Q&A for How to Find Your Secret Admirer

Look for body language. Maybe they're always nervous around you, or maybe they talk to you a lot. Even if you don't have notes, try to ask the suspect's friends flat-out as well.

There's no way to know for sure, but ask around and see who looks at you during break then looks away - maybe that's a sign they have a crush on you.

No, because that will make them think you are putting them off and that you maybe like someone else, or simply don't like them at all.

Talk to your friends about how you know the notes are fake, and make sure the person you suspect can overhear you. If it's that person, he'll realise you didn't get tricked and stop. If it's not that person, then you'll keep getting notes, so you'll know.

What are the themes of the poems? If a best friend is writing them, maybe that person has developed a romantic interest in you that they didn't have before. They may be afraid of ruining the friendship by revealing who they are.

Be supportive and help them find out who the secret admirer is. However, don't confront the admirer if you think you know who they are. Leave that to your friend.

I would check my email, look for clues and try to crack the code or I would ask any teachers around or my friends and ask for advice and or help to find my secret admirer!

Start speaking to her more. If you have written her notes, when speaking to her, use references from your notes. Don't just jump right on her and ask her to go out with you, because this may make her uncomfortable. Just take it slow and become good friends first.

Look around and ask others If they know who it's from. If there's a person you think might have given it to you, talk to them about it nicely. Just say, "I got the most beautiful rose! Would you know who it's from?"

You can ask people if they can identify the handwriting.

They're embarrassed about their feelings towards you. Many people make fun of those who have a crush on someone.

Get ready for the school dance when it's ready. Dress up in your best clothes and bring the note with you. Show it to everyone and say "Someone invited me to be their date at the dance! I wonder who it could be," If someone doesn't say they did, look around for someone who looks nervous or shy because they could be embarrassed about their feelings. If they don't reveal themselves, just dance by yourself or with your friends.

For the handwriting, you could probably ask every kid in your class, or at least the ones you'd likely suspect, to write a sentence and compare it with the handwriting on the note. Keep in mind that, an admirer who wants to remain secret might disguise their handwriting, and many people have similar handwriting. You might just have to wait until more notes arrive and you can figure out more that they reveal.

If there are no obvious clues as to who the admirer is, then nothing really embarrassing will happen since there's no proof who did it. But if there are some hints (such as your crush acting nervous around you), then your crush will likely be the laughingstock of the entire class, depending on the factors, traits, personality, etc.

Tell a trusted adult about it like a teacher, parent, etc. If it gets really bad, get law authorities involved.

Talk to them in a suitable location and explain in a friendly way that you have no romantic feelings for them, but you still like them as a friend. If you're not a bully about it or a fake friend, they should accept your feelings.

That means your crush is really embarrassed about their feelings toward you, so they want their crush on you to be secret from everyone (so when you find who your admirer is, don't tell anyone else about it until your crush says it's okay). Make sure you read and examine every note you receive from them so you can find who your crush is. If you find out your admirer, and your friends/classmates know about the notes, you could lie and say you never found them, like they lost interest.

Talk privately with your friend about how she feels. You can suggest the idea of her being a secret admirer if she doesn't want to reveal her feelings to her crush yet.

There is a good chance that a prank will be over-the-top and seem insincere, like 'I love you, I melt when I see you.' A real one is more like, 'I think that you are really smart and hot. Maybe we could go out sometime, if you find out who I am.' Also, if people start teasing you or laughing near you, that's a sign it's a prank. So it's best not to react too excitedly or publicly, just in case someone is trying to fool you.

This is a tough situation. Your crush might not even like either of you, but if they like your friend, don't end your friendship. This is not a good reason to stop being friends. If your crush likes you, don't tell your friend about all the great times you have with your crush. They will already be jealous of you, so don't make it worse. You might also consider making a pact where neither of you date the person, just so there aren't any issues in your friendship.