Q&A for How to Go Out with a Guy As Just a Friend

Definitely! The key is treating each other like friends rather than offering romantic compliments or flirtatious comments.

If he's your friend, go for it! If you're the one throwing the party, make sure any activities are fun for everyone (no makeovers, etc., unless he's into that). If it's someone else's party, just make sure he feels included with whatever's going on. Tell him ahead of time that he will be the only guy, and he can decide for himself if he wants to go.

Play video games or watch a movie. Think about what he likes. If he likes eating or baking, make cookies. If he likes board games, do that.

Think of something you guys could do together, and ask him specifically if he would like to do that activity. For example, "Do you want to come over and [watch YouTube, play video games, listen to music, etc.]."

Just say something like, "Hey, do you wanna go to ____ later?" If he asks if it's a date, say no. Just keep it casual.

Maybe she thinks that's private information and none of your business, or maybe it just didn't come up. She might also have assumed you knew she had a boyfriend (which it sounds like you did).

He may be playing hard to get, or he may genuinely not be interested in the conversation. You could try asking him a question that you know you could build upon. You shouldn't have to do all the work and carry the conversation, though. If he repeatedly answers with one or two word replies, just drop the conversation.

Boys can be immature and they don't know how to express their feelings appropriately sometimes. I advise you to stay away from boys who act like this. They don't all do it.

If you've mentioned to him a couple of times that you're married, it's safe.

Just tell him. "Hey, I want to go to the movies, I'd like you to come along, but I am sure that I don't want to get back together. Do you feel okay with that?"

It can include dinner, if you want it to and plan in advance with her for the time and money. Totally up to you. Dinner provides a nice opportunity to talk and get to know each other better that a movie doesn't.

Keep things casual. If he likes video games, ask him if he wants to go check out GameStop with you. If he's not into that, maybe just ask him to go to a movie with you. If he asks why you asked him, you can say that your friend canceled last minute.

If she's worried, just tell her everything will be fine and let her know she can ask any question she wants. You may want to ask her if she actually wants to have sex, or is just too afraid to say no. If she wants to back out, let her. Just be supportive and caring.

Maybe just wear tight leggings and a hoodie along with Nike gym shoes or cute boots. Stay casual.

Wait for some of the drama to subside and then talk to him. Tell him that you understand he doesn't like you that way and that you just want to be friends. Then ask him to play video games with you.

Just ask him! Be brave and confident, it will impress him. If he says no, accept it and move on. But you'll never know what could happen if you don't try.

If you're asking him out as a friend, you can jokingly broach the subject like, "Hey, would you like to meet up for a coffee together? You know, just to hang out - not like a date or anything." To avoid trouble you might want to make that clear. If you're asking him out as a date, you must approach it seriously, such as, "Hey, I've been kind of into you for a while and I was wondering if you wanted to go out sometime...?"

Having a crush doesn't mean you love someone. It sounds like your friend is just a big flirt. Guys especially like to flirt with their female friends because they feel comfortable around them and don't worry so much about rejection. If it bothers you, ask him to stop.

No matter what the relationship is between you two, it is always important that both people know this. If he likes you, you can't really go ahead and preemptively dump him by saying, "Look, I want to go to this movie, but it's not a date", because it assumes he's going to want to date you. Instead, use signals to clearly let him know it's not a date. Wear a turtleneck, keep your distance, mention specifically that he's a friend, lean away from him as you're seated. Or postpone the movie until the others can go along. If he does flirt, then you can kindly let him know you're not feeling that way right now.

Talk to him like you would in a group. He's most likely made it clear to his parents that there is nothing going on between you, but if his (or your) parents pepper you with questions about your "relationship", simply tell them that you are just friends.

Learn a new board game, get massages together, go indoor skiing, invent a city game, pause a murder mystery movie halfway and really discuss and try to find whodunit, brainstorm ideas for the best and most epic Halloween ever, try parkour, go kite surfing, learn origami, just spend time together quietly, write a novel by each in turn writing the next sentence (it's hilarious!), learn a new card game, solve a mate-in-three chess problem together, learn how to juggle, learn how to solve the Rubik's Cube, learn watermelon sculpture carving...

Go to the movies, be friends. Look inside yourself: do you feel you want to be friends? If yes, be friends. Do you feel more? Keep that option open, get to know each other, and see if those feelings grow. But if he says you're friends, then he should behave as friends. If he wants to love you, he should sense if you'd like that too and if so, ask to go as a date, not as friends. If he does have feelings, it's up to him to do something about it. Unless you have feelings, then it's equally up to you. But it's just a movie; enjoy it together and let all these complications rest.