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    What can I do to become a famous singer?
    Tanisha Hall
    Vocal Coach
    Tanisha Hall is a Vocal Coach and the Founder and Executive Director of White Hall Arts Academy, Inc. an organization based in Los Angeles, California that offers a multi-level curriculum focused on fundamental skills, technique, composition, theory, artistry, and performance at a conservatory level. Ms. Hall's current and previous students include Galimatias, Sanai Victoria, Ant Clemons, and Paloma Ford. She earned a BA in Music from the Berklee College of Music in 1998 and was a recipient of the Music Business Management Achievement Award.
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    Start by looking for lessons online and in-person to help you train your voice. Try to join a local choir or look for singing opportunities in your area so you have chances to perform. You can even upload videos of you singing to social media to share with the rest of the world.
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    I really want to be a singer/songwriter, but I'm way too shy to let my dreams be known to others. What should I do?
    Community Answer
    Tell a trusted friend about your dreams. A good friend will support you. Once you tell one person, it will be easier to tell others.
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    What if people make fun of me?
    Community Answer
    Ignore them. There will always be those who criticize others; feel good about the fact that you're pursuing your goals.
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    What happens if my parents keep telling me that I can't sing?
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    At a time when your parents seem very relaxed, talk to them and tell them how you feel. Ask them about taking voice lessons so you can get better. Try branching out and being open to singing different types of music. You might find you are better at one than another. Don't give up.
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    I really want to be a singer/songwriter, but I am very young and I can't find a way to get my voice out there. Are there any websites I can use that are safe?
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    There are many. Youtube is one of the most common platforms people use for music. If you see suggestions or tips on what to do and what not to do, then use those to the best of your advantage.Get used to receiving those kinds of comments because not everyone will like you right off the bat. Be patient, because popularity will not come right away.
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    How can I talk my parents into letting me take singing classes?
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    See if another adult that your parents respect, like a grandparent, aunt or friend, will help you convince them. Show them how well you sing and explain how important it is to you.
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    Should I believe my parents when they say that they will allow me to pursue music if I get a degree?
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    Once you are an adult, no one can 'allow' or 'not allow' you to do anything. You can do whatever you want with your life. If you get a degree, you will be an adult by that point, able to decide for yourself what you want to do.
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    How do I secretly sign up to be a singer without my parents knowing?
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    So that it's not a secret, say that it's just for fun and that your intentions are not serious. Most schools have a choir program, often during school hours, and all it takes is to schedule it into your daily class schedule Otherwise, you could ask the choir teacher for private lessons, and handle that with your parents however you see fit.
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    How do I convince my parents that singing is my passion?
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    It's doubtful they really question that. They may simply be trying to encourage you to stay focused on your studies and get a degree so you can take care of yourself if a career in music doesn't work out. The music industry is a very tough place, and very few people make the big bucks there. This isn't to say that you shouldn't pursue your dreams, but be open to the feedback of older, more experienced people, and have a back-up plan.
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    My parents want me to become an optometrist, but my passion is singing. I tried these steps, but they don't like the fact I want to be a singer. What should I do?
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    Your parents don't get to decide what you do with your life. You decide that. And you may just have to accept that they won't like what you choose to do. If you have enough talent, passion, and willingness to work hard, you can pursue singing. But know that it is a very hard field to break into and make money from. You should have a plan for how you will support yourself if it doesn't work out or takes a long time to work out. Getting a degree and/or work experience would be helpful so you will always have something to fall back on if you need to.
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    I live in India but really want to become an American singer. I can sing pretty well. Is it possible?
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    Anything is possible, but it's very unlikely. There are thousands of kids in every country that want to be stars. Very few make it.
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    What should I do if my parents say no when I ask them if I can have vocal lessons?
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    First you should understand that it may too expensive and they may not think that it's worthwhile if it's just for fun, so tell them that singing is your passion. If that doesn't convince them, then go online and listen to singers and try to teach yourself, or join chorus at school, the choir at church, etc. You don't necessarily need to have singing lessons to be a great singer.
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    How do I tell my parents that singing is my passion without them thinking I'm a failure?
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    Try starting with something like "You know how you would like it if I found something I take pride in...?" or "You know how much I like singing..."
