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    How can I improve my self-esteem at school?
    Katie Styzek
    School Counselor
    Katie Styzek is a Professional School Counselor for Chicago Public Schools. Katie earned a BS in Elementary Education with a Concentration in Mathematics from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign. She served as a middle school mathematics, science, and social studies teacher for three years prior to becoming a counselor. She holds a Master of Education (M.Ed.) in School Counseling from DePaul University and an MA in Educational Leadership from Northeastern Illinois University. Katie holds an Illinois School Counselor Endorsement License (Type 73 Service Personnel), an Illinois Principal License (formerly Type 75), and an Illinois Elementary Education Teaching License (Type 03, K – 9). She is also Nationally Board Certified in School Counseling from the National Board for Professional Teaching Standards.
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    Expert Answer
    I suggest making a list of all your best and most helpful qualities. Read over it each morning to remind yourself of what you have to offer the world!
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    How do I get so confident that I don't care about people's comments on my appearance?
    AbigailAbernathy
    Top Answerer
    Understand that people only bully others because have low self-esteem and need an outlet, so they try to deflect their thoughts from themselves. Do not take anyone's comments personally.
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    How can I feel confident when a person makes fun of me then everybody else laughs?
    Community Answer
    Just laugh it off! I know it sound weird, but if you laugh with them, they'll see that they can't pull you down as easily as they thought. When people realize that you don't care about what they say, they will stop it because it starts getting boring.
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    Can I gain confidence if I'm going through depression.?
    Community Answer
    Yes. Gaining confidence will likely help you get through your depression, so definitely try the tips in the article. If you still find yourself struggling, talk to a parent, teacher, guidance counselor, etc. about how you're feeling.
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    What if people try to bring down your self-esteem?
    Community Answer
    Ignore, ignore, ignore! Hang out with people who lift you up.
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    I always tell myself to be more confident, but as soon as everyone's attention is on me I get so nervous and panic. Even when I do improvisation in dance I can't do what I want because I'm so nervous. Any tips?
    ThePreteen Technician
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    Try these tips: When you're alone or in a decent or even peaceful place, try saying to yourself something like, "I can do this!" or "I can dance like a pro!" Even if other people don't agree, it doesn't matter what they think. Feel good that you're participating! Try practicing it with family members or really close friends. Really close friends and family members should know how you act and most likely know you like that. Try having it be like a skit or something like that. Think about it this way: people who pay attention most likely want to hear what you have to say. They are showing respect! They are just being polite and they want to listen to your words and how you put it. Lastly, be yourself.
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    I'm not confident at school. I worry about what people think about me and I only talk to my friends. Any suggestions?
    ThePreteen Technician
    Community Answer
    Don't worry about what people think! You might just be thinking stereotypically. Gossiping can occur, but if you ever notice someone might be talking about you negatively, stand upright, head up, and show them that you don't care about their "imagination." Sure, gossiping happens, but think of it like something that stereotypes do. People that do that either most likely don't think they have anything better to do, or they are hinting that they are jealous of you, and that's good!
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    What if I can't find people who like me for me?
    Community Answer
    Try talking to teachers or guidance counselors. It's more than likely they've met a few students who might be willing to hang out with you.
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    What if my friend comments on every thing I say? How should I react?
    Community Answer
    Tell her/him how you feel. Have a calm conversation with them and if they don't agree make other friends, but if they are a true friend they will understand.
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    I have a really hard time answering questions in class and talking to teachers. How can I be more confident about this?
    Community Answer
    Visualize yourself answering the question and remind yourself that you know the material!
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    What should I do if I feel confident internally but when I go to school, I feel nervous and timid?
    Community Answer
    Take that confidence with you! Pretend that you have the same confidence and eventually, your self-esteem at school will improve.
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    Sometimes I know what the answers are but I don't participate (it turns out that it is correct) and then the teacher thinks I don't contribute or understand the lesson. What do I do?
    Community Answer
    Try to be the first to respond. If this is tricky for you, talk with the teacher before or after class and explain how you're feeling. They may try to make it easier for you to contribute to class in another way.
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