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Footsie is an intimate and playful way to flirt . It's usually done secretly when others are around, which makes it a little extra mischievous and fun. When playing footsie, make sure you partner is willing and that your feet and/or socks are clean. To play footsie, initiate contact, play it with your partner, and keep it fun for both parties involved.
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Pick a partner. It should be someone you've already flirted with (and who has flirted back). If you try to play footsie with someone who is not interested in you, they may avoid playing along or tell you to stop. The person should be sitting close to you. It is ideal if the person is sitting across from you. [1] X Research source
- Try to get an idea of how the person is feeling about you and feeling in general before initiating contact. If the person is smiling at you and acting flirtatiously, then it is probably okay to initiate contact with this person. If the person is not responsive to you in conversation, then it is not the best idea to play footsie with them.
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Be discreet. Footsie is no fun if everyone knows what you're doing. It is best if you are at a table that has a long tablecloth. Make sure you can reach the other person's feet without tripping over the toes of unwanted spectators. Then, quietly slip one of your shoes off (using your other foot to slide the shoe off if necessary).
- It’s easier to play footsie if you’re wearing shoes that can be easily slipped off, like ballerina flats or loafers. Shoes that tie, like boots or sneakers, will be more difficult to discreetly remove.
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Initiate contact. Tap or push the other person's foot lightly and playfully, then pull away. Do it just once and see the reaction. Stop if they pull their feet quickly out of reach. If they look around and says "Who just pushed my foot?" in an annoyed or upset tone, then apologize for the mistake and do not continue. In the best case scenario, though, they will be receptive. In that case, you should tap them more slowly and linger a bit. Then, pull away and wait for him or her to come after your foot. [2] X Research source
- If they don't notice/looks confused, make a subtle "above the table" contact. Give a little wink, or give a cute, playful, or gentle smile. Try not to make the smile apologetic, though. They'll think it was an accident.
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Massage their foot with your foot. Intertwine your foot with your partner’s foot. You can intertwine your toes if neither party is wearing socks. Use the ball of your foot to massage the sole of their foot. Then, move your foot from the foot to massage their ankle. [3] X Research source
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Run your foot around their calf and ankle. Footsie should be a gentle and playful way of flirting. Try lightly running run foot up to the other person's calf and knee, then move back down toward their feet. Massage their ankle with the sole of your foot, or lock ankles (twist your ankle around theirs). Make eye contact and smile .
- At this point, the person should be aware of what you’re doing and at least partially returning the actions.
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Move up their legs. If things are going well, begin to move your foot up from their ankles/calves to their thigh. Use your foot to massage their inner thighs. This is a more intimate step than playing footsie with their feet, so make sure that the other person does not seem uncomfortable. Move your foot back down to their ankles and feet after a moment.
- The person make jerk away or change facial expressions suddenly if they feel uncomfortable with having their thighs touched.
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Make sure your feet are clean. It is important that your feet are clean when you begin to play footsie. A foul odor or grime can quickly ruin the mood. Make sure that you have showered not too long before playing footsie. If you are concerned about your feet, keep your socks on. [4] X Research source
- If you are unsure that your feet are clean enough, excuse yourself to the bathroom to check. You can quickly clean them in the bathroom if necessary. It is helpful to keep a small bottle of lotion with you.
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Wear clean socks. If you don’t play footsie with bare feet, make sure that your socks are clean. They should a fresh, clean pair of recently washed socks that you have put on that day. It is best if the socks are neat and without holes or sagging. Feeling an old sock riddles with holes rub against your leg can quickly ruin the mood. [5] X Research source
- Your partner should also have clean feet or be wearing clean socks.
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Be cautious around other people. Make sure that there is no chance that another, unintended person is feeling your footsie play. If you have to stop playing footsie suddenly, wink or smile at the other person to let them know it's not their fault. If you're in a large group, make sure you have your feet back in your shoes and socks in time to get up with everyone else when it's time to go.
- It is best to avoid playing footsie if you and your partner are sitting very close with other people.
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QuestionHow do I play footsie in class with my boyfriend?Community AnswerIt is probably not the best idea to be playing footsie during class time. You are expected to pay attention in class, so you may get in trouble if you get discovered playing footsie. Plus, there is not a lot of coverage to keep footsie play hidden.
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- Sometimes people are very ticklish. Be careful not to tickle them so much that they jolt and hit their knee on the table. Be gentle.Thanks
- It is best not to talk about having just played footsie. It's an unspoken form of flirting best enjoyed without discussion.Thanks
- Watch the person's body language to see if they're receptive.Thanks
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- It's okay if you want to play footsie with your shoes and socks/stockings on. Plus, it could turn out a little bit awkward if you get caught with your socks and shoes off (especially in a setting where that wouldn't be appropriate).
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Warnings
- If you have athlete's foot or have not recently showered, be sure to keep your socks on.Thanks
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To play footsie, make sure you're playing with someone you've successfully flirted with in the past so you don't make someone feel uncomfortable. Also, you'll want to be sitting at a table with a long tablecloth or covered bottom so other people can't see you. When you're ready, gently tap or push your partner's foot and then wait for them to respond with their foot. If they look surprised or confused, it could mean they're not interested. If they seem receptive, take turns massaging each other's feet, ankles, and legs under the table with your feet. To learn how to respond if someone isn't interested in playing footsie, keep reading!
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