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    What are some good questions to break the ice?
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    Music is a great topic to chat about. Feel free to ask something like "Are you listening to any cool music right now?"
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    How do you have a deep, meaningful conversation?
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    Try asking some interesting but probing questions. Queries like "What are you thinking about all day?" "What are you focusing on?" and "What are your biggest goals in life?" are some great ways to learn about what's important to them.
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    This seems like stalking.
    Betsy Arant
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    When you're finding out more about your crush, it's very important to respect their privacy, even if the information you've found is public. You should aim to find out what you might have in common with them so you can try to get to know them in person, but don't go overboard trying to learn every detail of their life. It's better to be direct and let them know how you feel as soon as possible. You should never physically follow someone or invade their privacy, and if your crush tells you that they're uncomfortable with your behavior, respect their wishes and leave them alone.
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    Are you sure this won't make me look like a complete stalker? I try to do these things and people think I'm stalking him.
    Betsy Arant
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    It's important to respect your crush's privacy, and you shouldn't try to find any information about your crush that they wouldn't feel comfortable sharing. Just remember that the point of finding out more about your crush is to decide whether you really like them and what you might have in common. Once you know that, it's time to either make a move or move on. If you can't get up the nerve to talk to them, or if they don't seem interested in you, you won't get any closer to them by checking their Instagram feed or hanging out with their friends.
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    Is there any other ways to find your crushe's number?
    Betsy Arant
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    It's generally best to avoid calling or texting your crush unless they have given you their number directly.
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    So, me and my friend have a crush on the same guy and we've been stalking him. And he saw us. But he saw me most of the time. So he might think I'm creepy. How to not be creepy? His smile is just
    Betsy Arant
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    If you are actually "stalking" him, or physically following him around, you should respect his privacy and leave him alone. If you are worried about being creepy, it's always better to be direct and just strike up a conversation rather than watching him from afar. You won't run the risk of seeming creepy, and you'll find out sooner whether he likes you back.
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