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Everyone says I hug strangely. I have bony shoulders and am a taller girl so I usually end up stabbing people in the neck awkwardly without meaning to. Any tips on how to hug like a normal person?

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Make your motion gradual. Placing your hands on the other person's shoulder helps as a buffer.

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If you don't like people touching you, but you still don't want to say no or deny the persons hug, what do you do?

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You are always allowed to decline a hug, and if done politely (by raising your hand, showing the palm, as a barrier, for example), no one will ever be annoyed with you. If the person knows you well enough to want to hug you, he must be able to understand that you don't like it.

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My BFF likes my guy best friend. Should I still hug him or will she think I like him too?

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Assuming you don't like him, there's nothing wrong with you hugging him. If she asks you about it, just tell her you only like him as a friend. She should understand.

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How do I hug an adult? I'm a young girl.

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Usually, the adult will acknowledge the hug before you, if so , wrap your arms around their shoulders and lightly place your head on their shoulder, looking away from the neck.

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What if I have to hug a guy I like, but he doesn't like me, and the only reason I'm doing it is because he wanted a hug?

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Just give him a platonic/friendly hug. Don't get too carried away. Hug him just the way you'd hug anyone else. Lean forward, without your chest or lower stomach touching him a lot, and wrap your hands around his chest/shoulders. It's simple.

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I am a girl and my best friend is a guy. He has a girlfriend, so we have never hugged. Shouldn't we be able to hug each other as best friends when we need support?

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Yes, you should. If his girlfriend does not let you hug him, she must be really possessive. Being controlling often shows that she is afraid of him leaving her for you.

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How do I hug a guy that I like, and who likes me, but has a girlfriend who is my friend?

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Keep hugs brief and lean in from your hips, so your pelvises aren't touching during the hugs.

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How do I practice giving good hugs?

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Practice with family members or close friends. If you mess up something, they won't be judgmental.

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A guy that seems to like me gives me hugs and asks for them, and I never seem to know how to or where to put my arms. What do I do?

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Just hug him as you would hug a family member. In a friendly way, I usually just put my arms slightly on their shoulders when I hug my friends.

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My casual friend molested me in the form of an intimate surprise hug from the back, how do I ask him to not do it again if 'no' doesn't work?

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Explain why it cannot happen again. Say you did not feel comfortable in the situation and ask him not to do it again politely. Also, let him know that if it happens again, you'll tell your mutual friends and ask them to stand between the two of you each time.

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How do I tell someone they're mean for not hugging me?

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If someone doesn’t want to hug you, it doesn’t mean they’re mean. Maybe they feel differently about hugging than you do, so try instead to respect their boundaries just as much as your desire to be hugged. Hugging only feels good when the other person is involved, so you’re better off hugging someone who likes hugs. Some people find them uncomfortable, confining and even scary, so don't assume anything about someone not wanting to be hugged.

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