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How do I ask out a girl if I'm feeling really shy?

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Find a private time where you can talk to her so you don't feel pressure from other people. Just lead off with a casual conversation about classes or your day. If it looks like she's interested in you, be direct and ask her on a date.

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How would I ask a girl at my school out if I don't want to be made fun of by other students?

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Try your best to ignore what other kids say. If you really like someone, their opinions shouldn't matter. Imagine what it would be like if the girl says "yes" to your question. That would make it worth it!

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What happens if you don't have any classes with her?

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Try to bump into her before or after school, or at lunch! If you've seen her around school, you can find a time to talk to her.

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How do you know if she likes you?

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If she finds the time to talk with you, smiles, and seems interested in your conversation, she might like you! If you think that she seems interested, ask her out. The only thing you risk is rejection, and that is not that bad.

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Why should you hang out with that girl so often? Wont that also drag you into the friend-zone?

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A girl will be attracted to you as more than a friend or she won't. Hanging out with her a lot won't automatically put you in the friend-zone.

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What if you have never had a gf before and are very shy and unpopular?

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Everyone has their FIRST girlfriend eventually. It's OK that you haven't had one yet! Just be friendly and be yourself, and work up the courage to have conversations with people. Every conversation you have is good practice.

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What if a lot of boys like her?

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If a lot of boys like her, that is all the more reason to approach her, tell her how you feel, and ask her out. If you never approach her, you'll never even stand a chance against the other boys!

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What should you say when walking up to a girl you like that you don't know?

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You can ask her how her day is going, make a comment about the situation you're in, or think of something you have in common to talk to her about. The most important thing is simply that you appear friendly and confident.

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