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Romance scammers create fake profiles on popular social media platforms or dating apps and strike up a relationship with a potential victim to build up trust. Their goal is to win the trust of the unsuspecting victim and make up a story to swindle money from them. One way you can outsmart a romance scammer is to ask them tons of questions about their life and research their name, job, and profile online to see if you can catch them in the act. Keep reading to learn more.
Things You Should Know
- Ask the scammer to send you a picture of themselves performing a specific action, like tugging their ear or holding up today’s newspaper or a spoon.
- Copy and paste a romance scammer’s bio and profile pictures into a search engine to see if they stole them from another user.
- Report the romance scammer to your country’s authorities, like the U.S. Federal Bureau of Investigation and Federal Trade Commission .
Steps
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Outsmarting a Romance Scammer
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Ask the person to send you a current picture of themselves. Romance scammers often use photos that have been stolen from other places on the internet. [1] X Research source Ask them to take a selfie while performing a specific action like tugging their ear or holding an object like a newspaper or spoon. [2] X Research source Instead of DMing you a picture, a scammer might make up excuses to explain why that isn’t possible.
- Asking them to take a specific photo works because these images will be hard to fake, especially if they’re using someone else’s images.
- A legitimate love interest will understand if you ask for proof that they’re a real person. [3] X Research source
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Invite them to meet you in person. A scammer will try to avoid meeting you in person at all costs. [4] X Research source They might say they’re living or traveling outside the country, working in an oil rig or the military, or working with an international organization. [5] X Trustworthy Source Federal Trade Commission Website with up-to-date information for consumers from the Federal Trade Commisson Go to source They might even set a date, but cancel after they have a tragic inconvenience happen on the same day.
- In reality, the scammer has no intention of meeting up. All they’re trying to do is string you along and get your money or information. [6] X Trustworthy Source Federal Trade Commission Independent U.S. government agency focused on consumer protection Go to source
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Send them detailed questions about their life and experiences. Ask the scammer about their childhood, their siblings, their parents, their hobbies, and their job. Try to take the relationship slowly, ask specific questions , and watch for information that doesn’t add up. [7] X Research source
- A scammer might say that they grew up in Miami, Florida, but the elementary school they went to is in San Diego, California.
- You might catch a scammer if they say they work as a lawyer, but in another conversation, they say they’re a doctor.
- Sometimes multiple people might work on the same dating scam, so they might not always communicate in the same way—watch to see if the way they text changes.
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Try to set up a video call with them. A romance scammer will often refuse to video call you because it could reveal their true identity. The scammer might say their camera is broken, they have a bad internet connection, they don’t have time, or they’re too shy. These excuses can be a big clue that this person might not be who they say they are. [8] X Research source
- If the scammer is not willing to have a video chat, meet in person, or have a legitimate phone call, it can be a huge red flag that they aren’t interested in a relationship. [9] X Research source
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Search online for the type of job the person has and the word “scammer.” Another way to expose a romance scammer is to see if there have been similar schemes. If the person says they work on an oil rig, search for “oil rig scammer.” Other people may have posted similar stories on websites created to expose common internet scams. [10] X Trustworthy Source Federal Trade Commission Website with up-to-date information for consumers from the Federal Trade Commisson Go to source
- If a person claims to be highly successful, but you can’t find anything about their professional life on the internet, they’re probably fake. [11] X Research source
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Copy and paste their profile and pictures into a search engine. People who are really looking for love will use their own pictures, information, and career on a dating or social media site. Scammers might copy and paste their info from other profiles because they’re trying to throw something together quickly. [12] X Research source
- Reverse image search the person’s profile picture by copying their photos and pasting them into https://images.google.com/ . If the photo shows up somewhere else with a different name attached to it, the scammer may have stolen it. [13] X Trustworthy Source Federal Trade Commission Website with up-to-date information for consumers from the Federal Trade Commisson Go to source
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Ask for their phone number. A scammer might avoid giving you their phone number and give you a number for a texting app, like WhatsApp or Google Voice, instead. [14] X Research source Search their number online to see if it appears anywhere else.
- Free websites like Spy Dialer or WhoCallsMe allow you to enter a phone number and check where the area code is from or who the number is registered to. [15] X Research source
- Some scammers might even give you an artificial number and hire an actor to talk to you on the phone. [16] X Research source In this case, a reverse number search may not work.
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Run their messages through a search engine. Scammers often follow a well-rehearsed script that has worked on other victims. [17] X Research source To see if the person follows a well-known scamming script, copy and paste one of their texts into a search engine like Google and see if other messages they have used come up.
- Even if their exact messages don’t pop up, you might notice that their early texts follow the pattern of other romance scams.
- Often, the scammer reaches out on a dating site or social media. They’re affectionate and attractive, and claim that they’re from a different country, which explains their typos and accent. [18] X Research source
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See if they ask for money, and refuse if they do. People who are really looking for love online don’t usually ask the person they’re dating for money. A scammer, however, might ask you to support them financially or send them money to help them out in an emergency. [19] X Research source If you refuse to help them, they might become angry or try to pressure you into giving them what they want.
- A scammer might also ask you to send money in the form of gift cards or ask for your bank information.
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Report them to the authorities. Scammers often believe that they’re smarter than you and that they’ll win you over with their promises of love and affection. So, the best way to mess with a romance scammer is to turn them in right away so they don’t scam anyone else. Report any scammers to: [20] X Research source
- The Federal Bureau of Investigation
- The Federal Trade Commission
- The dating or social media site you met them on
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