Q&A for How to Be a Mistress

It is not a good idea, as you are likely to end up getting hurt. Don't let him use you. If you want to get married eventually, you should look for someone who is willing to make that commitment with you.

Accept that the relationship is over and move on to someone else.

You cannot stop your feelings just like that. It's the lot of women to gather and nurture and get hurt. That said, distance is often a slow-acting cure: stop speaking with him, texting him, interacting with him if you can. Create as much distance as possible and then fill your time with other people and activities you find engaging. Permit yourself time once a day to briefly miss him and grieve this loss, but keep those indulgences brief. You're choosing to do the right thing by moving on: your feelings will eventually catch up.

First, cut off all contact with him. Change your phone number (and address, if possible). If he threatens you, then it's better to just go straight to the wife and tells her the truth. Work with the court or a mediator to work out child support and visitation for the child.

You may be feeling hurt or angry after finding out that your husband has a mistress, but remember, that it's not entirely her fault. While she may have known that your husband was married when she started a relationship with him, he was also a willing participant and is just as much at fault. Avoid trying to confront the other woman because you may get angry and could potentially get into legal trouble. Instead, talk to your husband about the situation. If you want to try to work things out, ask him to stop seeing his mistress. If you don't think you can trust him again, you may want to look into getting a divorce. You deserve to be happy. Don't let the decisions of your husband and his mistress destroy your happiness or control your life.

If you're okay with being the "other woman" in a relationship, and you're comfortable with having a secret relationship, you can be a mistress by being discreet. Avoid leaving your belongings at your lover's home and don't call or text him when he's with his family. Don't post on social media about your relationship and steer clear of places where you could run into his friends and family. If you want to spend time in public together, take a trip out of town. Allow him to contact you so you don't seem needy or jealous. Instead, enjoy the time you do have with your lover.

The first thing you need to do is get a divorce. Contact a divorce lawyer and start the process of legally separating from your husband. Avoid communicating with your husband and allow your lawyer to talk to their lawyer. Focus on yourself to help you move on. Start exercising or pick up an old hobby that you enjoy doing. Spend more time with your friends and family to keep yourself occupied. In time, you'll be done with your cheating husband and you can start building a new life without him.