Q&A for How to Improve Your Mother Daughter Relationship

Ask your daughter directly what she needs from you! For instance, does she want to have more conversations with you? Just asking direct questions and having her respond back can be helpful.

Talk to your mom. See if there is anything she wants that she does not already get from you. Make an extra effort to do nice things for her if you can.

This is uncomfortable because you are allowing yourself to be distracted by it, and your acute awareness is exaggerating the significance of it. Seeing a Hispanic woman with a Caucasian person is not a very unusual event, so it is strange that people are "staring" at you. Ignore your instinct to be on the defensive, and focus on your daughter. Let other people think whatever they want.

If she wants to be alone, respect that. Give her the alone time she needs. For now, doing anything else will just make matters worse. When she is ready, you can gently bring up your behavior and talk about what to do about it.

Don't worry, siblings always want the limelight. Don't worry about them, and keep working on yourself. Get good grades, and maybe enroll in an after school club or sport. There is almost certainly something you are better at than your sisters, so try to find that thing, but don't make it a competition. Just worry about yourself.

When you do see her, start a conversation and see where it goes. Play a board game. Try to make her laugh. If you smile a lot it'll encourage her, maybe.

Talk to her! The last thing a mother wants is for her child to feel neglected. Understand that your sister does need more attention, but you deserve a healthy relationship with your mom. Maybe you can spend time with both of them together.

Talk to your parents. Explain how you feel. Ask them how you can better live up to their expectations. Tell them what you want more of and see if, together, you can come up with a solution that works for all of you.

Try to find some time where your siblings are out of the way and you can set aside your schoolwork to hangout. Schedule this into your week ahead of time. Maybe you could take a cooking class or join a book club together, something you can do for fun just the two of you.

If your mom is abusing you, you should tell a trusted adult immediately. This is not ok.

Perhaps your mom is having problems of her own that you are unaware of. However, she is still your mom; if you have a problem, she has to help. Offer her your help, then ask for hers in return.

You should not want to die over a scolding. Just tell your mom you're sorry for whatever you did or said, and that it won't happen again in the future. She loves you and she will forgive you.

The two are unrelated. You're not dating this man just to be able to show your mom how good your life is going, you're dating him because you like to date him. You don't have to tell your mom if you don't want to. That has nothing to do with how she treats you. It will soon get high time that you stand up against this. Don't be mean or cruel or rude, just be firm. Say, "Mom, stop it. You're always putting me down and calling me names, I've had enough."

When parents have the first baby, it receives 100% of their love. However, when they have their second child, they do not take away 50% from the first and give that to the second. No, they make a whole new batch of 100% love and give that to the second child. Your mom doesn't love your sister more because of what you do or do not do, it's mom-sister 100% and mom-you 100%. Try your best to avoid doing bad things. Tell your mom you love her, then tell her again. The bad things you do are obstacles on the path your mom's love takes to reach you.

Talk to your daughter and let her know how this is hurting you. Tell her you don't think it's fair that you should miss out on seeing her because she doesn't like her stepdad. You might also like to ask her if there is a neutral place you can both meet up to talk and see each other regularly if she feels uncomfortable coming around to your place.

Expect that she'll feel a little shy and awkward, and that this is okay and perfectly normal. Pretend she's just your friend for now. Find out her interests, her likes and dislikes, and relate to her. It will get easier over time.

Apologizing is the best thing you can do. Then it's up to her. Some people just need some time.

If your attempts to improve your relationship aren't working, it may be time to just give her distance. Try the methods in Deal With a Selfish Mother , and recognize that there are just some bad, self-centered parents out there that aren't worth the emotional or physical effort of maintaining a relationship (which, as you've experienced, will only be one-way anyway). Some of us have to distance ourselves from our parents--go no-contact, even--in order to protect our mental health. There's no shame in that, especially since you've made efforts that haven't been reciprocated.

Unfortunately, parents can play favorites and abuse one child while treating the other much better. This is called the Scapegoat and Golden Child Dynamic. It's a hallmark sign of abusive parents. You cannot have a better relationship with your mom if she doesn't want the same. It's depressing, but you can't force someone to love you, even a person who is supposed to. This is not your fault, it is her choice alone. Look after yourself and follow your own goals to get where you want to in life; you'll gather people who really care about you as you go along in life.

You can trying to do you things together that she likes. Also, you can teach her some of the things that you do or tell her about family history and what your forebears used to do or were known fo. Then the two of you will have many things in common.

You can't make a person do something they don't want to do. It is a choice to love your children, and in this case, it seems that your mother chooses to not care. There is no excuse for this behavior; either you love your children or you don't. What is important is for you to realize that you matter despite her lack of care for you and not to put yourself down. Remember, this is her choice to be uncaring, it is not about you, it's about her and you are still important. Try to spend more time around your friends' moms who probably care for you as their child's friend, which is better than nothing.

Nothing. If you try to push her with your ideas and wishes, she'll keep not listening to you. She's independent, it's time to accept that this is a healthy and good trait that will set her in good stead for her future adulthood.

Go live with your dad. No relationship should have "good" days and then "screaming" days. That's not healthy at all.

Ask her if you and she can talk, and just let her know that you understand that she is part of the family, and you would like to get to know her better, and want to include her in family gatherings. Remember, it is nice to have one mother but sometimes having two mothers is the greatest feeling in the world, so make the most of the opportunity!

Try telling your mother that you want to make up. It's understandable for her to be skeptical of your relationship with her. However, if she's being unreasonably upset, tell her that you are trying your best to be better. If she really loves you, then she should try to be a little more patient.

Although she may not be showing it, she will come around again. Her hormones might be driving her mad at the moment and she is taking it out at you, it's normal! Maybe offer to go shopping or to the movies together or have tea one on one. Talk about things you know she is interested in. Also, a good thing might to be to buy her something she has always wanted so you get the reaction like "Mum, thank you thank you!" And remember she still loves you even if she taking it out on you!

Without context, this seems like your mom's problem. If you're doing something obviously bad which is making her dislike you, try to correct your methods. If you're doing/being the best you can but she still doesn't like you, that's on her. If it is possible, have a conversation with her on why the things are the way they are.

Try to make time for your daughter. Many people's regrets at old age is not enough time with their loved one. If that is not possible, try to make as much out of the time you spend with her. Before going to work, give her compliments. After coming back sit next to her even if you're doing something else. If your daughter is old enough to have a phone, text her during breaks at work.

Compliment her from time to time. Not every 2 months, though. About every 2-3 weeks, or whenever she needs a boost-up. When your older sister's away, try to watch a movie with your mom. You can do a comedy movie, or, if you really want to, a horror movie. Or talk about things you've done in the past that made your mom laugh. Hopefully, doing these things will help bring you closer together. And be sure to finish your chores on time and without being prompted.