How to Meet Porn Stars: Adult Expos, Webcam Chats & More

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Everything you need to know to meet, greet, and charm a porn star near you
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You’ve dreamt about the day you could meet one of your favorite porn stars, but did you know it’s not such a far-fetched fantasy? Whether you want to connect with a local performer or a famous porn celeb who’s coming to town for a convention, there are plenty of ways to meet, interact, and maybe even nab a date with a porn star in your area. In this article, we’ll show you the best ways to meet porn performers at conventions or online without having to travel far, plus how to have a charming chat with them. Let’s dive in!

Best Way to Find & Meet Porn Stars in Your Area

  • Find conventions by searching “adult entertainment expos near me” online or checking for listings in adult magazines.
  • Buy tickets to an adult entertainment convention near you, and check the convention schedule for meet-and-greet opportunities with your favorite star.
  • At the convention, introduce yourself to the performer, tell them how much you appreciate their work, and compliment them on something that isn't related to porn.
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Attending Adult Entertainment Conventions

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  1. Adult entertainment expos usually take place at convention centers in larger cities. Some conventions travel around, while others occur annually in the same location. Google conventions near you, check event listings on sites like Adult Industry Events , or search in adult entertainment magazines to find out when and where shows are taking place. [1]
    • Try searching online for "adult entertainment expos near me" or by adding the name of the nearest city. If you don't live in or near a large city, plan to travel.
    • Conventions are great ways to meet famous stars from out of town as well as local porn performers who attend to network and grow their following.
    • Some large and popular conventions include Eroticon (London, UK), Exxxotica Expo (multiple cities in the US), Montreal Fetish Weekend (Montreal, Canada), the AVN Adult Entertainment Expo (Las Vegas, NV), and the XBIZ Convention (multiple cities around the world).
    • Many adult conventions fly “under the radar” of traditional advertising and media coverage in many towns. Search online or in adult entertainment publications.
  2. Use the convention website or phone number to preorder tickets (in some cases, it may be impossible to buy convention tickets during the event or at the door). For the largest annual conventions, attendees often reserve their tickets months ahead of time. [2]
    • Also plan for lodging and transportation ahead of time if you have to travel to a major metro area for the convention.
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  3. A trip to an adult entertainment convention is not for everyone. Choose friends who are non-judgmental, especially about sexuality and pornography. Attending with a close-knit group of friends will likely work best.
    • Some couples like to attend conventions together. If you think this is something your partner might be interested in doing, discuss the idea in advance.
    • Don’t persuade someone (a friend or partner) to go if they really don’t want to. They’ll probably end up being miserable, and might ruin your enjoyment, too.
    • Expect anti-porn protestors outside and over-enthusiasts inside at conventions. Porn conventions are full of surprises, so go into it with an open mind.
  4. Print out a copy of the event schedule, which you can usually find on the convention website, or download and save it to your phone for quick access. Highlight the booths and events that you really want to see during your visit. Map out when and where you need to be, and estimate how long it will take you to walk to each location. [3]
    • Build your schedule around “must-meet” stars. Many popular porn stars only appear at certain times and certain locations within the convention hall.
    • Lesser known local performers may not have a booth and could be wandering the convention hall as an attendee. Keep your eyes peeled for your favorites!
    • Scan the schedule for opportunities to meet producers, camera operators, and others involved in the porn industry if you’re interested in what's behind the camera.
    • Pick up a schedule when you enter the convention hall if you forget to look beforehand (you may not be able to plan ahead as effectively).
  5. Each picture with or signature from a porn star costs money—the more you meet, the more you may have to spend! There are also plenty of sex toys, novelties, and food and drink items to purchase. Make sure that you carry cash, since some booths may not accept credit cards. [4]
    • Use cash to tip performers or concessions workers, too.
    • Like any convention, there will be plenty of ATMs on site if you need to withdraw more cash.
  6. While nudity is typically prohibited at these conventions due to local regulations, there are usually scantily-clad porn stars or strippers dancing throughout the site. They might be pole-dancing at a booth, or dancing on stage in one of the auditoriums. Feel free to watch and have a good time. [5]
    • You probably won’t get much chance to interact with the porn stars this way—opt for meet-and-greet events listed on the convention schedule for 1-on-1 interactions.
  7. Attend a meet-and-greet with your favorite porn stars. Visit the booths and halls you’ve highlighted to get your posters, pictures, or other paraphernalia signed by your favorite adult entertainers. Take a photo on your phone or bring a camera so that you can get your picture taken with the porn stars, too. A meet-and-greet is likely your best chance for a personal interaction. [6]
    • Take advantage of your time and briefly interact with the porn stars. Tell them how much you appreciate their work, and make small talk if you get the chance.
    • Treat adult performers like regular people when you meet them. Smile and make eye contact to avoid gawking or being rude.
    • Know that there’s not a huge chance your conversation will advance beyond quick chit-chat in these scenarios.
  8. While you can certainly ask porn stars questions at their individual booths, there tend to be long lines. This means you have to get in and out in a timely manner. However, porn stars often conduct forums at conventions. Feel free to ask them questions you have about them or the industry as a whole. [7]
    • Treat them like you would any other entertainer at a convention. Ask them what it’s like working with a particular actor or director, or at a certain location—this shows that you know about them and their filmography.
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Meeting Webcam Stars

