Q&A for How to Ask a Girl to Homecoming

It could mean she doesn't want to go with you but she also doesn't want to hurt your feelings, she might be waiting to see if someone else is going to ask her, or she may just want some time to think it over before making a decision.

No, not at all. It's not desperate to want a date to a dance, so if one girl says no, just brush yourself off and move on to the next potential option!

If you really like her, sure! If you're a little on the fence about it, maybe wait until after the dance so you can get to know each other better and decide if it's a good fit.

If she likes you, you've really got nothing to worry about. Just go up to her and say hi. Start a conversation about something else to break the ice, like school, the weather, a common interest, etc. Then try to casually ask if she has a date for the homecoming dance, and if she says no, go ahead and ask her!

That's okay. Most girls won't mind a slight age difference. Just do your best to be confident. If you're confident, you will come across as more mature.

Try to find a time when you are alone and the atmosphere is good. Keep in mind, you don't want to wait for the perfect moment, just try to find a time that's good enough.

Yes, she may want to keep it. Who knows, if you two decide to eventually pursue a serious relationship, the sign could be an important keepsake.

It doesn't matter what you wear as long both you and your clothes are clean. Wearing something nice might help your chances, but it's not absolutely necessary.

If you like the guy, say yes. If you don't like the guy, let him down gently. Say something like, "I appreciate you asking me, but I really think of you as just a friend."

Just ask her in advance if she free and would like to go with you.

If she doesn't respond to your text after several hours, I would assume that she doesn't want to go. If you see her in person later, you could always ask, "Hey, did you see my text?" just to be sure.

Make sure she's interested in other girls first. You can ask subtle questions to try to find out, or just be direct and ask her if she's straight. If you ask and she says no, don't let it upset you too much. There could be a million reasons why she might not want to go with you, some of which have nothing to do with you. (Some LGBTQ+ just can't handle the scrutiny or teasing of being seen with a same-sex date.) If she says no, just say, "That's okay, thanks anyway."

Ask to go as friends, then go from there. Once you're actually at Homecoming, ask her to dance and see if you get romantic vibes from her, or just confess your feelings. Even if she says she's not interested in you romantically, things might be a little "weird" for a while, but your friendship will recover.

Just stay calm and try to act confident (but not arrogant). It's going to feel a little awkward no matter what. If she says no, just say, "That's cool, thanks anyway."

If the person said no to your previous approach, you'd do well to respect any reasons given and, if the situation or reasons are unchanged, ask someone else instead. If the person agreed to go out with you, on the other hand, then there should be no issue. Either way, you've faced rejection with this person once before, so you really have nothing to lose by asking.

Evaluate the situation. What do you have to lose? If she says no then that's that, but you have no shot at going with her if you don't ask at all, so you should try. If you really can't work up the nerve to talk to her, you could always give her a note or send her a text (but most girls really appreciate the effort it takes someone to ask in person).

If you mean insulted by the girl, that's unlikely to happen, and if it does, then you know she's not a nice person and you probably wouldn't have had fun with her anyway. If you mean insulted by other people, just ignore them. They're probably just jealous that you're bold enough to ask a girl out.

You should ask her 2-3 weeks in advance. You don't want to wait around until the last minute and risk her agreeing to go with someone else.

Just bring up the subject of homecoming and mention you don't have a date yet. If he's interested in going with you, he'll likely take the opportunity to ask.

Just do it. This happened to me, and I ended up just asking her friends if she had plans already. Just make sure that the person is a mutual friend. If you are afraid of her friends telling her first, then just ask. Find a moment when she isn't surrounded by other people and just go for it. If you get rejected, just be chill and brush it off. Even if things go wrong, you'll feel better after you tell her.

Normally the boy gives the flower to the girl, but I don't think it will be an issue if you did it either way.

The earlier, the better. It gives you more of a chance to ask before anyone else does and then both of you can begin planning for the event.

Ask about 3 - 4 weeks before the event. The earlier you ask, the less chance the person you want to ask will have been asked to homecoming by someone else.

Men usually wear a nice tuxedo or dark suit.

It is generally better to ask a girl to homecoming verbally. If you just slip her a note, she is a lot less likely to say yes.