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    How can I become an American pop star if I live in Sweden?
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    Obviously, you'd have to go to America. See if there are any auditions going on. Keep in mind that being a foreigner may be tough.
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    How do I become a singer without letting my parents know?
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    You could join a church choir, school chorus, or a school musical. Not only would you not have to lie to your parents, but you would get plenty of experience.
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    My dream job is to be a famous singer/songwriter. How can I make a demo if my mother will not take me to a studio?
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    If you want to start, you could use online programs like Garageband. Until you are able to record, though, just focus on your songwriting.
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    I am 15 and my parents want me to become a child carer. They tell me I am an average singer and so do my siblings. Should I listen to them?
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    You don't need to give up on your dream, but it's always a good idea to have a backup plan. Lots of really talented people are never able to make a living pursuing their art, so just be realistic and have a Plan B.
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    Is it possible to become a successful singer in America if I'm from India?
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    It doesn't matter where you're from or who you are, all that matters is that you believe in yourself and you never give up on your dream.
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    What can I do if my parents won't let me perform on stage?
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    Ask if you can perform another way, such as by uploading songs or videos online. If they still don't want you to sing in public, be patient. Continue practicing and dreaming big. Wait until you have more independence and can make your own performance decisions.
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    How can I get my family to support my career choice?
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    You can explain to them why you decided to pursue your career choice, and the good things about it. However, keep in mind that sometimes there is not a way to convince them.
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    My mom supports me, but won't let me have vocal lessons and I can't take vocal lessons with my friends. What should I do?
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    You can look up instructional singing videos online and practice singing songs you like. Or join your school's choir, church choir, or another organization that has a choir. You don't really need to have lessons if you've got a great voice, and practice can really make all the difference.
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    How can I show people that I want to be singer?
    Gwir Galon
    Community Answer
    Sing. Practice with discipline.
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    What if your parents won't give you permission to upload a video in YouTube?
    Community Answer
    Try to understand where your parents are coming from. They might be worried that strangers will try to contact you or criticize your singing. Ask your parents what they're worried about and work with them to find a solution. For example, if your parents are worried about strangers watching you or trying to contact you, you could upload songs to an audio service like Soundcloud, which doesn't include videos. You could also upload under a stage name, which is a name that artists use when they don't want to go by their real name (Lady Gaga uses one, for example).
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    Is it a good idea to take lessons from my friend if she is a really good singer?
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    Yes, you can definitely take lessons from her if she is willing to teach you.
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    What do I do if my parents don't allow me to practice singing?
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    Try practicing outside of the house, on a walk. Or when you're home alone, or waiting in the car, any free period at school. You can sing quietly when they are sleeping, early in the morning or late at night. Try asking them to let you join choir, a singing club, or a music class in general.
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    How do I become a singer if my family won't allow me due to religious reasons?
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    You can do what ever you want with your life. Follow some of the tips in this article, and once you're an adult you can pursue your dream.
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    I'm Indian and I live in America. I am really good at singing and know Korean. My passion and dream is to become a Korean pop star. Is this possible?
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    Check that you have mastered everything and that you have the moral strength of being a KPoP singer and a dancer. If you are a good singer and know Korean, you can just learn dance if you don't already know that. You don't have to be in a group if you don't want to. Keep trying and don't give up!
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    How do I get myself out there if I want to be a singer?
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    Try social media shows like American Idol, Nickelodeon, The Voice, or even upload your songs in YouTube or Smule app. If your parents are not willing, then you can just take help from friends who are talented like you.
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    What to do if my parents aren't willing to buy me musical instruments?
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    Reason with them. Tell them all the good reasons for playing an instrument. Make sure you've been good in the last few weeks and extra well behaved the week when you ask. If cost is an issue, look into rental of the instrument. This can be good to begin with until they're convinced you're being serious about learning.
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    I want to become a singer but my parents do not allow me. I tried all your steps but it did not work out too well. What can I do now?
    Anne Ilak
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    Practice singing alone. Get help online, like through YouTube. Upload you singing onto internet platforms; you may not get views for some days or weeks but do not let this discourage you. Go to friends and ask them to watch those. At least some of them will like it. Or, wait for an opportunity like a small contest to showcase your talent and have a friend accompany you to it.
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