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  1. Plenty of sites showcase professional and amateur porn stars who “cam”—that is, interact through text or chat while they strip and/or engage in sexual activity on a webcam. Search for "cam girls” or “cam guys" online, and visit the profiles of some that you are interested in. If you have a specific performer in mind, search their name to find their online content. [8]
    • Search "cam girls/guys" plus the name of the nearest city, but know that pinpointing stars in your local area is tricky since many don’t list their location publicly.
    • Unfortunately, some online “stars” may be exploited. If you get the sense that the person is an unwilling participant, or appears too young, do not take part in the chat. Consider alerting the authorities about your concerns.
  2. Whether you’re using a chatroom or a private 1-on-1 thread, be thoughtful and articulate. Be respectful and try to have a real conversation, whether it be small talk or sexual in nature. Do not use crude slang or be rude to the person. [9]
    • Ask them questions about their life, what they like to do in bed, or fun hobbies they have.
    • Always remember that adult performers are not objects, but human beings with real emotions.
  3. Even if you are just joining a cam site to say “hi” and chat, it is important that you pay the star tips. Tips are usually a small dollar amount that you give them to show your appreciation. This is how many of these stars make a living, so it’s considered rude to watch them perform and not pay. [10]
    • You’ll need to use a credit card to tip online. The site should be protected by robust security and privacy measures. If you don’t feel comfortable giving out your credit card number, find a more trustworthy site.
    • Look for “https” at the beginning of the URL to indicate that the site is secure.
  4. Sometimes you might meet someone on a camming website and really hit it off. If you sense that the cammer likes you, just ask them out! Confirm they’re located in or near your area and mention non-sexual things you might do together, like grab coffee. Stay polite and establish the parameters beforehand—when and where are you meeting? What activities are you planning for the date ? Meetups with webcam stars can be purely sexual, a romantic date, or simply a chance to have fun with another person. [11]
    • The odds that you'll end up hitting it off with an online cam star who happens to live nearby are pretty remote, but anything's possible!
    • You may want to bring a friend along to bail you out, just in case you meet someone a little sketchy.
    • Never meet someone who you have not seen on a cam before, and always choose a high-traffic public place for meetups.
    • Never give out personal identity information online or to someone you barely know to avoid an online romance scam.
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Getting to Know a Porn Star

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  1. Introduce yourself like you would with anyone else. Unless you live in a porn industry hotspot like Los Angeles, you’re unlikely to simply run into a porn star. However, you may meet someone online, like a cam star, who you wish to see in person, or bump into a performer at a convention or industry awards show. In any case, treat the meetup professionally. [12]
    • If you recognize a porn star in public, ask, "Excuse me, do I know you from somewhere?" If they say "no," chat politely without bringing up their career. If they say "yes" and mention their work, let them know you're a fan.
    • If they seem interested in chatting, shake their hand and tell them your name, what you do for a living, or some background info about you.
  2. Compliment them on something non-porn related. Say something nice about their eyes, hair, demeanor, dimples, laugh, sense of humor, clothing style, or some other quality that doesn’t directly involve their line of work. While it’s fine to chat a little about their professional work, don't overdo it—let them take the lead on how much they want to discuss that. [13]
    • Focus on what makes the person an individual, not what makes them a “porn star.”
  3. Ask the star on a date if you sense a spark between you. After you’ve introduced yourself (online or in person) and made a little connection, ask the person if they’d like to go out sometime. If you have ideas in mind for a restaurant or movie, all the better. Be confident when you ask the person for the date—otherwise, they might view you as being intimidated. [14]
    • Keep it simple and casual: “I’m really enjoying chatting with you. Would you like to go out sometime? I know this great little Italian place…”
  4. A date with a porn star is just like any other date. Porn stars are people with feelings and real human experiences. Focus on emotions, common goals in life, and passions, and try not to view the date as a free chance at easy sex. [15]
    • If you have an interest in forming a long-term relationship , look at them through that prism. What good and bad qualities do you see in them? Do they share or complement your interests and values?
  5. If you plan on dating a porn star, you have to be able to accept their work. Set some parameters regarding how much you want to know about what they do—some partners like to be actively supportive and in-the-know, while others prefer to keep their distance. Try not to let what they do in front of a camera interfere with your relationship. [16]
    • Don’t expect them to quit their career if you feel uncomfortable with their work. Consider how you would react if they asked you to do the same.
    • If they are interested in exiting the porn industry, be as supportive as possible as well.
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    Your best bet is to attend a convention and check the schedule for Q&As or panels with producers, camera operators, etc. People in these roles usually have a less public image than adult stars and are harder to track down or meet outside conventions.
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    Get to know a porn star like you'd get to know anyone else. If you get to meet them in person or chat with them online, introduce yourself and make polite conversation, and let them know you're a fan. They might look at your interaction as part of their line of work, but if they feel a genuine interest or connection from you, they're more likely to open up.
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    If you know a specific star's name, search it in Google or on specific cam sites to find their content. Then, you can chat with them whenever they're streaming or online. If you're not looking for anyone specific, try Googling "cam girls/guys near me" (or add your city's name) to find local stars (this can be tricky since online performers don't usually list their locations publicly).
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      To meet a porn star in your area, search online to see if there are any adult entertainment expos or conventions coming to a city near you. For the largest conventions, you'll need to reserve tickets months ahead of time by preordering them online. However, if there are no conventions nearby, find an online porn star who lives in your area by searching the name of your nearest city along with the phrase "cam girls" or "cam guys." Once you find a chatroom you like, ask the porn star if they'd be willing to meet up with you in a public place, so you both feel safe. Keep in mind that most porn stars won't agree to meet fans in public, so be gracious and don't take it personally if they say no. For more tips, including how to get to know a porn star, read on!

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