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How do I strike up a conversation with a girl?

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Complimenting a woman is a great way to strike up a conversation. Just don't do it in a sexual way. You could say something like, “You have a great smile” or “I love that outfit” or “I think those shoes are great."

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How do you ask someone out?

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You can start by identifying some interests you have in common. It is usually good to build from there. Find a common topic or interest, and start with that. Then you can add a question to that, like, "Would you like to see one of his movies sometime?"

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How can a shy guy talk to a girl?

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A shy guy can plan out in advance what he might say or ask. He probably spends a lot of time observing until he feels comfortable saying something, or figures out what he wants to say.

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How do you date a girl?

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Dating is just spending time with someone and getting to know them. Try not making too big a thing about it! You talk about your likes and dislikes, or your hopes and dreams, or just your favorite subjects or TV shows. It is just getting to know someone. Don't scare yourself out of it!

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My friend needs help. He is asking out a shy girl and doesn't know what to say when talking to her. Any ideas that you good folks could come up with? I great appreciate it.

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Re-read the Wikiknowhow article, "Ask a shy Girl Out;" There are a lot of good ideas there for your friend. It is important to go at the girl's pace--ask only a few questions at a time, and wait for her answers. Talk or text regularly in the beginning to set up a pattern of interest. When asking her out, be sure to ask clearly, and select something that is not too noisy, and that is private for the first date. Better yet, ask her how she might like to spend the time! Good luck!

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