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How do you find true friends?

Kateri Berasi, PsyD
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
Dr. Kateri Berasi is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and the Founder of Transcendent Self, PLLC, a group therapy practice offering affirmative, collaborative, and intentional care, based in Brooklyn, New York. With over ten years of experience in the mental health field, Dr. Berasi specializes in working with adults from the LGBTQIA+ community and creative industries through individual therapy, couples counseling, group therapy, and costume therapy. She holds a BA in Psychology, Art History, and French Language and Literature from George Washington University and an MA and MEd in Mental Health Counseling from Columbia University. Dr. Berasi also holds a PsyD in Clinical Psychology from Long Island University.

Kateri Berasi, PsyD

Licensed Clinical Psychologist

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Think about the qualities you respect in others and look for people that have such qualities. Do you want thoughtful friends? Supportive friends? Kind friends? Funny friends? Honest friends? Only you can answer these questions!

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How can I attract good friends?

Kateri Berasi, PsyD
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
Dr. Kateri Berasi is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and the Founder of Transcendent Self, PLLC, a group therapy practice offering affirmative, collaborative, and intentional care, based in Brooklyn, New York. With over ten years of experience in the mental health field, Dr. Berasi specializes in working with adults from the LGBTQIA+ community and creative industries through individual therapy, couples counseling, group therapy, and costume therapy. She holds a BA in Psychology, Art History, and French Language and Literature from George Washington University and an MA and MEd in Mental Health Counseling from Columbia University. Dr. Berasi also holds a PsyD in Clinical Psychology from Long Island University.

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Think about what activities you enjoy doing and be active in pursuing those activities. Try to be open to starting up conversations with people who you meet during such times.

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How do you attract people close to you?

Kateri Berasi, PsyD
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
Dr. Kateri Berasi is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and the Founder of Transcendent Self, PLLC, a group therapy practice offering affirmative, collaborative, and intentional care, based in Brooklyn, New York. With over ten years of experience in the mental health field, Dr. Berasi specializes in working with adults from the LGBTQIA+ community and creative industries through individual therapy, couples counseling, group therapy, and costume therapy. She holds a BA in Psychology, Art History, and French Language and Literature from George Washington University and an MA and MEd in Mental Health Counseling from Columbia University. Dr. Berasi also holds a PsyD in Clinical Psychology from Long Island University.

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Look for people who share values with you to help with the connection. Believe me, this will go a long way toward making good friendships.

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How do I talk about deeper things without sounding like I'm whining about my life?

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Differentiate these things. You can talk about both trivial and deeper things with or without whining. Some obvious things right out of the gate: choose a good time. As everybody is leaving for home, that's not the right time. Choose the right person, too. It's OK to actually plan this. "Hey, I would like your advice on one or two things, can we talk say Thursday?" You'll be talking to trusted friends, so be honest, clear and open up your feelings. For example: "I've been worried about my drinking alcohol lately, and I don't really know if I have a problem or what to do about it" instead of "I feel so lonely and nobody loves me, so I drink."

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What if whenever I want to approach someone, things get awkward?

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You're just feeling shy and nervous that the conversation won't go well. You just have to put the negative thoughts out of your mind and go for it. Be outgoing and ask the person about themselves. This way you don't have to do much of the talking, as people love to talk about themselves.

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