Q&A for How to Act Around Your Girlfriend

It just takes time. The more you interact, the more and more comfortable you are going to be with her eventually. If you are shy and you do lack confidence, self-improvement can help as well. Ask yourself, "What makes me shy? What makes me a little insecure?" and then try to tackle those issues head on.

If you're spending time with your girlfriend and she's not talking to you sometimes and it feels awkward, then relax. Some girls prefer silence over talking. She may find it hard to talk, she might be worried about bothering you or even about being seen as too talkative. Focus on easy subjects, especially the interests that you both have, in order to have things to talk about. Ask her questions to help draw her out more and to help her to relax with you.

Be respectful. Whether you are a guy or a girl, don't just think about the pants area, there is an entire person around that that wants to be appreciated and loved. Be kind, thoughtful and even cheesy sometimes. You are young so don't over think it all, but still be respectful of each other.

Listen to her. See what she likes daily, see what she doesn't like. Use 20 questions as a good way to get to know someone. Ask her questions such as "What's a pet peeve of yours?". She'll also ask you things, so answer them honestly and you'll soon have plenty to be talking about.

Scheduling dates (even phone dates) is a great way to carve out quality time to just talk when life is busy. Express your desire for better communication to your girlfriend and work with her to figure out what days/times each week would work for you to connect more deeply.

If it's a new relationship, just give her time. Most girls want to hang out with their boyfriends. They may not show it on the outside, but they sure feel it on the inside.

Listen to what she has to say. Exchange thoughts and experiences with her. A relationship is healthy when there is good communication. And you can always ask her if she desires a certain type of date.

You should only say "I love you" when you are ready. When you are ready, try to make it special, so that the moment will be more memorable for your girlfriend.

There is always something to talk about - the environment, the weather, the present, the past, even the future. Ask about her interests - "Do you like pets?" Ask about the future - "Do you want to go to college?" Ask about her dreams - "Do you have a place you would like to visit?" Do not be afraid of sounding silly. Some silliness is what makes a relationship great.

When you get a girlfriend don't act on what you want to do without asking her. Ask her first. If you want to stay together, make her feel included. Before you do something major in your life, tell her. Also, get to know her more. After a while, if you want to get married, don't do so until you know every last thing about her. And don't keep secrets from her.

Don't worry, you still need to get to know her. A month is still a short time when it comes to relationships.

Sometimes even listening is enough, trying to see what she is going through, and giving the best advice you can without expecting to force it on her. Most of all, let her know you're there for her -- there is no need to fix things for her.

Her extroverted nature is probably one of the things that attracts you to her. It's all about balance. Talk to each other and make sure your dates are a good mix of quiet evenings and group outings. Use the nights you're out with other people to stretch yourself and try to get to know a new person or two.

Try communicating with her about the situation. Be honest, but don't be too brutal. She doesn't want to hear you insulting her friends or accusing them of wrongdoing.

Play hard to get. Smile and acknowledge him but look as if you're a tad clueless about it for now. Make it clear you fancy him, but focus on appealing to his sense of desire rather than being all over him. Then it'll happen!

Try and put yourself out there more and strike a balance between group and solo dates.

You might explain why you're asking questions -- in order to connect with her, and to get to know her better -- so that she doesn't feel intimidated or like she's "on trial". If she's a quiet type of person, she may be unaccustomed to talking a lot about herself, and it will take more effort to draw her out. Or, she may just be a little shy with you if you're just getting to know each other.

You can't "make" anyone kiss you, but for some helpful tips, I would check out wikiHow's article on getting a kiss from a girl you like.

It's normal to feel a little shy around your girlfriend at first, especially if you two don't know each other that well. Try treating her like you'd treat a new friend: ask her questions about herself, like what she likes to do for fun, and tell her about yourself, too. Before you know it, you'll stop feeling shy at all!

It can be hard to get to know someone when they won't give you any input. Your girlfriend might be feeling too shy or anxious to tell you what she wants to do. Try giving her some options to help her decide. For instance, if you're planning a dinner date, say something like, "Do you want Italian food or Chinese food tonight?"