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    What does a mature relationship mean?
    Klare Heston, LCSW
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    Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).
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    A mature relationship is one where you are open, honest, direct, and don't play games. You respect the other person, and they respect you.
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    What is maturity in a relationship?
    Klare Heston, LCSW
    Licensed Social Worker
    Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).
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    Maturity in a relationship is acting like a responsible adult. It may mean talking openly about birth control or making sure you get home in time because you have to get up early the next morning. It may just mean paying an honest compliment.
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    What is mature love and immature love?
    Klare Heston, LCSW
    Licensed Social Worker
    Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).
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    Mature love is based on two people who are equals and who take one another into account. They are not afraid to open up about feelings or have difficult conversations. In immature love, one or both parties are idealistic or unrealistic about what the relationship is. They might expect 100% perfection from the other person.
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    What are the signs of emotional immaturity?
    Klare Heston, LCSW
    Licensed Social Worker
    Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).
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    Some of the signs are open communication, tact, fairness, consideration, thoughtfulness, and sharing.
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    My boyfriend is pressuring me to tell my parents about us. I told him i m not ready but he insists.
    Klare Heston, LCSW
    Licensed Social Worker
    Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).
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    Telling your parents about a relationship you are in is your choice. Just like telling your partner's is your partner's choice. This is a communication problem in and of itself! If there is pressure early on about this, what might be next? It sounds like the two of you need to learn to communicate better better before mixing families into it. Try starting with "I" statements, taking turns talking, and repeating back what the other has just said. Also keep the tone respectful and calm.
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