Q&A for How to Have a Long Passionate Kiss With Your Girlfriend/Boyfriend

Return to Full Article

Coming soon

Add New Question

Question

What should you not do while kissing?

Eddy Baller
Dating Coach
Eddy Baller is a Dating Coach and the Owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win, based in Vancouver, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills, and relationships. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others.

Eddy Baller

Dating Coach

Expert Answer

Try not to bump into each other during the kiss. You want your lips to lock together, not be doing their own things.

Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
Yes No

Not Helpful 8 Helpful 23
Question

What if I like the girl but I don’t know if she likes me? I think it’s kind of awkward. I have three crushes.

wikiHow Staff Editor
Staff Answer
This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.

wikiHow Staff Editor

Staff Answer

It's okay to have more than one crush! But if you're going to pursue a girl, it's probably best to focus on the one you like the best. If you don't know if she likes you, try flirting with her a bit. You might give her compliment or try gently brushing against her in the hall. If she makes a lot of eye contact, she compliments you back, or she goes out of her way to be around you, she probably likes you.

Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
Yes No

Not Helpful 11 Helpful 19
Question

Is It ok if I don't make the first move if I'm the guy?

wikiHow Staff Editor
Staff Answer
This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.

wikiHow Staff Editor

Staff Answer

Yes, that's totally fine. You shouldn't feel compelled to make the first move if you aren't comfortable with that, and it doesn't matter whether a guy or girl goes first. Just keep in mind, if she's not confident enough to make the first move, you may end up in a situation where nobody does anything!

Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
Yes No

Not Helpful 5 Helpful 13
Question

How do you initiate a kiss if you are shy?

wikiHow Staff Editor
Staff Answer
This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.

wikiHow Staff Editor

Staff Answer

If the other person is interested in you, try to just force yourself to make the move on one kiss! This is one of those things that gets a lot easier if you can do it once and see it's not all that scary. As far as initiation goes, try holding hands first. When you're ready, turn to face them and just go for it!

Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
Yes No

Not Helpful 2 Helpful 6
Question

How can I turn this into sex if we want?

wikiHow Staff Editor
Staff Answer
This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.

wikiHow Staff Editor

Staff Answer

You should talk to your partner about having sex. That isn't something you just work towards without discussion and consent first.

Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
Yes No

Not Helpful 3 Helpful 13
Question

What if there is people around and I'm shy?

wikiHow Staff Editor
Staff Answer
This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.

wikiHow Staff Editor

Staff Answer

Unless you're playing spin the bottle, kissing is more of a private activity. Try taking your partner somewhere where people won't be able to watch you two smooch. Remember, it's likely that your partner is just as uncomfortable with people watching as you are.

Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
Yes No

Not Helpful 2 Helpful 6
Question

What if your partner doesn't want to stop kissing?

wikiHow Staff Editor
Staff Answer
This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.

wikiHow Staff Editor

Staff Answer

Ask your partner if you two can do something else. If they really aren't letting up, just say, "No." You should never keep kissing someone if you're uncomfortable.

Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
Yes No

Not Helpful 1 Helpful 9
Question

What if it leads to a fight?

wikiHow Staff Editor
Staff Answer
This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.

wikiHow Staff Editor

Staff Answer

If there's even a remote possibility that you're going to get into a fight over a kiss, it's not a wise idea to go for the kiss in the first place.

Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
Yes No

Not Helpful 0 Helpful 7
Question

Can you leave your tongue in their mouth for a long time?

wikiHow Staff Editor
Staff Answer
This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.

wikiHow Staff Editor

Staff Answer

If your partner is into it and you're a fan, go for it! So long as the two of you are consenting, it's fine to kiss however you'd like.

Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
Yes No

Not Helpful 3 Helpful 6
Question

I am a really shy person, and I think my boyfriend wants me to make the first move. How would I go about it?

wikiHow Staff Editor
Staff Answer
This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.

wikiHow Staff Editor

Staff Answer

If you and your boyfriend are dating, it's safe to assume they're into the idea of kissing you. Wait for a moment when the two of you are cuddling or holding hands alone and just go for it! If you can force yourself to get over the initial fear, it'll be a lot easier in the future.

Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
Yes No

Not Helpful 0 Helpful 7
Question

What if you're shy and don't really know how or when to do it?

Karley Snyder

Community Answer

If you're shy, that's okay! Your boyfriend or girlfriend will likely want to kiss you too. Make the first move yourself, or be flirty to try to get them to make the move first!

Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
Yes No

Not Helpful 13 Helpful 121
Question

What if the boy starts to unhook my bra?

Karley Snyder

Community Answer

If you are uncomfortable with him taking off your bra, tell him. Say, "I only want to kiss now," or something similar. Kissing doesn't have to lead to sex.

Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
Yes No

Not Helpful 28 Helpful 121
Question

How many minutes should we keep kissing?

Karley Snyder

Community Answer

The amount of time of your kiss will depend on what is comfortable for you and your partner. A long, steamy makeout session can last anywhere from 5 minutes to 1 hour. Aim to kiss for 15-30 minutes to get started.

Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
Yes No

Not Helpful 14 Helpful 94
Question

What if your partner is not comfortable with the kiss?

Karley Snyder

Community Answer

If your partner seems uncomfortable, talk about it. Maybe they are worried the kiss will lead to further action. Assure them that you care about them, and let them express their feelings about the kiss. After talking to them, give them a hug to show your love. Likely, after you talk out the emotion, they will be okay with kissing deeply.

Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
Yes No

Not Helpful 11 Helpful 63
Question

How do you know what kind of kiss they want?

Karley Snyder

Community Answer

This will take some practice and communication. For example, pay attention to your partner's body language and cues to determine what they like. If your partner pulls you back for more, moans, or kisses you deeper, they likely enjoy the kiss. Then, you can continue to kiss them with the technique you are using. If you are unsure, try a few different methods and ask your partner what they like best!

Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
Yes No

Not Helpful 9 Helpful 42
Question

Can this turn into sex?

Karley Snyder

Community Answer

As long as you and your partner are both comfortable, a long kiss can easily become more passionate. Make sure this is okay with your partner before you move forward.

Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
Yes No

Not Helpful 10 Helpful 67