
    • Friends and family also help you feel better after being rejected. You’re well-loved, and they can show you that. [3]
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Focus your attention on someone else.

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    There’s probably someone amazing at school who’s caught your eye. Why not see if they’d be a good match? Look for a crush who shares the same interests as you and seems like someone who’d be interested dating. [4] You deserve to be happy.
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Be confident.

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    Having confidence makes people perceive you as a more interesting, well-rounded person. [7] When you see your crush, stand tall so you look self-assured. When you pass them in the hallways at school, make eye contact with them and smile or say “hi” as you walk away. They’ll see that you’re a strong, confident person and may wonder if they made a mistake.
    • To boost your confidence, list your best qualities to remind yourself why you’re amazing. [8]
    Jia Jiang, Rejection Expert and Motivational Speaker

    Rejection is a part of life, and it's not a reflection of your worth. When someone rejects you, it doesn't mean you're not good enough. It simply means that you're not the right fit for them. Instead of dwelling on the rejection, focus on improving yourself and becoming the best version of you. Remember, rejection is not a failure; it's an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

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    Participate in hobbies and activities that make you feel great. [9] Then, post on social media about the fun you’re having and talk about it at school. Your crush will see that you’re a fun, interesting person who’s living your best life.
    • This is the perfect time to try new things. For instance, you might join a new club at school or start learning an instrument.
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Treat your crush as a friend.

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    Continue to talk to your crush at school or when you run into each other. [10] You don't want them to still think you're into them, so let them take the lead when it comes to texting or messaging. Hopefully, they'll realize they missed out on a great catch.
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Spend less time with your crush.

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    It's hard to give up on someone you like, but it'll make you feel so much better in the long run. Be strong and distance yourself a little so you can hopefully turn the tables.Stop texting them. [11] For now, just hang out with your crush in groups rather than one-on-one. [12]
    • Ask your friends to act as buffers until you feel more comfortable being alone with your crush.
    • If you have classes with your crush, it's okay to talk to them when you see them.
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Act like your crush on them was no big deal.

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    It’s normal to be sad when your crush rejects you, and you’ll feel better soon. [13] In the meantime, act like you’re totally unaffected by what happened. It was barely even a crush.
    • If your crush tries to bring up what happened, just brush it off. Say, “Oh, I’ve already forgotten about that,” or “It’s really not a big deal.”
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Flaunt a new crush to make them jealous.

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    It could even make your crush want to impress you. [14] When you're around your crush, Gush about how wonderful your new crush is. Hopefully, they'll feel bad about losing you.
    • Say things like, “He’s the cutest guy I’ve ever met,” or “She’s the funniest girl ever.”
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Pretend like you’re totally over them.

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    You’ve probably fantasized about how amazing your relationship could be with your crush. We all do it, but usually our imagination is much better than reality. Releasing your fantasy of them may help you move on to someone better. [15]
    • In some cases, moving on can make your crush wonder if they made a mistake. Maybe they'll start crushing on you!

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    Keep in touch with that person regularly. Remind them of the good things and good times in your relationship. You can ask them directly if they would be open to it. Do not play games.
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    If a man does not make eye contact, he is not interested. If he gives short, curt answers when you ask questions, it may indicate that he is not interested.
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      1. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/do-looks-matter-in-a-relationship#lets-recap
      2. ↑ https://www.psychalive.org/how-to-deal-with-rejection/
      3. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201307/10-surprising-facts-about-rejection
      4. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifetime-connections/201806/romantic-rejection-why-does-it-hurt-so-much
      5. ↑ https://www.teenvogue.com/story/how-to-get-over-a-crush
      6. ↑ Michele Fields. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 17 August 2021.
      7. ↑ https://www.spsp.org/news-center/blog/romanticconfidence
      8. ↑ https://ideas.ted.com/why-rejection-hurts-so-much-and-what-to-do-about-it/
      9. ↑ https://www.psychalive.org/how-to-deal-with-rejection/
      1. ↑ Michele Fields. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 17 August 2021.
      2. ↑ Michele Fields. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 17 August 2021.
      3. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifetime-connections/201806/romantic-rejection-why-does-it-hurt-so-much
      4. ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/rejection.html
      5. ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4734881/
      6. ↑ https://www.psychalive.org/how-to-deal-with-rejection/

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