Q&A for How to Get Over Being Cheated On

It can. It takes time, and you definitely have to be patient, but this is absolutely something you can work through. I would recommend going to see a therapist or counselor, though. It often really helps to have that neutral space to process and express yourself while you're working through this.

First, you should recognize that what you're feeling is totally normal. That's a natural response to being cheated on. Second, you have to internalize that this isn't your fault. You did nothing wrong. Even if the two of you were fighting or not getting along, you didn't cause this. It takes time, but once those two realizations set in, you'll stop feeling so insecure.

Absolutely. It can feel like it's impossible right now, but it's certainly something you can work through if that's what you want. However, I would 100% recommend the two of you get counseling. It's possible to work through this on your own, but it can be challenging without some professional help.

First, that's a really hard situation to be in, so know that it's okay if you're having a tough time with it. If the two of you are going to try to make things work, ask him if it's possible to look for a new job or transfer to a different department. If he's not willing to do that, he should be willing to do other things to reassure you—like letting you see his texts or emails and telling you where he is when he's not around you. Once you're able to build trust back, you might back off some of those things, but it's an important part of the healing process. Also, consider seeing a therapist or joining a support group so you'll have a safe place to talk about this.

If you haven't confronted her, that's the first thing you should do. Sit down with her and let her know that you saw her video, then give her a chance to explain what happened. If you've already done that, it's a good idea to get counseling so you can figure out how to move forward.

Take some time away from him to deal with your feelings. If he wants to fight for your relationship, think about what you would need in order to trust him again, and don't settle for anything less than that.

That betrayal probably hurts twice as much because both people were close to you. It's going to take time for that pain to heal. It's a good idea to talk to a counselor who can help you process your feelings.